Ladies Don't be Naive, If He's Not Married to you OF COURSE THERE ARE OTHER WOMEN
Posted by AliensusedourbogrollYou're taken care of. You're not screwed over.Posted by aquarius09And?Posted by AliensusedourbogrollPosted by aquarius09Men con women into staying with them by marrying them but still cheat. No difference.Posted by AliensusedourbogrollHe's out to lunch on that. I'm not agreeing with him on this. I agree with him when he says that men use words to con women into getting in a relationship to bide their time. This narrative is commonplace. It screws women over all the time. I'm discussing an aspect to his OP which rings true.Posted by aquarius09Posted by AliensusedourbogrollYou're not understanding what I'm saying. I'm not contesting what you're saying. All I'm saying is that look out for your interest because you can get screwed over in both situations (marriage or common law). Marriage just prevents your rights from being breached. Your BF can drop you in two seconds after dating you for two years for another woman. You can't do jack in common law. In marriage, take him to court and make him pay the price for lacking integrity.Posted by aquarius09Words mean things when they are backed up by actions. You can work out someone's intentions through intuition, past history and actions. Marriage ain't gonna stop actions from changing so I don't see how that's irrelevant. Same goes with words too. Marriage might be an intent to be monogamous but we all know that doesn't always happen. Documents and rights don't mean diddly squat when it comes to cheating and marriage. If that was true divorce lawyers wouldn't be making such a killing.Posted by AliensusedourbogrollI edited my previous post.Posted by aquarius09Words and actions and intentions.Posted by AliensusedourbogrollHow do you assess or measure someone's commitment to you? Words, no?Posted by aquarius09I think you're the one missing the point. It's not about rights and documents. It's about commitment. If you can't commit when you're in a relationship but not married then why will you be magically able to commit when your married. As far as I'm concerned those post marriage relationships are a good indicator of what marriage with that person could be like.
The inherent message in this post that is passing over most people's heads is that verbal agreements mean nothing at the end of the day. A guy who is a boyfriend can pretty much up and leave you overnight or cheat on you and you can't do a single thing about it. You can definitely go crazy and take some crazy revenge on him, but guess who is losing? You when you're getting arrested for something crazy you did.
Marriage doesn't guarantee loyalty, but it sure does document things and gives you rights. A guy won't just be duping you overnight, and if he does, there will be hell to pay for it.
Words don't mean anything. Words change with situation. Intentions are not seen by the naked eye. As for actions, that's all you've got but even that changes with time and situation.
But it's not about rights and going to court. That's not what we care about. It's about committing and not cheating. This clown seems to think someone has a right to cheat on a partner just because they're not married to them. It's a moral thing.
Yep, but then there's hell to pay.click to expand