Lack of jealousy in a relationship
Posted by LillyPetalPosted by CurlyAriesPosted by LillyPetalPosted by CurlyAries
I'm not a fan of jealousy and what it represents. To me it means you want what someone else has & so you feel negative towards the person that has it.
So in a relationship, a man or woman that gets jealous if their partner is simply having a conversation w/ someone else, is ludicrous to me.
It's an insecurity.
Possessiveness on the other hand, I think is fine. There's a thin line between jealousy and possessiveness.
I think I'm indirectly possessive. I like be close to my partner in public. I don't really care for hand holding, I notice i just like to hold their arm while we're walking. But I'm cool w/ being a part and mingling with other people and I would want my partner to be ok with it as well bc a conversation is just a conversation. Trust me like I trust you.
Plus, my man is the only one that get can all of me. I may have a conversation with someone, but my man would be the only King in my world.
Actually, wanting what someone else has is envy.
envy and jealousy are synonymous.
I think that's incorrect. Envy is desiring what someone else has. Jealousy is the fear of losing something/someone you already possess.click to expand
Look it up and then tell me it's incorrect.
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Hey all,
I am new to this forum and here to seek some help regarding dealing with Cancer man. Here are the points to explain my situation.
About me :
- I am a 35 yrs old pisces female, never married and been single for past 4 yrs.
- Friends say that I have a pretty face, I am tall but I am quite overweight (170cms tall and I am obese)
So, I met this cancer man on a dating app and we hit it off pretty well. From the very start he seemed very flirtatious and keen to have sex but I was very clear that I am not looking for short term flings and not looking to sleep around unless I feel connected to the person. He seemed to be understanding of that (may be .. may be not). We kept in touch on phone and whatsapp every day. He did msg me and call me every day (almost). Then I went on a month long holidays, we were in touch but I noticed that unless and until I start the conversation, he wouldnt get in touch.
Anyways, when I came back from my holidays, we met for the first time for a coffee. It was lovely to meet him. He told me that we should join the boxing classes together. He shared about his family , his childhood.. I loved my time with him. I was quite nervous to meet him because I thought that he will be put off when he meets me since I am fat etc. Considering that I did not message him the next day morning. I thought if he is keen he will msg me else I should consider this over. To my surprise, he did message me the next day morning...We had a fun chat on whatsapp and then I went away for the weekend..I kept in touch on whatsapp with him. He tried calling me on Saturday and I missed his call.. When I tried to call him back, he msgd me saying that he is busy and will get in touch soon. Its end of day Wednesday today and he hasnt called me back or messaged me. I see that he is quite active on facebook so clearly he is not busy and can always get in touch with me.
Few facts about him
- He is younger to me (probably by 4-5 yrs)
- He is almost as tall as me but I was wearing my heels when I met him so I was kinda taller than me.. He did mention that if I wear flats I will be alright too. he he !!
Its only after four years that I have come across someone with whom I felt such a strong connection. I do realize that he has lot of reasons not to go ahead with me but I am confused what should I do ? I dont want to keep msging him and seem clingy but at the same time I would like to know what next ? Is he keen or is he not keen ?? or Is he just considering me in the friend zone ?
Totally confused. Please help.
I am new to this forum and here to seek some help regarding dealing with Cancer man. Here are the points to explain my situation.
About me :
- I am a 35 yrs old pisces female, never married and been single for past 4 yrs.
- Friends say that I have a pretty face, I am tall but I am quite overweight (170cms tall and I am obese)
So, I met this cancer man on a dating app and we hit it off pretty well. From the very start he seemed very flirtatious and keen to have sex but I was very clear that I am not looking for short term flings and not looking to sleep around unless I feel connected to the person. He seemed to be understanding of that (may be .. may be not). We kept in touch on phone and whatsapp every day. He did msg me and call me every day (almost). Then I went on a month long holidays, we were in touch but I noticed that unless and until I start the conversation, he wouldnt get in touch.
Anyways, when I came back from my holidays, we met for the first time for a coffee. It was lovely to meet him. He told me that we should join the boxing classes together. He shared about his family , his childhood.. I loved my time with him. I was quite nervous to meet him because I thought that he will be put off when he meets me since I am fat etc. Considering that I did not message him the next day morning. I thought if he is keen he will msg me else I should consider this over. To my surprise, he did message me the next day morning...We had a fun chat on whatsapp and then I went away for the weekend..I kept in touch on whatsapp with him. He tried calling me on Saturday and I missed his call.. When I tried to call him back, he msgd me saying that he is busy and will get in touch soon. Its end of day Wednesday today and he hasnt called me back or messaged me. I see that he is quite active on facebook so clearly he is not busy and can always get in touch with me.
Few facts about him
- He is younger to me (probably by 4-5 yrs)
- He is almost as tall as me but I was wearing my heels when I met him so I was kinda taller than me.. He did mention that if I wear flats I will be alright too. he he !!
Its only after four years that I have come across someone with whom I felt such a strong connection. I do realize that he has lot of reasons not to go ahead with me but I am confused what should I do ? I dont want to keep msging him and seem clingy but at the same time I would like to know what next ? Is he keen or is he not keen ?? or Is he just considering me in the friend zone ?
Totally confused. Please help.
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Giannelli Imbula to Stoke and I hear they want Witsel too.
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No not tried mindfulness. Have downloaded an app called headspace which talks you through daily meditation sessions. Is mindfulness a form of meditation?
Yup. I'm best friends with my ex and was good friends with another for many years. We go shopping, hang out, support each other, talk about our dates.
I don't care for the rest and have no interest in staying in contact.
I don't care for the rest and have no interest in staying in contact.
Posted by OceanBoy88
Warning, the cancer board is riddled with your problem/scenario. Just saying, but if you must, have him pursue you, don't engage heavily in pursuit of him. Keep exploring your options. Just because he's a cancer doesn't mean hes your best match. Also, my cancer buddy likes larger women I've noticed and he loves boxing. Coincidence
Thanks for the reply. Well if that was the case, why did he message me the next day and kept in touch ? Also, when we met, he told me that I need to focus on my health for few months and I should be alright. He also offered to join boxing classes together. I took that as a positive sign. Stupid me !!!
Posted by MiZLeoPosted by Finbuff
As a Cancer male, even if a girl was really attractive, I've never been able to have a relationship with a fat girl. My guess is he's having 2nd thoughts if he's not responding, and doesn't know how to tell you. Cancers tend to be VERY picky about relationship material.
That's a you thing not a cancer man thing.click to expand
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Got ya thanks I do have both of those ..
What are yours? @sadpopcorn and what significance is it?
What are yours? @sadpopcorn and what significance is it?
Posted by Finbuff
As a Cancer male, even if a girl was really attractive, I've never been able to have a relationship with a fat girl. My guess is he's having 2nd thoughts if he's not responding, and doesn't know how to tell you. Cancers tend to be VERY picky about relationship material.
Thanks for the reply. Well if that was the case, why did he message me the next day and kept in touch ? Also, when we met, he told me that I need to focus on my health for few months and I should be alright. He also offered to join boxing classes together. I took that as a positive sign. Stupid me !!!