help, there's a bunny boiler in my marriage!!!!
red,
i am really proud of you. you needed to do that. now don't just set and wait. help him make these changes so that he knows you are serious. he will resist the help and you will have to make your stand over and over..don't be afraid to do that. in the meantime, reward his actions..when you see the progress, let him know you see and appreciate it...this will be an importand part of the result..if he feels like you are making him do it, he will hold on tighter..if he is rewarded for the effort, it will make it all worthwhile to him..like he is your hero..
when all this is done, it needs to be done and never thrown up in his face...or you will be right back to the same cycle...
ps...there are ways to block her emails and calls.
i am really proud of you. you needed to do that. now don't just set and wait. help him make these changes so that he knows you are serious. he will resist the help and you will have to make your stand over and over..don't be afraid to do that. in the meantime, reward his actions..when you see the progress, let him know you see and appreciate it...this will be an importand part of the result..if he feels like you are making him do it, he will hold on tighter..if he is rewarded for the effort, it will make it all worthwhile to him..like he is your hero..
when all this is done, it needs to be done and never thrown up in his face...or you will be right back to the same cycle...
ps...there are ways to block her emails and calls.
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Hi everyone I really need some advise here.
I am a 28yr old Pisces in love with an Aries man.I really need some advise here as my issue has been going on for a yr and I cant figure it out so all Ariens plz help.
I met this guy a yr ago and there was this instant spark, eventho we didn't speak there was this amazing connection. Anyways things moved quickly and we became physical. It was the most awesome thing I ever felt I felt so protected and safe as he is a very strong minded Aries. Anyway he says he doesn't want a relationship; however he will ask why I like him how he isn't good enough for me etc. When we talk on the phone (usually once or twice a week) one min he is nice and another he is cold and almost trying to push me away by being rude and mean. When we r together he has a hard time looking into my eyes not that he doesn't want to but he shies away. When we kiss theres so much passion its incredible, well me for me anyways. My point is he gives me the impression how he doesn't want a relationship with me one min then another min he wants me to come over or he will say I miss you but don't trust myself around you. He seems to always test me like see if get jealous and I will never react as I know it's a test and it seems to get him angrier. Push and pull game. He told me he knows that I love him but he isn't ready. If I don't call him for more then a few weeks he calls me to see where I am. The longest period that we didn't speak was 6weeks then he called saying how he let a good thing go away how maybe now he was ready etc?we met and we got physical and he got cold and mean. This guy is supper nice to mean then we will get physical and he is mean for a couple of weeks,
My question is am I wasting my time ?. Would my Aries man play this game for a yr, or could he be falling in love to and is afraid. This guy has been single for 5yrs his last girlfriend of 8yrs left him. Does he feel the passion I feel or am I living a dream?
Plz help me as I am driving myself crazy trying to figure him out.
Presenting evidence that contradicts a bogus claim is not self-defense...
>>I DID Not see any physical proofs. And even if I do see, sometimes proofs are fake too, like politicians creat one to "win" and cover their actions.
I'm not personally offended by these Claims
>> Even if you did, who cares??
, any more than I would be if you insisted my blue eyes were brown ...
>>I am NOT that stupid who will argue any thing just for the sake of it, to prove myself and say that "it's a nice romantic night with twinkling stars in the sky" in the middle of a sunny day.
YOU may be different, better and mature virgo as you do claim, however - the list represents majority of immature virgos.
I think though- self flattery is another sign of IMMATURITY.
>>I DID Not see any physical proofs. And even if I do see, sometimes proofs are fake too, like politicians creat one to "win" and cover their actions.
I'm not personally offended by these Claims
>> Even if you did, who cares??
, any more than I would be if you insisted my blue eyes were brown ...
>>I am NOT that stupid who will argue any thing just for the sake of it, to prove myself and say that "it's a nice romantic night with twinkling stars in the sky" in the middle of a sunny day.
YOU may be different, better and mature virgo as you do claim, however - the list represents majority of immature virgos.
I think though- self flattery is another sign of IMMATURITY.
Hmmm, I know they do like to be seduced as well. I know it works for this scorp. They also love little naughty text messages Chatz..
lol
Have you read the 118 plus messages on this topic?
I'd rather be a control freak than mind-numbingly bullheaded
Have you read the 118 plus messages on this topic?
I'd rather be a control freak than mind-numbingly bullheaded
Hmmm, I know they do like to be seduced as well. I know it works for this scorp. They also love little naughty text messages Chatz..
Not ban her, just the topic...
Sagittarius.
well simple...don't read them.
Why do you tell me what to do? Who's being a control freak now?
...and I read the entire thread, because I thought that maybe at some point this woman would see the light...
...that someone might explain the situation to her in such a way that she might get it...
And I was ready to applaud when she did.
But she still doesn't. 'Cause she is stubborn.
...that someone might explain the situation to her in such a way that she might get it...
And I was ready to applaud when she did.
But she still doesn't. 'Cause she is stubborn.