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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1234 · Topics: 79
No,,we beat around the bush, we'll give clues,,back off, and want you to read between the lines..and we get hurt if you dont get the hint..
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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1234 · Topics: 79
I wouldnt call us Sneaky...just curious and suspicious.
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Mar 27, 2006Comments: 1 · Posts: 211 · Topics: 26
This is a question for the cancer men. Has there ever been a woman that you totally connected with and knew she was the woman you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.........? If so, how did you know? What were the qualities about this woman that attracted you and what was it about her that you loved/love?
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
All of the remarks on here are suggesting lessons learnt .. either the responsibility of the teacher, or the timing of the reception of the reciever ..
.. who says that anybody even wants this intrusion?
It's automatically assumed that somebody wants to learn something .. maybe the don't.
Up to what point does one stop? From the very beginning, of course.
Even as DC said about timing .. that's ONLY if someone wants to change, or learn something new.
This all seems a bit controlling to me. Whether I learn something new today, or 10 years from now .. isn't that at my discretion and whether I choose it to be so? If I were with a person and I sensed that their aim was to change me in some way, in which I had no desire to do so .. I'd bail.
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Jan 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 213 · Topics: 17
yes I do kitty.
I agree softy we are a curious. plus we are like kids we absorb everything. just when you think we are not listening...
we were the kids who when mom and that said "curiosity killed the cat' we said "but satisfaction brought it back"
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Jan 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 213 · Topics: 17
kris you don't want the flowers I am offering...I brought them just for you.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
It doesn't matter from where the motivation comes from, if the result is to think that you have more knowledge over the other as to their happiness.
That's controlling, no matter what name you give it.
Don't you know yourself better than anyone else? Maybe it would make you happier to have all eyes on one person at all times .. you just don't know it. lol
If it's in the name of love .. then the aim should be to accept, rather than change.
How arrogant would a person be if they thought that they knew over me as to what would make me happy .. and call it love? In other words, it would make the person wanting the change to be present in their partner, happy.
"keep on hoping/putting in efforts or even teach emotions and feelings to some one whose perception is totally different" .. this is Capri's hope and desire, not the other's persons .. that isn't love, that's control over the other so that she can be happy because he has just become the person she wanted, lol
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
"Don't you know yourself better than anyone else? Maybe it would make you happier to have all eyes on one person at all times .. you just don't know it. lol"
Oops, sorry .. that was for someone else.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
That's not the point, DC .. you are talking from your perspective and WANTING to learn and experience .. that's not what this is about.
This topic is about the other person making the decision for you, whether or not you need to change, because THEY have better insight into what you need to be happy.
Certainly, I want to grow in my life .. but, it's not up to another person to decide that for me .. that's bullshit, and call it love?
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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1234 · Topics: 79
I'm more curious in a quiet way though, I hear and see everything without someone knowing. I observe peoples's movements facial expressions,etc..while appearing to be non-interested.