Rihanna is the baddest Pisces thus far.

Posted by mmmcrunchy
It's definitely a case of "careful what you wish for".

Marriage is much harder work than I'd ever imagined.

With every significant decision I make, he's equally in the equation. Compromise and adaptability are skills I've really had to develop.

I have someone who's deeply emotionally invested in me and depends on me (and me with him as well). Meaning I've had to live a much less risky lifestyle (ie no backpacking alone in India, no BASE jumping, etc).

And then there's the fact that we're around each other almost constantly other than work or the occasional girls/boys night out. So I don't have the luxury of having my own space/way when I don't feel "on". So when I'm exhausted after a long day and hubby's all over me like a puppy, I've learned how to carve out some breathing room tactfully.

Fuck, gifts alone are a preparatory ordeal. He's an ESFJ, and he's big on anniversaries and holidays/birthdays, and he really prefers creative heartfelt handmade types of gifts. So that alone is damn work, hah. We exchange gifts like 6 times a year. 0.0

These are just small examples, but my point is, marriage requires full investment. But for me, it is so worth it. I have my best friend for life, and I am incredibly grateful. We make a rock solid team.

But if someone is desperate for marriage just to not look "wrong" to society, that shallow motivation can't possibly be converted into full investment that's required.

It's just unfortunate that society imposes this expectation at all. Because if everyone who isn't up for the marriage/kids lifestyle remained single, then even if some of them change their mind when they're older (a big if), then there'd be plenty of others in that same boat.

So either they're happily single for life, or they marry only when they're truly ready, without having any divorces or unhappy marriages.

The only way the stigma can go away is if everyone disregards it.

Posted by mmmcrunchy
What industry do you work in? Is this in a religious-oriented area?

Posted by tiziani
Is it like Flow?

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (say that ten times in a row) has written decades worth on flow - where you reach peak awareness with minimum effort

https://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_on_flow?language=en



It seemed like a Full Moon last night, even though I checked and it was Sag Sun, Taurus Moon. So I'm not sure. But if it was then we're in the waning moon stage, heading to a third quarter moon. Tarot people like to say this is the time of the month to finish what we've started.