Cappie ladies, are you really this forgiving?

Posted by Capri-sun

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Posted by lnana04

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I'm like this with my ex husband sometimes. I was just telling him sometimes we get along great as friends, then we sometimes have periods where we hate each other / argue / don't talk.

He's a sag. We went to a show together a couple of days ago.

He says that I'm the person that knows him best. He talks to me sometimes when he's having relationship issues. The most recent one, I guess she felt some type of way with me being his ex, which is understandable. If she knew me, then maybe she wouldn't feel threatened, idk.

At one point we were best friends, and when we can still do that, it's awesome. Do I go out of my way to make conversation with him? No. We are there for each other for the most part though, if one of us is in a bind or needs something (financial, emotional, etc.)

Are there feelings on my end? No. We don't have sex, and I see him as only a friend. At times I am even still guarded with him because sometimes I don't know which version of him I'm going to get while talking to each other.

My cap best friend is/was close or at least cordial with her boyfriend's exes. She still keeps a relationship with his other kids, etc. (They're no longer together, have a child together though)

I don't see anything wrong with keeping peace and harmony in a person's life, especially if children are involved. We haven't always been at the point we are now. There were times of tension, I just prefer things to be easy-going as they are now.

Forgiving him, has been a process for a number of reasons. It was to everyone's benefit imo that we are no longer together. Even when we were married, another woman, him, and I all sat down to have dinner and try to work through some things that I felt was inappropriate and she said I didn't sound mad, just disappointed more than anything.

When I step out of my feelings and look at things objectively, every relationship isn't meant to stand the test of time and last forever.

Sounds like the two of you are in a good place, which is good. Seems like his girlfriend just has to get on board.

I definitely can understand trying to make and keep the peace.

Yeah they actually broke up a few days ago...that's how I ended up going to a show with him.

I want him to be happy, that's why I wouldn't have an issue with anyone he's dating. I know I no longer have a desire to be in a relationship with him.

He just recently came around to the idea of me dating others & him not being able to say anything so that's a relief. I use to think he would be the type of ex to create drama if I was seeing someone so I wouldn't talk to him about that part of my life & always denied talking to anyone.

my mother in law told me (she's a cappy) and her nieces and family members, (brothers and sisters) also had chimed in, that they used to tell her to mind her own business in what the double virgo ex husband was doing with his life. She was just naturally CURIOUS.

if they (the Gemini wife and ex husband) was doing something, she would try to RIVAL it... they told her that it's NOT healthy to keep asking what they're doing for their birthdays or if they were gonna go on vacation and where...

lol

so she decided to keep out of that life, and not give a damn. I think only after her son was 18 (over age) that she finally didn't give a damn.

Lol. I laugh because that's how my ex sag is. At one point he told the kids to stop telling him about things that we do (vacations, birthdays). I'm not sure why people feel the need to compete or one up someone.

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