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Jan 03, 2014Comments: 14 · Posts: 885 · Topics: 3
BTW, I'm listening to Eddie Rabbit right now. Is he a relation?
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What is wrong with kneading dough?
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Feb 11, 2010Comments: 252 · Posts: 38715 · Topics: 473
That's all you remember of me?
smh
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Nov 20, 2013Comments: 1 · Posts: 267 · Topics: 11
Yea OP I was just having this conversation with myself as I too think the exact same thing and have seen it proven repeatedly. Though I recognize that I both consciouly and unconsciously do things to people I care about to see if this will be the thing that will finally make them leave. In my recent self analysis I've realized that this is stemming from a deep seated fear of abandonment. I'm basically pushing them away because I know they're eventually going to leave and I cant seem to take the pressure of wondering when its going to happen. So that's my vain attempt to try to control the abandonment... it's messed up I know. What's worse is even though I recognize the issue and the cause of it. I have no idea how to stop doing it... short of completely stop dating all together.
I met a cancer man on a dating website and we spoke online for 6 weeks before actually meeting each other. The chemistry was instant from the very beginning. He told me that he had met a few people prior and it did not work out so he wanted to do things differently. He expressed to me that when he likes someone he gives them all the attention and forgets everyone else and he didn't want to do that again. He made it clear he still would be dating. I agreed with it. This was my first time online dating so I would be doing the same. Things were going great between us. He talked to me about his kids and sent me pics of them. He shared some of the problems he was having and he also shred things about his childhood in regards to his mom. His mom passed away in 2012. We spoke all the time and as time passed by he said he had to talk to me. He is a great communicator. After 2 months of dating he came to me and said he wanted to be exclusive and no longer wanted to date other people. I agreed because I had already removed my profile. By the third month I noticed he still has his profile up but was not on the site. I asked him about it and he said he does not use it. I asked him how many sites he was on and he said four. I was really bothered. When I went on them I noticed he would be on sometimes. I spoke to him about it and he said I am not removing them. Anytime we spoke about things that I had a problem with we would talk about it and things would be addressed. I was very confused why he would not address this. So I spoke with him and asked why is he still online and he tried to reassure me he was deleting notifications. Anyway, he also stArted to become distant to me and when I asked he said no. He stopped calling at nights and when he did it would be for 5minutes. He said his job was keeping him late nights and he would very tired. I was married to a cancer for 11 years so I know that they like their space so I let it be. He text all the time but would pacify me by calling and talking for five minutes. One night I noticed he was on one of the sites for over 30 minutes and I called him and spoke to him about it and broke up with him. I thought about things and felt like I handled it wrong since we were only dating for a short time. I really liked him. This guy always told me he loved me and when we were together it showed. I waited a week and sent a text of apology and told him that I think I handled things wrong. He answered and said he wished I believed in me
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Nov 20, 2013Comments: 1 · Posts: 267 · Topics: 11
My bad not an Aires...just happened to see the post on the home page.