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Sep 30, 2011Comments: 712 · Posts: 13125 · Topics: 157
I find that sometimes the best advice is given by those who do not know how to handle their own business...be it directly or indirectly. Everybody is a source of good advice imo if you watch very carefully. They don't have to tell you what to do, you just watch what they do & if it's working against them, then there's your "advice" right there. Nobody has the authority/rights to give advice because life is unkind to all of us...all we can do is learn from each other. From everybody. Someone at some point might have gone through what you're currently going through & just because they have a history of failure doesn't mean you can't learn a thing or two from their fuck ups.
Btw, I don't ever listen to "perfect" people with "perfect" lives...I like the truly damaged people to learn how to not be that messed up myself. A miserable friend in an unhappy relationship can teach you about letting bad relationships go by simply observing how their situation is taking so much out of them.
I don't think I'd ever want anybody's perfect life or relationship because my imperfect world was designed especially for me, to learn the necessary tools that lead to a better ME. Making mistakes is not a bad thing, it's good.
A baby falls several times before they can walk properly & no amount of preventing it is going to stop it from happening. It's a natural process. Through the many falls, the bones/joints strengthen. That's the beauty of life.