She's still in love w/ him...What shall I do?
That is a really tough situation. No one here is really in a position to advise.
She is broken. Having been in an abusive relationship when I was young, it becomes an addiction because you have nothing else to live for. It fills your whole being. It is all that you are.
You have to build her up because she is empty. What she is battling is a feeling of worthlessness. She is trying to win his love by enduring pain. If she can make him love her and stop hurting her, she will be worthy. Everytime she endures pain and isn't rewarded with love from him, she breaks a little more and feels a little less worthy because obviously she has done something.
How do you make her leave?
You can't. It is an addiction. It is an obsession. What you have to do is build her up little by little by little. It isn't really about compliments although it can be, it is really about giving her love, giving her challenges she can complete so she can build herself up. Give her options. Give her choices but ultimetly let her choose and respect her decisions. It is only by making the right choices for herself that she will find self-esteem. You can't give someone self-esteem but you can help down the path.
Perhaps contact a women's shelter or other authority on domestic abuse in your area. Talk to them. Get advise from them and the police.
May you all find peace in this situation.
She is broken. Having been in an abusive relationship when I was young, it becomes an addiction because you have nothing else to live for. It fills your whole being. It is all that you are.
You have to build her up because she is empty. What she is battling is a feeling of worthlessness. She is trying to win his love by enduring pain. If she can make him love her and stop hurting her, she will be worthy. Everytime she endures pain and isn't rewarded with love from him, she breaks a little more and feels a little less worthy because obviously she has done something.
How do you make her leave?
You can't. It is an addiction. It is an obsession. What you have to do is build her up little by little by little. It isn't really about compliments although it can be, it is really about giving her love, giving her challenges she can complete so she can build herself up. Give her options. Give her choices but ultimetly let her choose and respect her decisions. It is only by making the right choices for herself that she will find self-esteem. You can't give someone self-esteem but you can help down the path.
Perhaps contact a women's shelter or other authority on domestic abuse in your area. Talk to them. Get advise from them and the police.
May you all find peace in this situation.
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but back the Libra questions.
seriously, why do they say they are slow to commit but yet they crave to be in relationships? it can't be as vague or simple as it's because Libra are walking contradictions.
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LOL I am on the move. I got tired of calling the cancer guy and only getting a call back on rare occasion. He was treating the calls like they are a rare commodity so in true Aries nature I decided to move on. A girl just commences interest and if the guy doesn't take the hint then its on to better goods. Besides I'm just starting to have fun
I forgot to tell you guys that this is long distance so I am pretty limited in what I can do other than dropping hints on the phone
but I don't want to be blatant about it so I don't know how to do this
help please?
but I don't want to be blatant about it so I don't know how to do this
help please?
You are so welcome Cancer12 
I so understand you being uncomfortable with trusting him with your heart - we Aries have this "free spirit" mechanism that was hard wired into our being and with this trait of ours...I do believe that we unintentionally emit a desire for freedom which leaves others to wonder about our intentions.
The other thing about us Aries is we do enjoy communicating and being open (at least I do - this also may depend on how evolved the Aries creature is) with our feelings. I say, be yourself - if you feel the need to have peace of heart and mind...share with him your feelings, this way you will know where you stand and can then make a decision that is best for you. You will find out much about your friend by how he answers your questions and if he is indeed the "right" man for you.
I sort of relate relationships with men like choosing a dog - when we want a dog...we know what kind we want and why we want it. If someone likes big dogs they are not going to be happy with a little she-poo or with a cat are they?
"i jus feel like i have to make sure i ask the "right questions"" Cancer12, the right questions lie in your heart - trust your instincts and you will automatically ask what your heart needs to know. All will be fine
"he seems like he's bein honest with me" I am sure he is....us Aries are honest peoples - it makes life so much easier to be honest and this to an Aries is another aspect of "freedom"
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The other thing about us Aries is we do enjoy communicating and being open (at least I do - this also may depend on how evolved the Aries creature is) with our feelings. I say, be yourself - if you feel the need to have peace of heart and mind...share with him your feelings, this way you will know where you stand and can then make a decision that is best for you. You will find out much about your friend by how he answers your questions and if he is indeed the "right" man for you.
I sort of relate relationships with men like choosing a dog - when we want a dog...we know what kind we want and why we want it. If someone likes big dogs they are not going to be happy with a little she-poo or with a cat are they?
"i jus feel like i have to make sure i ask the "right questions"" Cancer12, the right questions lie in your heart - trust your instincts and you will automatically ask what your heart needs to know. All will be fine
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http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/science/nature/6135450.stm
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