Ok, Virgo Men.....Please respond.
Hi lindawin iv been reading every day and thinking should i or shouldnt i respond....well i just had to really. Roxi knows my story and has been good therapy. I too am married 14 years and apart from the last 7 months or so very happily.
I will give you a brief summary of my story...hope your sitting comfortably.....
I worked alongside virgo 2 years lots of banter there was a definate connection even chemistry (he 11 younger than I)I can honestly say i never saw a physical attraction but we were drawn together through our personalities. Anyway something strange happened coming home one night in a cab (a few of us been out drinking when world cup football was on and slightly drunk) he was coming back to stay over at our house, he got hold of my hand it felt really nice sweet i suppose, anyway i didnt let go he kept squeezing i sqeezed back all way home....after that we carried on as normal then week or so later he came to our house for a drink when he left he kissed me on cheek(again i thought sweet he not the type of guy you would really associate with holding hands and kissing cheek)again we carried on as normal nothing mentioned....I have to admit now though that i was seeing us differently....things moved quickly after that he went away for a few weeks with work and we text constantly sometimes 16 hours a day which started to turn into calls(?250 WORTH IN 3 WEEKS QUITE HEAVY GOING)when he came back we ended up together quite short very intense.....to cut an already long story short we dont talk any more i have had the cold treatment then nice again then been ignored..there is lots of stuff inbetween but now he has gone overseas for 7 months with his job he wouldnt talk to me about feelings much sometimes got angry if i tried to push him....well anyway i dont know what to say to you other than i know and it hurts like hell and the guilt as well ....i truly feel for you x
I will give you a brief summary of my story...hope your sitting comfortably.....
I worked alongside virgo 2 years lots of banter there was a definate connection even chemistry (he 11 younger than I)I can honestly say i never saw a physical attraction but we were drawn together through our personalities. Anyway something strange happened coming home one night in a cab (a few of us been out drinking when world cup football was on and slightly drunk) he was coming back to stay over at our house, he got hold of my hand it felt really nice sweet i suppose, anyway i didnt let go he kept squeezing i sqeezed back all way home....after that we carried on as normal then week or so later he came to our house for a drink when he left he kissed me on cheek(again i thought sweet he not the type of guy you would really associate with holding hands and kissing cheek)again we carried on as normal nothing mentioned....I have to admit now though that i was seeing us differently....things moved quickly after that he went away for a few weeks with work and we text constantly sometimes 16 hours a day which started to turn into calls(?250 WORTH IN 3 WEEKS QUITE HEAVY GOING)when he came back we ended up together quite short very intense.....to cut an already long story short we dont talk any more i have had the cold treatment then nice again then been ignored..there is lots of stuff inbetween but now he has gone overseas for 7 months with his job he wouldnt talk to me about feelings much sometimes got angry if i tried to push him....well anyway i dont know what to say to you other than i know and it hurts like hell and the guilt as well ....i truly feel for you x
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You sound much like my friend; she still faces this issue with her current partnerships...I can see how this can be frustrating for your partner; and someone that doesn't know this about you can easily be flustered if they don't know how best to handle it. It's good that your aware of how you are in relationships...otherwise that would cause even more frustration for you.
My friend's ex just couldn't deal with her inquisitions, and always accusing him of stuff he wasn't doing...go figure, now I hear he is a big time player and won't commit!
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"yes, i am like that in every relationship...so i know it is me.
my aqua does everything to cater to me and to please me, make me happy... but there are still times where i am unhappy..."
This has to do with you then....but you are aware of this, so that's good. I don't think my friend realizes at times how she is...she needs more self-awareness. Sometimes she truly believes her actions are warranted (suspicions, demanding, jealousy) and in the end she ends up pushing them away.
my aqua does everything to cater to me and to please me, make me happy... but there are still times where i am unhappy..."
This has to do with you then....but you are aware of this, so that's good. I don't think my friend realizes at times how she is...she needs more self-awareness. Sometimes she truly believes her actions are warranted (suspicions, demanding, jealousy) and in the end she ends up pushing them away.
So you might know I had this thing with this virgo. I never said it but it was quite obvious I liked her, I think she knew too. I know at the time she was into this other guy although she said to me "No, I'm not talking to him anymore."
Okay, I believed her.
Lies. All of it. Turns out they still talk and are possibly dating. If there's one thing I hate, I hate being lied to, I'd rathar she be brutally honest than lie to me.
She doesn't know I know. So, I'm thinking should I confront her about why she would hide this from me? Or should I just brush it off and forget about it like it never happened? Any advice on what to do next.
Okay, I believed her.
Lies. All of it. Turns out they still talk and are possibly dating. If there's one thing I hate, I hate being lied to, I'd rathar she be brutally honest than lie to me.
She doesn't know I know. So, I'm thinking should I confront her about why she would hide this from me? Or should I just brush it off and forget about it like it never happened? Any advice on what to do next.
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I did. I was 16 and had been dating my ex for two years at the time. I don't think he was the right person. The whole experience was so terrible to where I was celibate for 4 years.
thanks aquarianbrat 
....I think he's definitely worth the hard work and I will certainly TRY to keep the feelings out of it...it is hard though - grrrrr lol.
Thank you for the advice....I know he's at that "thinking" phase at the moment and he did mention he has been very distracted at work since meeting me, but we have such a great time when we do see one another and he finds it so difficult to leave when its time to do so - its just getting him to commit to seeing me again that's always the hardest part (and at the moment its once a week or fortnight which isnt nearly enough), and I don't do the rejection thing too well myself and have always had a partner who does the chasing but as a Leo, I have a little more front than him so I will try to gently lead - lead him where Im not sure, but I'll try hehehehe....I think he needs somebody to definitely do that but I don't want him to feel he is obligated to do anything as that's another problem: He will just want to please grrrrr....but knowing he's just sitting at home today and most nights I need to do something to make him want to see me more....just finding the right way is going to prove difficult - I'll have to think about it (taking a leaf out of his book)
Thanks again - its so confusing but I certainly think he's worth the effor
....I think he's definitely worth the hard work and I will certainly TRY to keep the feelings out of it...it is hard though - grrrrr lol.Thank you for the advice....I know he's at that "thinking" phase at the moment and he did mention he has been very distracted at work since meeting me, but we have such a great time when we do see one another and he finds it so difficult to leave when its time to do so - its just getting him to commit to seeing me again that's always the hardest part (and at the moment its once a week or fortnight which isnt nearly enough), and I don't do the rejection thing too well myself and have always had a partner who does the chasing but as a Leo, I have a little more front than him so I will try to gently lead - lead him where Im not sure, but I'll try hehehehe....I think he needs somebody to definitely do that but I don't want him to feel he is obligated to do anything as that's another problem: He will just want to please grrrrr....but knowing he's just sitting at home today and most nights I need to do something to make him want to see me more....just finding the right way is going to prove difficult - I'll have to think about it (taking a leaf out of his book)
Thanks again - its so confusing but I certainly think he's worth the effor
After reading this board.... Its nice to know that there are people out there still waiting for the "right person"........ Maybe I'll find her.....