What is Mercury in retrogade and

I can physically feel Mercury Retrograde. I feel wonky, whiney, sleepy, sloppy, messy, jittery. Everyone in my immediate family gets like this during it, I've realised since learning astrology. We all have personal planets in Gemini and/or Virgo. My Virgo husband gets super cranky especially around station and he doesn't even believe in astrology.

It's real. Just doesn't effect everyone the same.