My libra mother.
Yes we expect a lot from our children, we spend most of your adolescence teaching you right from wrong and nudging you when you are taking the wrong turns through life but at a certain point we feel most of the teaching is done. In fact you make that decision yourself and we recognise it, this is when you no longer get told what to do and how to do it and must think for yourself...and when you do the wrong thing or make the wrong decisions you will feel it from us!!!
This is the way I am with my girls, I've pulled back considerably and trying to cut the apron strings but they keep coming back with the simplest things wanting me to make decisions for them and the complex things they want to be left alone...I don't understand or know what they are going through.. sheesh!
This is the way I am with my girls, I've pulled back considerably and trying to cut the apron strings but they keep coming back with the simplest things wanting me to make decisions for them and the complex things they want to be left alone...I don't understand or know what they are going through.. sheesh!
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Please don't be upset at yourself! It's only natural with where you are at emotionally and mentally. So don't be so hard on yourself! Its why you are where you are now. You are not an idiot! You are only an idiot for believing you are one 
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Lol, I swear it's like talking to my Libra bff, she said the exact same thing as you did! About him not being your boyfriend. I will tell you exactly what I told her.
You can not force him to be in a relationship if he doesn't want to. If you do (ie. making him feel bad or manipulating him into it) he will end up resenting you. Plus, you want a man to give what he gives when he wants to give, not because you want him to do it and this includes getting into a relationship.
Finally, him being in a relationship does not guarantee anything (in terms of love or feelings) if it did people who got married would not experience cheating or divorce.
Nothing is guaranteed. That being said you should just try to enjoy the relationship and let the chips fall where they may and stop trying to force this into a relationship. Because trust me same thing happened to my friend (Libra) and even when she was in the relationship she was still jealous and unsatisfied. You think it will make you feel more secure but it won't.
.Lol, I swear it's like talking to my Libra bff, she said the exact same thing as you did! About him not being your boyfriend. I will tell you exactly what I told her.
You can not force him to be in a relationship if he doesn't want to. If you do (ie. making him feel bad or manipulating him into it) he will end up resenting you. Plus, you want a man to give what he gives when he wants to give, not because you want him to do it and this includes getting into a relationship.
Finally, him being in a relationship does not guarantee anything (in terms of love or feelings) if it did people who got married would not experience cheating or divorce.
Nothing is guaranteed. That being said you should just try to enjoy the relationship and let the chips fall where they may and stop trying to force this into a relationship. Because trust me same thing happened to my friend (Libra) and even when she was in the relationship she was still jealous and unsatisfied. You think it will make you feel more secure but it won't.
aesmadaeva: we spoke about that and he said "i dont want you to move to a city that i dont even want to be in" which is true, it would make more sense to just wait.
montgomery: i don't actually see waiting for 6-12 months as a crisis, i don't actually mind the "waiting to be together" part, it's just the uncertainty of not having the exclusivity, there's no commitment set in stone. i dont want to invest 6 months of feelings into someone who could just turn around and date someone else. i'm not saying he would do that, i don't know, he could if he wanted to though! and no, i haven't met any of his friends/family yet, i dont think we're at that stage yet, we've only been wanting to spend time alone together, i haven't introduced him to anyone i know yet either.
montgomery: i don't actually see waiting for 6-12 months as a crisis, i don't actually mind the "waiting to be together" part, it's just the uncertainty of not having the exclusivity, there's no commitment set in stone. i dont want to invest 6 months of feelings into someone who could just turn around and date someone else. i'm not saying he would do that, i don't know, he could if he wanted to though! and no, i haven't met any of his friends/family yet, i dont think we're at that stage yet, we've only been wanting to spend time alone together, i haven't introduced him to anyone i know yet either.
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xtina: i love talking to you, you are so RIGHT!
no i am an idiot, i just can't believe how obvious all of this is, and i've been feeling so upset about it for no reason.
even if we were in a relationship, it doesn't mean anything, he could still go off with other people if he felt like it. what matters is that he IS talking to me and he IS seeing me. and i should enjoy that.
i haven't really spoken about "relationships" or made any sort of hints of wanting him to commit. i did ask him if he was seeing anyone else in a moment of weakness and he said there was no one else. i would never pester him to commit to me or even ask him to. i realise that he has to do it when he wants to, otherwise it's just fake. i don't really think there is a fear of pushing him away in that sense. relationships and commitment are just something i think about to myself.
no i am an idiot, i just can't believe how obvious all of this is, and i've been feeling so upset about it for no reason.
even if we were in a relationship, it doesn't mean anything, he could still go off with other people if he felt like it. what matters is that he IS talking to me and he IS seeing me. and i should enjoy that.
i haven't really spoken about "relationships" or made any sort of hints of wanting him to commit. i did ask him if he was seeing anyone else in a moment of weakness and he said there was no one else. i would never pester him to commit to me or even ask him to. i realise that he has to do it when he wants to, otherwise it's just fake. i don't really think there is a fear of pushing him away in that sense. relationships and commitment are just something i think about to myself.
.... you deleted. I saw your original OP and the Cancer said something like, "how can you like me with all my emotional issues when i don't even like myself?" or something like that I can't remember BECAUSE you deleted. hmfff
I was going to say listen to that because I think she really likes you but just isn't ready yet, you know. she was work to do, she knows it and wants to be a better her.
So... why not enjoy the time you have and build some "motivation" together?
mkbye
I was going to say listen to that because I think she really likes you but just isn't ready yet, you know. she was work to do, she knows it and wants to be a better her.
So... why not enjoy the time you have and build some "motivation" together?
mkbye
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Posted by londonlibralady
no i am an idiot, i just can't believe how obvious all of this is, and i've been feeling so upset about it for no reason.
It's easier to see from an objective point of view. Trust me lol. So don't call yourself an idiot it's counterproductive!
Just set your boundaries now and try your best to stick to them. And if you don't stick to them don't beat yourself over it. But you know what you want. You want to be in a commmited relationship. So ask yourself how long are you willing to wait for him? And once you've made a decision stick to it!
You got this. This is the great thing about Libra, yeah you guys are always weighing the pros and cons but that can lead you to a realistic perspective about your situation and yourself. So, use that to your advantage. Find out more about yourself. Really get to know and love yourself and know what you want in your life and it will get easier.