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Dec 27, 2013Comments: 15 · Posts: 2575 · Topics: 9
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I agree with everyone, especially with Phoenixrising. And btw, just because it's been 5 yrs and you didn't meet his family does not necessarily mean he doesn't care about you. It could be that his family humiliates him or doesn't give off that happy family that you would marry into vibe. Maybe his family is destructive and may ruin your relationship. Maybe he fears his family will cause you to run the other way. If so, that actually means he cares about you more than you think. I loved my boyfriend very, very deeply but I would never allow my family and he to make any type of contact. It wasn't because I wasn't interested in him, it was mostly because I didn't want him to think that I was like any of my dysfunctional family members and I didn't want him to count me out because of it (because it had happened to me many times in previous relationships). I'm not saying that this is or isn't the case, I'm just thinking from another angle.
Now about hurting himmmm....ummmmmmmmmmmm...I think cancers are highly sensitive and if you shat all over what he thought you guys had... and said you were unhappy... and he ruins your life often...and then sent several evil text messages and emails to reinforce the sting...and then shortly came back around and sent several I'm sorry messages.....thennnnnnnnn...judging by how cancers act and think...you probably have deeply, deeply, deeply hurt him. You and your flip flopping probably comes off as being unstable/wishy washy so he probably will leave you alone because you're confusing and because you yourself don't really know how you really feel about him and he probably won't invest in any shaky people. Cancers are very loving and when they find that special someone to love, trust me...THEY LOVE LIKE NO OTHER SIGN. They will devote their whole life, mind, body and soul to you. They will love unselfishly. They will give you the world and expect nothing in return. They will cook a 5 course meal just to see how happy it makes you feel and how fulfilled you are. They will make the house comfortable and immaculate just so their family will be comfortable and happy. They will spend money on you (which is a big deal because they are misers) just to see you happy. They will always be there if you need a shoulder to lean on, a favor, someone to talk to, or whateverr. I had a cancer ex and he was the MOST AMAZING lover and person I have ever had.It was just that he came on so strong and was so good (unlike most of the world) that I thought he was being fake, manipulative and pushy; at that point in my life, I had never come across someone so genuine before and it scared the hell out of me. He always noticed my inner, deep thoughts and acted on them without me even having to say anything. If I was worried about something, he would be intuitive enough to know what was wrong and he would fix it without me even knowing! And the thing is, when he would fix it, he wouldn't even really put so much attention on it or even tell me (that's how I knew he loved me and didn't do things just to seduce or woo me). He bought me things and went to great lengths to please me. When it was all over, he didn't even throw all of the things he did for me in my face to make me feel guilty...he just sort of quietly moved on and cut me off almost bluntly. Yeah I messed it up and I always wish I could be given another chance (I was young and dumb).
But sorry I got distracted...there real
But sorry I got distracted...there really isn't much you can do once you've hurt a cancer that bad. They go waayyyyyyy deep deep down in their shells and never come back up again to breathe the same air as you. And if they do come back, they no longer have emotions for you and will treat you like a regular person. And mayyyyybe, just mayyyybe you can win him back but it's going to take a long time and you will have to devote yourself completely to this person and a real future together. You're going to have to be way vulnerable and open yourself up to him as wide as you can. You're going to have to demonstrate the love you have for him in a big big big way and be consistent with it
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Well champ, I'd say you offended quite a few people.
You must be feeling proud.