Eh?!
Oh only 3 weeks in, and the problems are starting!
Every time we're intimate, if I ask for anything or guide him somewhere he gets in a strop. When we were first intimate last week I was asking him if what I was doing was good for him, and he went in a strop saying he doesn't like 20 questions! All I wanted was to know if he was enjoying it! Also he lasts for hours, and I mean hours, so by the time we get to bed he's too tired to be staying up till early in the morning, but yet when I suggest we go to bed earlier he says he wants to chill out for a bit longer. It's making me a bit insecure cos it feels like it's me although he insists it isn't, so I take his word for it. It's not causing arguments yet, although we are having heated discussions about it. Maybe it's a clash of egos or something. Usually I'm quite sexually confident, but his attitude has deflated me a bit and I'm getting nervy about it all. He tells me how much he likes me, how comfortable he feels with me and how much I make him laugh. I know it's early on and that at first sex sometimes isn't great, but I'm not sure how to remedy the situation as I can be blunt at times and I know this sometimes hurts his feelings (I'm working on thinking before I open my mouth
)
Any ideas on what I can do??
Every time we're intimate, if I ask for anything or guide him somewhere he gets in a strop. When we were first intimate last week I was asking him if what I was doing was good for him, and he went in a strop saying he doesn't like 20 questions! All I wanted was to know if he was enjoying it! Also he lasts for hours, and I mean hours, so by the time we get to bed he's too tired to be staying up till early in the morning, but yet when I suggest we go to bed earlier he says he wants to chill out for a bit longer. It's making me a bit insecure cos it feels like it's me although he insists it isn't, so I take his word for it. It's not causing arguments yet, although we are having heated discussions about it. Maybe it's a clash of egos or something. Usually I'm quite sexually confident, but his attitude has deflated me a bit and I'm getting nervy about it all. He tells me how much he likes me, how comfortable he feels with me and how much I make him laugh. I know it's early on and that at first sex sometimes isn't great, but I'm not sure how to remedy the situation as I can be blunt at times and I know this sometimes hurts his feelings (I'm working on thinking before I open my mouth
)Any ideas on what I can do??
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Is easy because you're beautiful....
Making love with you
Is all I want to do....
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Is more than just a dream come true....
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Is out of loving you....
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The colors that you bring....
Stay with me while we grow old....
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And every day of my life
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Minnie Ripperton Lyrics - Loving You Lyrics
Loving you
Is easy because you're beautiful....
Making love with you
Is all I want to do....
Loving you
Is more than just a dream come true....
And everything that I do
Is out of loving you....
No one else can make me feel
The colors that you bring....
Stay with me while we grow old....
And we will live each day in spring time....
Because loving you....
Has made my life so beautiful....
And every day of my life
Is filled with loving you....
Loving you....
I see your soul come shining through....
And everytime that we....
Oh I'm more in love with you....
I was, ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh sooooooooooo madly inlove with MacGyver.
ew, he's probally gross now, or probally was! lol
ew, he's probally gross now, or probally was! lol
well , we just had a talk.Basically,he wanted to go back friends at the end of term because he is moving to other place .I agreed immediately because I m tired of his way going back and forth , seriously damaged my mental health! 
He looked bit suprised when I said yes and then said it isnt that it s not gonna work , maybe later we could get together ! Something like bit more than friends and then let s see! I disagreed and let s just be friends from now on .So now we re friends ! and actually I m very glad about that , even it hurts little bit but felt a big release 
Thank you everyone for helping me so much.
He looked bit suprised when I said yes and then said it isnt that it s not gonna work , maybe later we could get together ! Something like bit more than friends and then let s see! I disagreed and let s just be friends from now on .So now we re friends ! and actually I m very glad about that , even it hurts little bit but felt a big release Thank you everyone for helping me so much.
You guys keep putting me down about trying to get in someone head when its not even relavant. Its like I ask you guys what do think is better cocaine or heroin and you guys give me lectures about doing drugs. If I wanna be a junkie let me be. If you don't have any valid input as to what I'm asking then don't give me any. I'm not asking what I should do in this situation and I'm not sitting around crying about it. Believe me I can replace any guy in a minute (Thanks Beyonce) I just like to observe human nature and I like to make mental notes of people I know and what sign they are and how they act. I get in his head he gets in mine thats our problem not yours. And its not what this thread is all about. If I wanted to know If I should get in his head I would have made a post about that. This post just asks if virguys tend to miss there freinds when there in retreat mode. Is that so difficult. I just want a YES OR NO thats it.
Another lucky thing for us , maybe especially for me is that we didnt get to that "stage" so it s really easy to walk away
OK, this is so bad! Check it out if you THOUGHT he was cool too.
"Maybe this is my blind faith at its highest.."
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I am glad that you achieved and outcome that you find emotionally acceptable and satisfying... What now?
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