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Feb 25, 2016Comments: 3349 · Posts: 3193 · Topics: 50
Depends on the person. Disappointment, letting someone/yourself down, not living up to society's idea of "perfect"...lots of different things I think.
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Mar 24, 2017Comments: 9 · Posts: 1000 · Topics: 33
Ive never dated fixed, but i know i have a hard enough time trying to change cardinals
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Aug 24, 2011Comments: 17 · Posts: 5119 · Topics: 78
I agree that communication is key, but I wouldn't go so far to say he's a momma's boy. He may be a bit coddled though. I have a friend who's very successful, but his mom did a lot for him growing up. His girlfriend does a lot too as a result, but she's also busy. So she's laid down some ground rules to make him more independent. So don't be afraid to lay down your boundaries.
Virgos can also be picky and run the risk of being too critical as they try to "perfect" you. His mother and grandmother are his idea of "perfection", so it's obvious why he brings them up. Again communicating with him that you are a completely different person is fine. It is good that he is being vocal about his standards though. Some people may passive aggressively hide this information and judge you for not meeting their expectations.
Also the fact that he has a positive relationship with the women in his life is a good sign. How he regards them is how he'll regard you. It's no secret that sons use their mothers as templates for the women in their lives, the same way daughter's use their fathers. If he loves his mother, he'll be able to love you.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Because the fallout is often painful and embarrassing.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Also not everyone learns from their mistakes.
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Aug 07, 2013Comments: 14265 · Posts: 5321 · Topics: 61
i don't think it's a bad thing at all that he respects and loves his mother. Virgos are particular so she must be a hell of a lady!! I find that men who respect their mothers and have a good relationship with them more often treat me with greater respect and care. I love when my man is close with his mother bc I like to spend time with their mothers myself since mine is gone. I don't think it is a problem unless they are truly a mommas boy who, in adulthood, are still taken care of by their mother. There has to be a certain level of independence and set boundaries. I think it's nice that your Virguy sees you in such a positive light. They can be super critical out of love haha.
I know my Virguy is incredibly nit picky and just picky in general but it's because he truly wants the best for both of us. now that's usually HIS idea of what is best of course lol. When the nitpicking gets a lot to bear, I try to remind myself that he only wants to help me become the best me. His heart is in the right place, but his execution may be lacking. Occasionally, I have to tell mine that I know he loves me and is trying to help, but sometimes I feel overwhelmed by his picking. He might get a little butthurt but in the end, he tries to understand and backs off. Communicate your feelings to him if his behavior bothers you, or nothing will change. best wishes!!