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Sep 19, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 702 · Topics: 22
we all live to love and be loved. that's the next best thing, than being right.
"not nice" from my perspective...well, for starters...does it seem to have gone in a positive direction to you? only a very few posters have bothered to try to actually say anything nice about virgos, which have, for the most part been eaten up by the rest. it seems, from this end of the internet to have become another platform for everyone to air their personal gripes and problems and mass admonishments. so i guess i'm just adding my voice to the chorus of whining.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
Agreed 100% about the morals, or lack thereof, of the man. I wan't meaning to say that what he did was right, as much as, trying to convey that he wasn't necessarily attempting to "cause" drama . . there's a difference. He did wrong, but, I don't how he was trying to manipulate the two women to have drama with each other. That was my point. Absolutely agreed, it breaks that "unspoken rule" of dating rules to date the ex of a friend.
I don't, however, get what you mean by: "my loyalty is to my friend when it's a true friend and in this situation I would point out his flaw in a way so my insecure friend doesn't feel like I might stab her in the back."
What does this mean? Are you saying that a "true friend" who, in theory, is suppose to show loyalty, but, in fact, doesn't have to, so long as she doesn't feel like you would stab her in the back?
Loyal to friend - I can see this
True friend - the meaning of this would be in question in my mind
Point out his flaw - wouldn't this make her spiteful? don't people stick with their current emotion if it's in pain? the beaten-wife protects her abusive husband because of her feelings and insecurity
Insecure friend - not sure I comprehend this. It is apparant to me that they WEREN'T dating exclusively, which would suggest that there weren't any deep feelings, so, in this case, why would a "simple" rejection make a person insecure? We get rejected all our lives for numerous things. This wasn't a "heart-felt" relationship . . just interest.
Stab her in the back - Are you saying that my best friend is worried about my integrity within our friendship? Do you feel this way about your friend? That scares me, ladyvie, because the term "true friend" only goes to three people in my life and I can't even imagine that the two terms, "true friend, and, stab in back" would be relative. Death would come before a thought like that would cross my mind.
Please don't think I'm attacking you like most other people in the world do, when I ask these questions . . I'm trying to understand the meaning of this, and it doesn't make sense to me.
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Feb 09, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 847 · Topics: 15
Frequent communication!
Personally, if I care about someone...I will try to put the past aside to build that trust quickly. Is that a smart thing to do? Probably not. I can't hold a grudge and memories of dark events tend to fade for me as I'm always looking towards the sunnier side of things, and sometimes that means building trust that was once shattered.
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Nov 21, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 3537 · Topics: 116
LOL at chocolate
Lets makea bet on this one yall
1. He want sex
2. He wants to get back together
3. Just want to say Hi
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
Rainbow, the question was formed in such a way to INVITE the responses, for it was subliminally suggesting "were useless", though, not verbally said, which is where the conscious mind was able to form specifics. To have negative responses was where the open-ended, reserved pyschological quiry was intended to go.
To be "nice", or "not nice" in all responses doesn't fit within my perception of proper responses based on only "one" (each individual person's) view, or opinion, for every person's interpretation of the word is different.
lol, I don't get people. I'm sorry. I try.
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Feb 16, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 15214 · Topics: 99
Oooh hello...whats cooking here..
Knew it
Bling and Rockchick..sitting in a tree
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
"I wonder sometimes if they even realize it. Or that it is apparent to others?"
I wonder this, too. Some of my gloomiest moments is when I have this self-awareness, that my feelings have caused my actions to be outside of my character. Sucks!
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Feb 16, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 15214 · Topics: 99
Either 2 or 3..He didn't get sex the first time around, what makes him think he will get it now..
Two could be a possibility due to the relationship with the first not working out for whatever reason..and 3 defo a possibility...