Emotion vs Stabilty
Posted by TwirlingStrawberryPosted by M
"He is currently in a relationship. She's the epitome of his 'ideal' prospect for a wife."
Nothing permeates this. Since this is the case, you need to respect that as the life he's chosen.
"I believe that he still loves me. I could feel it. In his eyes, presence, and movements."
Love is not black and white. You could be a special someone to him, that does not equate to someone he's going to jump ship for. If you believe he's still in love with you beyond that, it falls on him to come around. It was, after all, his decision to make the change.
can I requote this for good measure....first post....from a cap man.click to expand
I read this, I thought it was great. This is why I'm on this board for responses just like this.
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Posted by frostey91
No sign placement necessarily makes you smart.
aaahhh okay
thanks
You're constantly attracting men who are taken b/c you are partly/subconsciously emotionally unavailable. This is especially the case for the women who don't even have aspirations to be the side chick or mistress lol
This is mind blowing, especially to those who assume that 100% of who they attract has everything to do with outsiders and not themselves. Not true.
Women are known for their good intuitions. Well, men are known for being masters at deciphering their prey long before they've even approached her. There are subconscious signals that women put out. The way they carry themselves. Even if a man isn't able to put his finger on it or put it into words, a man with a motive can almost always sniff out the women in the crowd who he believes will help him fulfill that motive/goal.
And then of course, there's the warning signs after the initial exchange of interest has happened. Perhaps you are not paying as much attention as you think you are. Perhaps there are some signs you're missing purposely or unintentionally. Sometimes what a person doesn't realize is a red flag is actually indeed a red flag. But they won't see that b/c their perception of the other person's behavior isn't in their "red flag" category.
The reason their wives call you whores & assume you knew about them is b/c even they assume that there's no way you didn't see certain red flags that would've given it away that he was taken. And to an extent, that's a fair assumption, especially considering a lot of women admit that in hindsight 20/20 there were in fact red flags all over the place at some point
Notice any patterns? Any common denominators? Are they all traveling business men? Do they try rushing you or pressuring you to be vulnerable real fast? Are these men who swear they're always busy 24-7 (he's not the busiest man in the world, he's just married lol)? Somewhere or another, there's a pattern. There's a cycle. You've just gotta identify that. Only you can though
This is mind blowing, especially to those who assume that 100% of who they attract has everything to do with outsiders and not themselves. Not true.
Women are known for their good intuitions. Well, men are known for being masters at deciphering their prey long before they've even approached her. There are subconscious signals that women put out. The way they carry themselves. Even if a man isn't able to put his finger on it or put it into words, a man with a motive can almost always sniff out the women in the crowd who he believes will help him fulfill that motive/goal.
And then of course, there's the warning signs after the initial exchange of interest has happened. Perhaps you are not paying as much attention as you think you are. Perhaps there are some signs you're missing purposely or unintentionally. Sometimes what a person doesn't realize is a red flag is actually indeed a red flag. But they won't see that b/c their perception of the other person's behavior isn't in their "red flag" category.
The reason their wives call you whores & assume you knew about them is b/c even they assume that there's no way you didn't see certain red flags that would've given it away that he was taken. And to an extent, that's a fair assumption, especially considering a lot of women admit that in hindsight 20/20 there were in fact red flags all over the place at some point
Notice any patterns? Any common denominators? Are they all traveling business men? Do they try rushing you or pressuring you to be vulnerable real fast? Are these men who swear they're always busy 24-7 (he's not the busiest man in the world, he's just married lol)? Somewhere or another, there's a pattern. There's a cycle. You've just gotta identify that. Only you can though
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How can a friend or significant other help you through a time like this?
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For every 1,000 men who prefer overly-sexualized chicks, there are 2,000 that don't.
You've gotta find the 2,000 that don't. They're out there. Trust me. Will men ever get tired of seeing naked chicks? Probably not lol. But do all men wanna take them home to mama & wife half naked chicks? Usually not.
It may take you a little longer than you'd like to find love, but don't necessarily assume that half naked chicks are the only factor here for why you may not be finding it as quickly
Are you going to the places/environments where the kind of guy you'd want would hang out? (Example: If you don't want a guy who parties all the time, don't go to clubs/bars expecting to find a guy like him there).
Are you putting yourself out there enough? Flirting. Smiling a lot. Going to places you love & that are fun-oriented
Are you giving the few guys who I'm sure you have crossed paths with, the time of day? Sometimes a woman has 1,000 guys flocking to her at any given time, but b/c none of them are her "type" she convinces herself that she doesn't get any play at all lol
Plus, remember that all of those naked chicks aren't married or in serious relationships. Some of them are just as single as you are. So clearly, the issue isn't that the competition is half naked. It's important that you know that deep down b/c a lot of times women get discouraged & a little envious when they see all the other chicks 'getting guys.' Funny thing is, all those half naked chicks are probably at home right now venting & b****ching about the fact that most of the men in their towns only want them for 1 thing lol
In other words, you may think they're getting all the play & attention, meanwhile, they're just as single as you are b/c they see that getting the wrong attention isn't so victorious or leading to love either.
Just be patient. Sometimes the only thing stopping you from finding love is timing. The answer isn't always that something is wrong with you or the other person. Sometimes it's just not your time yet.
You've gotta find the 2,000 that don't. They're out there. Trust me. Will men ever get tired of seeing naked chicks? Probably not lol. But do all men wanna take them home to mama & wife half naked chicks? Usually not.
It may take you a little longer than you'd like to find love, but don't necessarily assume that half naked chicks are the only factor here for why you may not be finding it as quickly
Are you going to the places/environments where the kind of guy you'd want would hang out? (Example: If you don't want a guy who parties all the time, don't go to clubs/bars expecting to find a guy like him there).
Are you putting yourself out there enough? Flirting. Smiling a lot. Going to places you love & that are fun-oriented
Are you giving the few guys who I'm sure you have crossed paths with, the time of day? Sometimes a woman has 1,000 guys flocking to her at any given time, but b/c none of them are her "type" she convinces herself that she doesn't get any play at all lol
Plus, remember that all of those naked chicks aren't married or in serious relationships. Some of them are just as single as you are. So clearly, the issue isn't that the competition is half naked. It's important that you know that deep down b/c a lot of times women get discouraged & a little envious when they see all the other chicks 'getting guys.' Funny thing is, all those half naked chicks are probably at home right now venting & b****ching about the fact that most of the men in their towns only want them for 1 thing lol
In other words, you may think they're getting all the play & attention, meanwhile, they're just as single as you are b/c they see that getting the wrong attention isn't so victorious or leading to love either.
Just be patient. Sometimes the only thing stopping you from finding love is timing. The answer isn't always that something is wrong with you or the other person. Sometimes it's just not your time yet.
When I was into Vaishnavism, I went completely vegan. I still had protein through seaweed. For mayo, I mix celery and milk, that kinda tastes like mayo too. I didn't find the transition hard. I'm not practicing bhakti yoga anymore but I'm still mainly vegetarian.
Posted by VenusStar
My emotional state :deep hatred, pain, emotionally hurt (unrequited love), and failure (pain). I can't even focus on getting my life back into order because I have all of this stuff moving around in my heart that i'm ignoring and the feelings are not going away. Because these feelings haven't been dealt with I can't seem to move forward no matter how I feel.
What's stopping you from dealing with them, if dealing with them is what you feel you need to do in order to move on?
For me personally, I've come to believe that, sometimes, there's just no hope in "dealing" with things that are bothering me. "Dealing" with them --> thinking about them --> putting energy into them = only making me feel worse, if I'm getting no results that is. Good old "out of sight, out of mind" seems to work for me in any scenario, over time, but it really does work. Physically distancing myself from whatever's causing me inability to move forward/negativity in my head to help the actual, mental healing go faster. But that's just me.
Hi all, ok so my leo guy has asked for some time out as he is having some personal issues I told him I respect him for letting me know and I'm here if he wants to talk... He has reassured me that he loves what we have and wants more if it and that's fine but I'm just wondering do I just stop all contact or do I still let him know I'm here from time to time?
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