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Feb 26, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 8735 · Topics: 522
A few things could've happened here:
1. She lost interest in you along the way (it could've been over something you said/did that was really small or even something you would not have been turned off by if the tables were turned. Instead of being raw/honest & telling you, she'd rather turn down the momentum in HOPES that you get the hint. This saves her from the guilt of most likely hurting your feelings if she's 100% honest with you)
2. There's another man in the mix that caught her interest more than you did. Doesn't mean that you weren't interesting to her, it just means that the other guy stimulated her MORE than you. It could've been 49/51, but if you were the 49, then of course the other guy won the battle of who gets her undivided time & attention.
3. She has something going on in her life that is making her want to emotionally disconnect from you (and maybe even others--but if you don't know those "others" then of course you're gonna think that this sudden disconnection applied to you only). It's not that she's lost interest in you. It's that when she's stressed & doesn't feel like talking about it, her defense mechanism & way of dealing with tough things are to disconnect & go into a shell, until she's ready to come out on HER terms. Women like this usually won't admit this until after they're ready to come out of their shell. Yes, this is selfish & her being inconsiderate of how her actions might affect you
4. She was never that into you. She only made you think the attraction was mutual when the truth was that you were the only one thinking that things were going great. She talked a big/good game (talk is cheap) b/c that's just how she is. She may be the kind of girl who gives never ending compliments & praise to any guys she hangs out with, whether she's really into them or not. A lot of men are guilty of this, which is why some of the ladies dealing with those specific men all tend to be at home thinking THEY are special, without realizing that he's got 5 other chicks thinking/feeling the exact same way.
5. She didn't realize until after you got too close that she doesn't want anybody to get too close lol It's easy and all fun and games when there's no feelings involved, but the minute an attachment starts to form, that's when some people's biggest fears & insecurities come out, hence the reason some people run like hell the minute things start feeling a little TOO good.
Thanks LunarMaiden, you are absolutely right about everything! I appreciate all the feedback.
Just deleted him. and yes dodged that bullet for sure! Thanks again everyone!
I absolutely feel this way at the moment.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a Cancerian male. I've noticed that each time I'm out having fun - innocent girl fun with girlfriends! - he will go silent on me... Then when I question it he says something like he didn't go silent, and that it was a delayed response... It's frustrating!!!! I text him little messages while out or when I get back home and tell him I love him and miss him. He will read it and not respond
Also, he keeps asking me not to go silent on him - What?! I'm the one talking, he is the one blatantly ignoring my messages.
Is he jealous or ?
And for some warped reason I end up thinking he is seeing / talking with someone else when he is silent, I can't get how he would just back away like that...,he keeps saying I'm the only woman he wants blah blah but then he acts like this. Frustrates me to no end.
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Some like to start shit a lot too, especially the jealous ones.
Don't tell them anything you don't want the whole fucking world to know.
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