Aries Man Says He Needs Space
Posted by grae64
Leove - I am so sorry this is happening to you too - Nice - good people deserve nice good things/people but it just doesn't always happen like that. I am almost 50 and so is he so I am sure that is playing into a lot of this...I just hate to see all the others involved getting hurt too. My kids are grown, they will be fine, but 2 of his are still fairly young and if nothing else I really hope he doesn't just pull someone new right into their lives...Not saying I am perfect, but you always have to think of those babies, no matter how old they are.
peaceloveandhappiness and I share the same thoughts and ideas. grae64 and leove, you both seem like lovely women, so I'm trying to understand why if a man says " he can't confirm if this will be "temporary or permanent space " that you can't see the writing on the wall. Even if he returns, just the mere thought that he can walk in and out of your life when he wants is enough to make me re-think the whole relationship. You decided to hang in there with him while he was sick and shut in, and his appreciation to you is he needs time to think about the relationship now that he's feeling better?
I think in a situation like this, I'll just go ahead and make the decision for him. Life is too darn short to play mind games. I just think it's pretty selfish if an Aries man or any man for that matter, and especially at age 50 can't make up his mind about what he wants in a relationship. I thought with age~~comes wisdom? He would be simply foolish to let someone like you get away. There has to be a better way of communicating other than saying " I need some space right now, and I can't guarantee if the space will be temporary or permanent" Who does that at this age??? I dunno...seems very immature to me. However, if this is a true characteristic of an Aries man, then God Bless you.....you must have unwavering patience. I just think you both deserve much better than that
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