? Being single never felt so good ?
Posted by EllygantIt's good that you realized it in time and you could make the right choice for yourself. The poignant moments are so important to heed -- truly a gift to have them. :-).Posted by CopperDoveI had a moment exactly like that right after my ex proposed. I'd been questioning for months if I should leave or not before he proposed. It took having a poignant moment where I saw a negative trajectory to really make sense though. When I love someone it's easy for my affection to overrule good sense.Posted by EllygantI can relate.Posted by CopperDoveMy thoughts exactly.
For me, being single is better than being in a bad relationship, but not better than being in a good relationship.
I was severely lonely and depressed the last year of my long term relationship. I was so lonely. I remember that vividly. And the times I have been terribly lonely single were still not nearly as bad. It's much more painful to be paired up and lonely than single and alone.
Overall I'm enjoying being single more than ever. I still would prefer a partner and close friend to being single the rest of my life.
Also, there was one relationship that I was in that was so stressful at a certain point that the anxiety I was experiencing daily from it was worse than anything I'd ever experienced in my life. One day I was walking somewhere and I suddenly had a flash in my mind of myself years later if I stayed in the relationship - of what that could do to me, and how I'd be looking back and wishing I'd gotten out sooner. It stopped me in my tracks literally. I knew without question that I had to get out of the relationship ASAP.
Which makes you nervous to be in a relationship again and become very happy and content being single. So full circle on the dating cycle lol.click to expand
In contrast, a friend of mine realized a few very negative things about someone he had proposed to, but the wedding was already planned by that time. He went through with the marriage so he wouldn't lose face with his relatives (who had been invited to the ceremony). Looking back, he wished that he hadn't been so concerned about that and he had called everything off - the woman he married turned out to be even worse than what he had picked up on.