Spite Club
Here's another good dating article I came across from the same site:
At 27, I found myself standing on a Manhattan sidewalk, staring into the scruffy face of yet another huge dating disaster. Lied to, mistreated and cheated on, I'd been publicly humiliated. My ego was crushed. Having loved and lost and lost again, I felt frustrated, beaten down and so very tired of this thing called love. And I was full of the why-me's.
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Several weeks after my breakup, the pity party was still in full swing. Lying on my living room sofa, in a mess of soggy tissues and gooey Fudgsicle sticks, I was spending the umpteenth consecutive night communing with Netflix and my misery. It was ugly. But then, right in the middle of all that feeling sorry for myself, something pretty amazing happened: I heard a song. Actually, it was just one line from a song:
"It's not going to stop 'til you wise up."
It was a line from Aimee Mann's "Wise Up," and after hearing the song just once, I made it my anthem. I downloaded it to my iPod, hit repeat and then commuted to it, cried to it, showered to it... until the day I was ready to do some actual wising up. I had learned from my experience, but it took my listening to those lyrics, articulated in just the right way, before I understood it.
Bad relationships didn't just happen to me. I allowed them to happen.
And it was time to put a stop to it. I would set boundaries - a set of relationship resolutions - for myself and for those I spent time with, and I would stick to them.
At 27, I found myself standing on a Manhattan sidewalk, staring into the scruffy face of yet another huge dating disaster. Lied to, mistreated and cheated on, I'd been publicly humiliated. My ego was crushed. Having loved and lost and lost again, I felt frustrated, beaten down and so very tired of this thing called love. And I was full of the why-me's.
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Why didn't he love me? Why did this happen to me? Why does this always happen to me?
Several weeks after my breakup, the pity party was still in full swing. Lying on my living room sofa, in a mess of soggy tissues and gooey Fudgsicle sticks, I was spending the umpteenth consecutive night communing with Netflix and my misery. It was ugly. But then, right in the middle of all that feeling sorry for myself, something pretty amazing happened: I heard a song. Actually, it was just one line from a song:
"It's not going to stop 'til you wise up."
It was a line from Aimee Mann's "Wise Up," and after hearing the song just once, I made it my anthem. I downloaded it to my iPod, hit repeat and then commuted to it, cried to it, showered to it... until the day I was ready to do some actual wising up. I had learned from my experience, but it took my listening to those lyrics, articulated in just the right way, before I understood it.
Bad relationships didn't just happen to me. I allowed them to happen.
And it was time to put a stop to it. I would set boundaries - a set of relationship resolutions - for myself and for those I spent time with, and I would stick to them.
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Not in the least; I'll plainly ask, "are you having second thoughts about us?" you can look if you want to but in a relationship I remain loyal; the only eye of mine that wonders is the one on your body....I have no need to be jealous, or possessive; my first girl tried to make me feel jealous, but I laughed at her every chance I got, and I was single; I mean, why play games? I makes you look deperate, moronic, and petty. I guess it's to try to knock my stride or something....well, I'm more logical, then emotional, and if I see you trying to emotionally attack me, I alter my stratedgy.
I let my girl hang herself; if they do, bye-bye, no huge emotional break up, just a 'I'm leaving I hope you've found what you're looking for. enjoy.' for me, being in a relationship is weird anyway becuase I'm usually hi-flyin' and being in a relationship kind of 'earthens' you...gotta be sensible to make it work, reliable, and all that jazz....and make sacrifices; why make sacrifices for a person who dosen't feel the way you feel?.
well said, lovely.x
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though and through - why oh why u make me love u- its simple its for u its lovexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
only i am goin to be seein a virgo - but got pisces molds into u !!! and into my deep soul
i with virgo and shes doin everything right - but i would love that contact of pisces soul on taurus hot love, its a lovely thing x
okayyy, my paws are small, but not *that* dainty, i must admit... 
i am currently winning 10 for 1 in boxing, so i guess my hands are nimble enough! ws~(and don't worry merc, i would never take ANY controller apart..'circuit boards included' that would be sinful!..besides i don't think i would want to own an x-box anyway, am much more of a devoted ps2, gamecube fan..!! 
i am currently winning 10 for 1 in boxing, so i guess my hands are nimble enough! ws~(and don't worry merc, i would never take ANY controller apart..'circuit boards included' that would be sinful!..besides i don't think i would want to own an x-box anyway, am much more of a devoted ps2, gamecube fan..!! is this sourgraping? i don't need an answer because nobody will be telling the truth neither there's no point to believe.
passion is passion. no need for definition only perception. it only differ on how a person take it. think of and act upon it. positively or negatively. only two sides no in-between.
passion is passion. no need for definition only perception. it only differ on how a person take it. think of and act upon it. positively or negatively. only two sides no in-between.
and sometimes what these guys think they have no control of, are the things they actually have but just fear. when a man has faith, that's maturity.