How to Get Away From Aries...
I want to thank everyone so far for their comments. :-)
I've thought about pretending that I want marriage/commitment/babies but I'm just not good at pretending. :-/
Purplehaze I definitely appreciated your feedback. Not rude at all. I've been in the same situation with someone where they were still emotionally attached to their ex in a negative or positive way and it ruined our relationship. I'm also aware of many women(and men) who just looooooooove the attention they get from certain exes. I've never been that way and have burned many a bridge myself. I've actually changed numbers and relocated a couple of times before to get away, but with 2 kids now it's not so easy to do that.
I've also been in the situation of getting restraining orders and know that this is not that type of situation. He doesn't call me enough for it to be considered harassment, he has never physically hurt me or threatened to, and as far as I know he doesn't park outside my home or stalk me. The last time I spoke with him it was only because he called from an unfamiliar number, otherwise I was avoiding his calls. At that time I was much less than friendly and told him repeatedly and in no uncertain terms that I don't want any kind of contact with him. I'm really just tired of his bottomless pit of selfishness and neediness. We have known each other since high school so some of those characteristics were kind of ok then, now he's 33 and in the same mental and emotional state that he was in when he was 18. I'm 30 now and can appreciate the good qualities of people much better, but on the flip side, I *REFUSE* to tolerate poor treatment from anyone.
When I posted I was hoping for some easy way to talk to him to get him to see that I *really* don't want to have any contact with him without having to go to the measure of changing my phone number etc. But I may end up having to do that anyway.
If anyone has any more to offer please do. :-)
Thanks again.
I've thought about pretending that I want marriage/commitment/babies but I'm just not good at pretending. :-/
Purplehaze I definitely appreciated your feedback. Not rude at all. I've been in the same situation with someone where they were still emotionally attached to their ex in a negative or positive way and it ruined our relationship. I'm also aware of many women(and men) who just looooooooove the attention they get from certain exes. I've never been that way and have burned many a bridge myself. I've actually changed numbers and relocated a couple of times before to get away, but with 2 kids now it's not so easy to do that.
I've also been in the situation of getting restraining orders and know that this is not that type of situation. He doesn't call me enough for it to be considered harassment, he has never physically hurt me or threatened to, and as far as I know he doesn't park outside my home or stalk me. The last time I spoke with him it was only because he called from an unfamiliar number, otherwise I was avoiding his calls. At that time I was much less than friendly and told him repeatedly and in no uncertain terms that I don't want any kind of contact with him. I'm really just tired of his bottomless pit of selfishness and neediness. We have known each other since high school so some of those characteristics were kind of ok then, now he's 33 and in the same mental and emotional state that he was in when he was 18. I'm 30 now and can appreciate the good qualities of people much better, but on the flip side, I *REFUSE* to tolerate poor treatment from anyone.
When I posted I was hoping for some easy way to talk to him to get him to see that I *really* don't want to have any contact with him without having to go to the measure of changing my phone number etc. But I may end up having to do that anyway.
If anyone has any more to offer please do. :-)
Thanks again.
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no bubble bath!!! i would go for something music related...or some kind of experience that she can share with you and keep the memories...like a concert, play, outdoor adventure..something like that. we like it when people want to spend time.
the cell phone isnt bad though.
the cell phone isnt bad though.
TC, that's funny! I'm at the beginning stages of a relationship and it's hard. He's an Aqua...very nice guy and I'm not really paying attention to all the non-compatibility between Taurus/Aqua because I want to develop this relationship on my own (although this Aqua told me last week that he's just looking for friends yet his actions and words imply something more serious).
You're right about being driven by paranoia even when radar isn't getting anything...
You're right about being driven by paranoia even when radar isn't getting anything...
Cancer ...we aim to please.
Come on? this year ..?? Its not finished yet?lol
Butt? Syriana was great.. also The Da Vinci Code? Brian Flemming - The God Who Wasn't There?
More to say..?? YES? few movies have moved me the best of all? in history..
1. Chaplin.
2. The fisher king..
3. The fabulous bake boy.
4. Baraka.
5- Forest Gump
6- L?on
7- Dances with Wolves.
8 - The Last Temptation of Christ
9- American pshyco
Damn.. 300 more?
Sigh..
Butt? Syriana was great.. also The Da Vinci Code? Brian Flemming - The God Who Wasn't There?
More to say..?? YES? few movies have moved me the best of all? in history..
1. Chaplin.
2. The fisher king..
3. The fabulous bake boy.
4. Baraka.
5- Forest Gump
6- L?on
7- Dances with Wolves.
8 - The Last Temptation of Christ
9- American pshyco
Damn.. 300 more?
Sigh..
Message posted by: Aprilbaby on 6/9/2006 12:48:36 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.254
We are on the Libra board, and I saw a lot of Librans making rationalizations for their behavior instead of taking responsibility for their actions.
Mmmm this is a difficult comment to make really unless you are fully sure you can justify that it is not something that we all do, including you, as I would say it is potentially an element of human behaviour.
I also wouldn't necessarily call withholding information or not sharing concerns, thinking of the other person...I just call it not being honest and copping out.
I would be inclined to say, that it would depend on what the information that you withold concern, in the case of the original post, My personal view is that it would not have been necessary, at that stage, to advise the partner about her feelings.
I would also be inclined to comment on the aspect on whether the girls actions could be equated to 'mental cheating' by saying that I would be very surprised and difficult to convince, whether anyone, including yourself, can say with the greatest conviction, that they have not at sometime, found others outwith their relationship desirable, I would say it is part of al our natures. Would it indeed be unreasonable to expect that it didn't happen.I think so. I know for a fact that my husband flirts with and finds other women attractive, I don't get hung up about it, if I did it would likely drive me mad, I accept that it happens, it does not mean that he does not love or find me attractive.......
Regards
We are on the Libra board, and I saw a lot of Librans making rationalizations for their behavior instead of taking responsibility for their actions.
Mmmm this is a difficult comment to make really unless you are fully sure you can justify that it is not something that we all do, including you, as I would say it is potentially an element of human behaviour.
I also wouldn't necessarily call withholding information or not sharing concerns, thinking of the other person...I just call it not being honest and copping out.
I would be inclined to say, that it would depend on what the information that you withold concern, in the case of the original post, My personal view is that it would not have been necessary, at that stage, to advise the partner about her feelings.
I would also be inclined to comment on the aspect on whether the girls actions could be equated to 'mental cheating' by saying that I would be very surprised and difficult to convince, whether anyone, including yourself, can say with the greatest conviction, that they have not at sometime, found others outwith their relationship desirable, I would say it is part of al our natures. Would it indeed be unreasonable to expect that it didn't happen.I think so. I know for a fact that my husband flirts with and finds other women attractive, I don't get hung up about it, if I did it would likely drive me mad, I accept that it happens, it does not mean that he does not love or find me attractive.......
Regards
Message posted by: Aprilbaby on 6/9/2006 11:31:12 PM
i mean if im pissed off at something i would let my BF know and we talk about it... thatz the only way u can make it work...and if hes the kind who doesnt want to 'talk' thingz over... FINE..... leave him...
I don't really feel that the original post was relating to non communication in general, merely about a specific situation and the emotions that went with it. It is certainly pleasing when a realionship works on all levels and I agree that communication is a vital part of it's success. But again I feel that relationships are not cut and dried and situations do arise, as i am sure you will find out as your relationship progresses. We all deal withthings differently, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Personally I am a Libra woman who has been married for 14 yrs so it would be nice if people acknowledged that Librians often do have long successful relationships
Finally someone who said something that made sense
I think we all eac and everyone of us feel that what we say makes sense or else we wouldn't be on this site I would imagine......
i mean if im pissed off at something i would let my BF know and we talk about it... thatz the only way u can make it work...and if hes the kind who doesnt want to 'talk' thingz over... FINE..... leave him...
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Finally someone who said something that made sense
I think we all eac and everyone of us feel that what we say makes sense or else we wouldn't be on this site I would imagine......
Yeah I swallow too even tho it's gross but it's less grosser than letting it spew everywhere and get over everything. No, down the hatch in one go.
"he was quite honest and geniune cos it was very difficult for him by the sounds of things to say what he did..I personally think he would die of guilt if he ever used a friend.
Even for a minute if he thinks he's upset me, boom..there goes a phone call..and I just laugh and say its ok, honestly, I am not mad at you. He is always down about something..he thinks far too much, is ultra sensitive"
missmorals
I am going off topic here but I gotta tell u something..u know by ur above statements u are still in the honeymoon phase of ur relation with the cappy..believe me those would hav been the exact same words that I would have used for my ex-cap when we were in the "good frens" phase of our relation..strangely when u are friends with a cap guy thats when they do all these super sweet things like :-
taking care that they never hurt u
saying the most soulful things to u and acting totally non chalant about it
always being at ur beck and call..
to the extent that u can scarcely believe that such guys ever exist..
As frens belive me they can be the best frens in the world.
But then caps are very emotional and super sensitive so if they feel wronged then u get to see their bad side which belive me..can be very very bad..thats when they start using u..but somhow they justify their actions to themselves by believing that they are doing the rite thing in the circumstances..
I am not trying to make a debate on the capricorn's bad qualities but its just tat I have been in a long and troublesome relation with a cappy man..and over a period of time its all become quite clear to me..
But yes, they do care a lot much mor than they show
Even for a minute if he thinks he's upset me, boom..there goes a phone call..and I just laugh and say its ok, honestly, I am not mad at you. He is always down about something..he thinks far too much, is ultra sensitive"
missmorals
I am going off topic here but I gotta tell u something..u know by ur above statements u are still in the honeymoon phase of ur relation with the cappy..believe me those would hav been the exact same words that I would have used for my ex-cap when we were in the "good frens" phase of our relation..strangely when u are friends with a cap guy thats when they do all these super sweet things like :-
taking care that they never hurt u
saying the most soulful things to u and acting totally non chalant about it
always being at ur beck and call..
to the extent that u can scarcely believe that such guys ever exist..
As frens belive me they can be the best frens in the world.
But then caps are very emotional and super sensitive so if they feel wronged then u get to see their bad side which belive me..can be very very bad..thats when they start using u..but somhow they justify their actions to themselves by believing that they are doing the rite thing in the circumstances..
I am not trying to make a debate on the capricorn's bad qualities but its just tat I have been in a long and troublesome relation with a cappy man..and over a period of time its all become quite clear to me..
But yes, they do care a lot much mor than they show
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