Tests
Posted by RainDancer88
So there ya have it. Testing does not always have a bad outcome, I am thankful instead. Gosh, I hated that I betrayed his trust over something so small, I hate letting anyone down.
Everybody tells white lies, mostly to end/avoid conversations about irrelevant subjects. For example, my bf offered to cook us a special dinner, but asked me to bring a few bay leaves from my garden. I forgot initially, and bought some on my way to him. The leaves were fresh, so I let him believe they were from my garden, simply because we were in the middle of an interesting conversation, and I did not want to interrupt it with things like: why I forgot his request, why I was in a hurry to leave home, why I left work late, where did I stop, how much did I pay, etc.
It's not you, but him who's got issues. The "testing" should be for understanding purposes. NOT for using the outcome to emotionally undermine the other person, teach them a lesson. Because that was what he was doing. His patronizing and intolerant behaviour would be a huge red flag for me.
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Depends on the actual event and some other parts of the circumstances.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
He only told you you he wanted to be friends because he was saving face with you--is this so hard to understand? I mean totally ego-trashed him by coming out saying he wasn't your type, yada yada. Now he has put you into the friend communication sector which is , like I said previously, more long haul and less urgent. I am sure, he will communicate again and then you will have a few days of banter and he'll be off with his womenz again.
If you only want to be his friend, why does this offend you?
You clearly aren't reading my post properly so you ain't getting it. It pisses me off when people misread shit and assert their assumptions. Let me make it crystal clear: I made my stance clear in our VERY FIRST CONVO. That didn't deter him from being my friend. It propelled him if anything. We spoke non-stop (everyday). If he had a problem with my ego trashing him (which was done on the very first day I spoke to him), he would act as distant as he is right now from the very beginning. The sudden behavior change isn't what you think it is and if you read my oP properly, you wouldn't be filling in the blanks with your imagination or whatever is common in your world.
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I don't know what is happening with the crab. I do miss him very much. I am still sad everyday about it, but I decided I am not going to just wait around for him.
This Taurus is also 7 years younger than me. That is definitely different for me!
O-kaaaay Stella, get yo groove on 
All kidding aside, I hope it things work out for you
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Posted by Arielle83
Plus we dont talk about our private lives because we know it would be spread like gossip. Its called self preservation.
I get where you are coming from,regarding self preservation, but what if this is coming from someone whom you considered to be your best friend? She shares her life stories, and you clam up? And the simple fact that she initiates these conversations,and pretend to care, just to be up in your business...If cancerian women want to keep their lives private, that is their God given choice.But,stay out of other people's private life, because after awhile, they are going to notice that they are divulging everything to their so called friend,and receiving nothing in return..Reciprocity keeps a friendship strong...
*hope things work out for you >
We didn't have sex. I never asked for more or put pressure on him for anything. I wasn't even the one initiating texts or wanting to hang out. He would text/call to hang out, and I would go if I was able. I wasn't all over him, I basically was being responsive to his efforts. So, I guess what I'm trying to say in so many words, is that he was the on driving. If we went out or did something together, it was because he initiated it. He was affectionate in public also. I'm totally fine with the "not looking for anything serious" comment. I told him I was, but still he is now distant.
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So you don't want to answer what your reaction would be to these events or parts of circumstances?
Posted by Arielle83
really? Cuz i cant run away further than a gossipy two-faced sag or any other woman who needs to talk shit.
Im actually sick of ppl telling me their drama.
Maybe the cancer thought u needed a friendly ear to vent, but now ur bitching on a chat forum. Point made.
No matter which way that you try to spin it, She was a phony friend,that was into everyone's business, and tried to keep her life a huge secret, which got exposed anyway...You see, when you do dirt,you get dirt, and that is how I know that I was not in the wrong, it was all her..I understand that you feel the need to stick up for your fellow Cancerians, but call a spade a spade...
Oh, and the other women were there from the beginning, since day one. It wasn't like he was pursuing me and I ego trashed him so he put me in the friend sector and made himself distant. He became friends with me and spoke to me non stop despite all these women. Nothing in his world has changed for this sudden issue to arise.
So what offends me? Maybe I just know the etiquettes of friendship, which require a general sense of mutual respect and no silly mind games. Mind games are common in romantic immature relationships, but I don't expect that in a friendship. I got a cold shoulder for God knows what reason. A friendship should be natural. It shouldn't be hard work. Our friendship was natural but with these sudden cold shoulder tactics, I don't feel like this is a friendship.
I already had a thought in my head when I wrote the post. I was already confirmed in my thought and I just wanted to see if others would pick up on what I'm sensing. It seems that you guys are and so I will execute the thought I had in my head. The thought I had was to dispose the "friend". When I dispose people, I want a concrete reason for doing it because I don't go back on my actions. Most people are seeing that he's not worthy of friendship, so he is now getting thrown in the garbage.
Oh and he did msg but the cold shoulder is still there. I'm thinking "oh so you wanna talk but you're gonna be cold. So why even msg me?"
So what offends me? Maybe I just know the etiquettes of friendship, which require a general sense of mutual respect and no silly mind games. Mind games are common in romantic immature relationships, but I don't expect that in a friendship. I got a cold shoulder for God knows what reason. A friendship should be natural. It shouldn't be hard work. Our friendship was natural but with these sudden cold shoulder tactics, I don't feel like this is a friendship.
I already had a thought in my head when I wrote the post. I was already confirmed in my thought and I just wanted to see if others would pick up on what I'm sensing. It seems that you guys are and so I will execute the thought I had in my head. The thought I had was to dispose the "friend". When I dispose people, I want a concrete reason for doing it because I don't go back on my actions. Most people are seeing that he's not worthy of friendship, so he is now getting thrown in the garbage.
Oh and he did msg but the cold shoulder is still there. I'm thinking "oh so you wanna talk but you're gonna be cold. So why even msg me?"
Posted by aime7Posted by Easha23000usPosted by aime7
You still mad?
What the hell do you think?
LOL you're being too salty.click to expand
And your point is??? Say something pertinent or keep it moving...