Posted by nikkistarWill you just GET OFF MY POST. I hate having to scroll through your pseudo empowered chick b***sh**t. This is MY post let people answer my question and go away.. Never asked your opinion about how I live my f***king life, you're annoying as f***k. Don't give a crap about your little one mean boyfriend. One bad relationship makes them an abuse survivor with the right to preach. I don't give a s**t about anything you're saying. Why are you even here??Posted by PeanutButterandEllyWho says what I experienced is singular though? I'm just not going to sit there and be like "OH THIS AND THIS AND THIS happened to me". It's no one's business, and I think people use their pasts too much as an excuse. Though I understand what you are saying, I lack apathy for people who are like the OP.Posted by nikkistarDifferent backgrounds, upbringings, communities all vary. Circumstances matter a lot. A singular harrowing experience with abuse is traumatic enough, and I'm so sorry you went through that, without even knowing the details.Posted by PeanutButterandEllyThat's why I cant comprehend it. I have an ex from years ago, that was physically and mentally abusive. The horrors I faced with him, showed me the red flags I look out for today.Posted by nikkistarI mean, it's actually makes sense if you look at it subjectively from the OP's perspective.Posted by PeanutButterandEllyYea, but I literally can not logically understand this.Posted by nikkistarIn my experience it's less about intelligence and more about personal history and how someone sees or values themselves.
I still think you're a troll. People can't be this dumb.
But this situation is very believable to me. Mostly cause I've witnessed similar first and secondhand.
If this OP is a real person. She is admitting to a series of abusive relationships in her 48 years of life. And now is in just another abusive relationship in the form of emotional abuse, and she doesn't care cause her vagina is being filled up. I literally can not understand how anyone can give their self respect up all in the name of sex.
If you're in a series of abusive relationships for most of your life and it's all you've known, why would any of the warning signals set off alarms?
If the baseline of your life is that abuse is normalized, then it makes complete sense that when you find partial fulfillment(like in a sexual relationship that's really good) that seems genuinely good compared to enduring abuse with no fulfillment.
That is why I can't understand how she can't see it. I know people react differently, but this is nuts to me.
There definitely are places and people in this world that are born into lives which abuse is reguarly ignored, normalized or even encouraged though.
It's like this perpetual victim complex they want to live with. It's aggravating to me.click to expand