I feel betrayed. Am I being irrational?
Posted by shellyBwellOh and by the way when I say I 'hurt' him I mean when I broke up with him not cheating just invade you want to be slick with a smart ass comment lol. I was very loyal and committed in that relationshipPosted by GemitatiYea, sure.. lol I know for a fact that it was a forever thing with me.. he got pissed I broke up with and after talking to you I have gained a full scope and understanding of it all now. My scorp doesn't plan on returning to be out of fear that I'll hurt him again. The main reason he reached out was because his heart didn't want to completely be separate from me not knowing whether I hated him or even looked at him funny after I left because of him flirting outside our relationship! Now that he knows I still love him and even think about reuniting this has boosted his ego and made him feel better about his self and the breakup so now in a sick way he wants me to feel some type of way but guest what I no longer care and in due time when it's hits him when he reaches out agin it will be a done deal... my ex scorp was there for years and even yelled at me how hurt he was that I left because this was forever for so I'm not worried about what your saying you don't know shyt about my life lol...✌️Posted by shellyBwellI'd Scorpio doesn't love you - you can't keep him happy. A lot of men of all signs just park anywhere until closer parking spot will become available. If he is with you at the moment it doesn't mean he is with you forever.Posted by GemitatiYou talk as if it's a sure walk in the part when it surely is not. I pretty much went above and beyond for my ex scorp to keep him happy 24/7 but the moment he started holding grudges and allowing his bad vibes and extremely high expectations for no reason to control how he interacted with me pushed me away. If She continues to do that towards him he will become even more defensive towards her. I honestly can't speak if he'd cheat but it will push the room and space for him to fantasize outside their relationship because this will make him miserable to be around herPosted by shellyBwellIt's easy to keep Scorpio happy.Posted by GemitatiYes, scorps tend to be too freaking serious! She's upset at him messaging other women which I'm not saying is wrong at all! She has a right to feel that way but she also needs to let it go if it has been addressed and he understood that that was and never will be acceptable.once it has been addressed,talk to him about the real root of the issue which Is not those women but why he feels like he has to reach out to other women the way he has. Every action in a relationship causes a reaction and it's about how you communicate to fix it. Scorps hold grudges which cause even more issues which leave us aquas confused as to why you are acting as if you hate us. We make mistakes just like y'all do.. only difference we know when to let go when y'all don't. He didn't cheat on her and I'm pretty sure he realizes it was wrong esp. if he loves her. Like a said aquas once committed arebvery loyal.When a scorp and Aquarius get together the sparks fly positively and negatively because we hold different pov's in everything.Posted by shellyBwellOh, really? Scorpios are fun killers?
As a female aqua I can tell you now you need to communicate your true feelings to him. My ex scorp and I had problems in this same area because he didn't want me having or even thinking to befriending any firends of the opposite sex while we were together. I can honestly tell you that aquas once commited are very loyal. We are very sociable people and enjoy having a good time. I can tell you from my point of view you scorps definitely have a tendency to create a buzz kill when you come off so serious when you don't have to be at times. We love you with all our hearts but we just want you guys to be more welcoming to some great fun. even if its just the two of us just add some fun and i promise seeking this outside of it won't be the case. I can tell you he was seeking what was lacking.. friendship wise.
Only when someone rips their skin off!
It's no fun because it hurts!!!
Aqua need to find another 'fun loving' Aqua who will be happy to find a real date while he is on FB befriending women.
When he wakes up - I hope they'll have a laugh together!!!
Just love them. And you will get more than you give. 24/7click to expand
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Posted by OrGasMeBiting down WOULD bring tears to his eyes....Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX..............
The first thing you do is you gotta grab it. Not too tight or you'll get calluses.
Then you want to look that little sucker in the eye and say "Come here, little guy! Come here, you little earthworm! You like that?"
I learned that from Eskimo porn.
And then just bite down. Hard.
Posted by LadyNeptuneFoil in the microwave = badPosted by bawlikestogomooMe too. But first I wrap it up in foil
I like to dip it in condiments, like ketchup and honey mustard. Then microwave itclick to expand
Posted by pinkbird03The best part is you know where you're possibly effing up n that's a cool thing.Posted by TeenaProbably both! They don't actually want a relationship and I need to give more space so I don't pressure them. I must say i get better with every guy I date!! Maybe eventually the 20th one will be the charm!! ?Posted by pinkbird03Maybe just slow down a tad with opening up n stuff n give them more space. I don't know how clingy you're being but why blame yourself. Maybe those guys weren't even looking to be in a relationship.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
?
lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??click to expand
Haha yeah 20 sounds like a good number. Goodluck?
Posted by pinkbird03So get into speed dating asap! ?Posted by TeenaProbably both! They don't actually want a relationship and I need to give more space so I don't pressure them. I must say i get better with every guy I date!! Maybe eventually the 20th one will be the charm!! ?Posted by pinkbird03Maybe just slow down a tad with opening up n stuff n give them more space. I don't know how clingy you're being but why blame yourself. Maybe those guys weren't even looking to be in a relationship.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
?
lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??click to expand
Posted by OrGasMePosted by Wineaux15Posted by Fun4LifeThe equation goes:Posted by OrGasMeSo the conclusion is, 'sexual attraction and subsequent action upon such feeking, generates some form of emotional bond, and/or loyalty'?Posted by Wineaux15Yes. I agree! And I actually become pretty addicted to havin sex with my chosen partner. So if they don't stick around, it really sucks... My loyalty usually last longer then the actual relationships. It can take awhile for me to completely let go...My Virgo man and I got off to an interesting start. I met him during my party days. He was a bartender and I was a promoter. We spent a lot of time around eachother in the nightlife scene. And due to our environment, we progressed quickly. We first had a one-night stand. Completely unplanned at a view point in the rain...
@OrGasMe I can't do FWB either. I would not have sex with you until I KNEW we'd be together. But after that.... it's ON. Now, I had one kind of FWB who... strangely enough was a Virgo with Libra Moon... and everything else. I thought we were friends until one day he said we were together and everything else was weird after that. He was the one guy other then my husband that I could've seen myself with because both of us had extremely sarcastic humor and we'd just laugh and have fun with each other all day.
I tried to cut him off and assume the mindset that he wouldn't see me as anything more. But he ended up reaching out to me and our relationship progressed. At first it was adventurous hook-ups. But then he began inviting me to events with his friends. His friends would talk about me and put it in my head that it wasn't normal for him to bring a girl around.
I tried to get close with him in the same way that we originally 'connected' and that was a mistake on my part. Assuming that sexual advances would encourage him to pursue something more. Silliness on my part. But I couldn't seek connection with anyone else at that point. Even though our connection was lacking to begin with. I was extremely loyal to the guy simply because we had sex.
He was pretty boring too. Lol
But it's funny you say that. The Virguy and I connected initially over sarcastic humor and witty banter until I somehow ended up in his lap???♀️LOL
I can totally relate - Virgo moon...Venus in Leo.
Complete Ability to Trust you + Great Time or Laughs x Unbelievable Sex - Judgement = A Loyal Aqua Partner
Like you can add a dash of intensity or crazy and even subtract some freedom, but if you don't have these things above as a foundation... no cookie or loyalty for you my friend.... that's just me though and I am an Aqua.
This is a great explanation. I will be sending to my future husband @GetMistedclick to expand
Ayyyyyeee I'm telling you... That Aqua Sun vs. Scorp Sun Gem Moon chemistry is pretty amazing. Even as just friends.
Posted by DarkLoneWolfYou sound like my best friend. I offered sympathy before I even caught him crying and he turned it down. I asked him repeatedly if he wanted to talk, if he needed a hug and he said no. THEN, the following day is when I caught him crying. Should I have went to console him? Sure. Would he have accepted it? No. It would've pushed him further away due to him liking to be alone.
He lost his CHILD...
Ever think this has nothing to do with YOU?
Some people need to take their pride and shove it.
You saw his vulnerable side, and you didn't do a single thing to comfort him.
Of course he's going to stop talking to you. YOU made him think you don't give a F U C K.
If you actually showed some sympathy towards him, I am pretty certain things would have played out differently. He would start to be more trusting around you with his feelings.
As long as your pride is in the way, please move along.
So the not giving a fuck part is a lie. I care a lot for him, but I can't force him to accept my sympathy/love.
Posted by TeenaSheesh...do you know people here? They will blow it out of proportions so I will have to adopt you to prove to them I am having pure intentions and not some kind of creepy ones...now...1-2-3 bathroom run ???Posted by GemitatiLOL!! I want you to be with me everywhere here.. letting me post all stupid things, smacking me when I'm wrong or getting all emotional, defending me from stupid ppl... I effing NEED you ???Posted by TeenaI've missed 2 posts! Like if you don't want me to be here! ?Posted by Gemitati??? I need not tag you Gemi! You own this convo?Posted by TeenaI would appreciate if someone tagged me into this convo.?Posted by pinkbird03Maybe just slow down a tad with opening up n stuff n give them more space. I don't know how clingy you're being but why blame yourself. Maybe those guys weren't even looking to be in a relationship.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
?
lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??
Thankyiuverymuch!
Well...I think I am PMSing or getting pre-menopausal. Whatever comes first.??click to expand
Posted by GemitatiLOL!!! Yes yes I know how it is here. We'll have an official dxp adoption bond made n digitally signed by us?Posted by TeenaSheesh...do you know people here? They will blow it out of proportions so I will have to adopt you to prove to them I am having pure intentions and not some kind of creepy ones...now...1-2-3 bathroom run ???Posted by GemitatiLOL!! I want you to be with me everywhere here.. letting me post all stupid things, smacking me when I'm wrong or getting all emotional, defending me from stupid ppl... I effing NEED you ???Posted by TeenaI've missed 2 posts! Like if you don't want me to be here! ?Posted by Gemitati??? I need not tag you Gemi! You own this convo?Posted by TeenaI would appreciate if someone tagged me into this convo.?Posted by pinkbird03Maybe just slow down a tad with opening up n stuff n give them more space. I don't know how clingy you're being but why blame yourself. Maybe those guys weren't even looking to be in a relationship.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
?
lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??
Thankyiuverymuch!
Well...I think I am PMSing or getting pre-menopausal. Whatever comes first.??click to expand
Wtf is bathroom run tho????
Posted by GemitatiLol u clingy?? No way!! I don't believe that for a second. I think I get emotional. I'm a cancer sun Scorpio moon and Venus Leo. I've got a big heart! I cry during happy times in movies!!Posted by pinkbird03Ok. HOW clingy are you really? Describe.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
?
lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??
I know I can be unbearable. Not kidding! As hard as this to believe?
However when you cherish that man - you figuring out what he is made of and if you are not complete dolt - you get when he is happy or pissed. And adjust accordingly!
If I was acting like myself - I would be history a looong time ago.
See?click to expand
Ok so I'm clingy by texting a lot, asking lots of questions even dumb ones just to know more about the guy, I want a lot of attention and to be the only girl he gives attention to, I enjoy talking on the phone and video chatting, I think wayyyy too much about him
When I realize I'm acting this way, I do sometimes back off a little or a lot. Won't text for a day or two is the most I can go! But then I go back
Posted by GemitatiPosted by pinkbird03So get into speed dating asap! ?Posted by TeenaProbably both! They don't actually want a relationship and I need to give more space so I don't pressure them. I must say i get better with every guy I date!! Maybe eventually the 20th one will be the charm!! ?Posted by pinkbird03Maybe just slow down a tad with opening up n stuff n give them more space. I don't know how clingy you're being but why blame yourself. Maybe those guys weren't even looking to be in a relationship.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
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lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??click to expand
Lolol not a bad idea!
Posted by TeenaPosted by pinkbird03The best part is you know where you're possibly effing up n that's a cool thing.Posted by TeenaProbably both! They don't actually want a relationship and I need to give more space so I don't pressure them. I must say i get better with every guy I date!! Maybe eventually the 20th one will be the charm!! ?Posted by pinkbird03Maybe just slow down a tad with opening up n stuff n give them more space. I don't know how clingy you're being but why blame yourself. Maybe those guys weren't even looking to be in a relationship.Posted by TeenaPretty much!! They don't act too interested and it's usually a phase outPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemitatiPosted by TeenaThen she gets clingy with texting and calling.Posted by pinkbird03I get it. So what happened when you were ready n willing?Posted by TeenaI get attached with the idea of wanting to be in a relationship with someone I like. I haven't really liked a lot of guys in the last 6 or 7 years that I've been single and just dating. Only 3! So when I like them, I don't want to lose them. That's why I get attached. But I also have my wall up and never like the guy that much in the first month. And I never meet a guy I met online for at least a month if not longer.Posted by pinkbird03I think the first case is because you're looking for validation (not because you're not getting enough already.. it's just how human brains are wired..we need validation from someone who we think we can't have) n not because you're in love. Or you just love the idea of love n the chasing part which seems thrilling.Posted by Gemitati1. I want what I can't have and don't want what I can have. So basically i like to chase the guy I like. Then when he wants me, I don't want him anymore! So I distance myself and then he distances himself and then I want him again until he wants me! I don't like guys that chase me first! I've turned down two celebrities who chased me at different times. Like how stupid was that!!!Posted by pinkbird03Well than therapy is in order!!!Posted by Gemitatilol I look good naked! I actually have so much confidence being single!! Maybe too much! It's the relationship that I'm insecure with!! I'm just not good at it!Posted by pinkbird03It's all in attitude darling! Men can sense your insecurity. STOP it!Posted by GemitatiI'm going to be a cougar one day...Posted by pinkbird03Do you want 20 at 40? I don't think so.
Ill have to stay young looking forever because no one loves me!! I mean no guy!!
since I'll be single forever
Look at yourself in a mirror naked!
Assess your body. Whatever you don't like - fall in love with it because it's yours!
Good luck!
What is going wrong?
2. I get too emotionally attached before the guy does and that I think scares him away!
3. I'm a bit clingy! With texting and talking
4. I have a huge wall up! Which means I don't trust guys one bit
5. I always think there's someone better out there for me so I have a hard time settling. I'm also super picky!!
I'm sure I could think of other problems!!
Getting too emotionally attached too soon n having huge walls up sounds contradictory. So in what way are you getting attached? Like what do you share(or don't) when you think you're getting attached? Do you retreat once you think you've shared too much?
N feeling there's always someone better can be because you didn't find the one. Did you meet someone who ticks all your boxes yet didn't fall for him? N did you meet someone who you thought you actually fell in love with(not just the chasing part) n let go of for whatever reasons? If you did, what were the reasons?
No I haven't met a guy who meets all my criteria lol but those 3 have been pretty close and I was willing to settle.
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lol yea!
Lol! And then they run away??
Haha yeah 20 sounds like a good number. Goodluck?click to expand
Lol yea I do see it! Thanks for the talk!