I have this friend who has a boyfriend who's a cancer.
He's a total wreck. He cuts himself and drinks a lot, apparently last night at a party she found him digging his nails into his wrists drunk and when she was driving him home he was rambling, crying about jumping out of the car.
I really want to help since she has no clue of what to do but harm herself to show how much it hurts to see him do it, but then he gets upset if she does it and falls into another fit of depression.
How can we get him to stop? how is it possible to handle a Cancer male in depression?
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
"during a crisis it takes more guts to live than to give up and die"
Wow, that was really profound and probably one of the most enlightening statements I've heard in a long time. You're so right, it's really hard to keep going sometimes, isn't it?
Maybe you're right, Haffo. Perhaps, a lot of people wear a mask of confidence and determination to hide the real truth lying underneath, that is weak and dying.
I don't know, I just know that the friend of mine, who was really good friends with this man, is punishing herself for not seeing past his exterior so she could help him. He's gone and there's nothing left for her to do except mourn. I wish I could offer her words of encouragement, but, remain silent because I don't know what to say.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
I think about that too, Archer. Are there signs, even in their smallest measurement, that we overlook? We take it to be a number of things, like dissapointment, personality quirks, venting of an emotion - when really, it is a cry for help.
It really doesn't make anyone to think harder into the subject until someone you know ends their life, then, it's too late.
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Nov 04, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 457 · Topics: 28
do you mean to say that you are "a_bird_of_flame" and not "bird of flame" ?