Are you Scorpio females receptive to being a FWB?
Posted by Infinite8I only had this experience once.. with a neighbor girl of mine when I was 18. She was curious.. but in love with her boyfriend... And I was in love with someone too.. who it wasnt working out with. We were both emotionally unavailable. But sexually interested in one another. It was amazing, and brought us closer as friends.Posted by CopperDoveYes of course! I don't mean to judge, I'm just asking because I'm curious and want to try to understand it as well.Posted by Infinite8Thanks for sharing your views! I respect them and I can understand why it might not work for a lot of people.Posted by CopperDoveThis is so interesting to me. All that Sag energy might be the culprit!
I wouldn't be insulted if the person presented it as you intend to, @WaterDevil - honest, respectful, and they had gotten to know me in person as a friend and were fine either way with whatever my answer was. In other words, they'd still want to be friends if my answer was no. My answer might be yes, possibly. But, I would feel sad if I had romantic feelings for them, because no way could it work for me then.
If Sag placements are at work at all, yes, I have them - Sag Mercury and Neptune conjunct in the 7th house. My 7th house is ruled by Scorpio, so the house is intercepted. My Scorpio sun is in the 7th house too.
There is a part of me that actually thinks I can handle a FWB - perhaps because of my Libra Air bits? But, when I think about the details of it, it just wouldn't work at all because I honestly wouldn't be a friend - I would be very cold about the matter.
I find myself unable to care at that level and yet not get emotionally affected.
My Leo moon would require me to feel like my partners best plus one and only. All my Scorpio bits wouldn't be able to handle all the casual feelings I am SUPPOSED TO have - because in reality, they would become intense if I have sex with someone I care about as a friend. They would no longer be a friend.
Lol... no, no, no... I would be the worst candidate for a FWB ?
I think the key, for me, is that the feelings aren't shallow or detached, they just aren't romantic. Any time I've had a relationship of this kind it has been with someone I've known quite well. There was trust and caring because it was a good friendship, plus mutual physical attraction, but no romantic feelings on both sides. It was always monogamous and relatively short term with the sexual part of the relationship
When I read how many people describe FWB, often there doesn't seem to be a true friendship underlying the relationship, so I think that the term is kind of a mess as it's often used.
I'm in agreement with you, that most people that do it, really don't have that much friendship, trust or respect involved. I could see how that could make a huge difference.
I was trying to imagine what you described and tried to imagine myself doing it - and I think the hardest part for me or the part that seems unnatural to my behavior is to be able to combine:
-caring deeply for a person
-be physically attracted to that same person
-have deep trust / bond
-be monogamous
And not get romantic feelings or jealous of the person leaves me without warning for someone else. I don't know how to be casual.
I think I could only do it if:
- I found him physically hot but mentally stupid... but then, I'm not sure if o would be grossed out afterwards because I just had sex with someone I didn't view as the best.... DAMN!! It's my Leo mars!!
Omg... it's my mars! I have to have sex with what I consider the best.
Lol... I think my mind wants to believe I can do something like this, but in the end... it wouldn't work out. I think I become very picky when it comes to sex and I measure it up (I know, sounds awful... but I think that is what happens) - so if I see a flaw (reason I have no romantic feelings) then, I just don't want to have sex with them. I can play around - but not the full deed.
Are you by any chance mutable dominant? I am also fixed dominant and have almost no mutable energy (1% I think).
Thanks for sharing!! I think the way you do it sounds very healthy... especially because you know neither party will hurt the other party.
But how did it feel the first time you did it?!?? Did you just go for it and then surprise yourself that you could handle it? Or did you have some trepidation to the unknown but since your experience was good, the fear went away?click to expand
also my mercury is in leo.. venus and mars in virgo
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Venus in Aries guy I know loves to chase .. he sounds disinterested , ugh
Posted by -cIoudy-Yeah....it puts my pre-menopausal moans into perspective
guys my age have a lot of experience behind their backs. Even the best of the best have been fucking hookers since they were 13. if not hookers then having a new gf every two months. You know how highschool is like. At least where I live
It's impossible to find one woman that is able to satisfy a promiscuous guy after years of different experiences. And the more years pass the more nitpicky and insatiable he gets. It's already too late. Even the most timid 15 yr olds have sky high standards
And I'm already 17. You do the math
From what I gathered from the "sex worker" thread:
"engaging in physical sex with many people permanently diminishes a person's ability to thoroughly enjoy a meaningful relationship (sexual or otherwise)"
It's impossible for them as wild beasts in their teens and 20s to have all that variety and then replace it with one single person that is supposed to fulfill everything they experienced and enjoyed previously
Especially in my case. I'm Caucasian which means that by the time I'm in my early 20 I'll be one foot in the grave youth wise. The clock is ticking
Who said that youth was lost on the young was right!
I think your answer (why you attract those guys) may lie in your question. It seems like you're struggling with your selfworth and self esteem, maybe you're scraping the bottom of the barrel dating wise because you subconsciously think you don't deserve better or that those are the only men who may want you.
Thing is: they aren't.
Facing eclipse season maybe take your last sentence to heart and love yourself for the next couple of months. Find something that is just you, maybe something creative? Maybe a new sport or other activity? Observe yourself. Pay attention to what you love about yourself and why. Heal those things about yourself that you struggle with. Find your self worth and confidence. Deep down you already know you're better than your current perception.
Thing is: they aren't.
Facing eclipse season maybe take your last sentence to heart and love yourself for the next couple of months. Find something that is just you, maybe something creative? Maybe a new sport or other activity? Observe yourself. Pay attention to what you love about yourself and why. Heal those things about yourself that you struggle with. Find your self worth and confidence. Deep down you already know you're better than your current perception.
Posted by brianafayThisPosted by -cIoudy-Posted by brianafayPosted by -cIoudy-Posted by brianafayI'd rather not have my heart broken the way fuccbois do with uvd's
Focus on being a kid you're only 17
You don't need to settle down anytime soon
Don't date fuccbois then
The question I've been asking for the last 3 pages is how to distinguish fuckboys from decent ppl
Idk maybe some are really good at pretending but I feel like they are easy to spot
Pay attention to what matters to them ...are they career driven or ambitious ? Are they close with their family ?
Do they ask you questions about yourself ? Do they remember things you told them ?click to expand
The way a boy is raised has a huge effect in how he treats women
Posted by DonJohnPosted by brianafay
Focus on being a kid you're only 17
You don't need to settle down anytime soon
she is at the pivotal age now actually.
this is the make or break herself stage of her life.
she can go down 2 paths.
1. start slooting away her pair bonding ability like 90% of other girls. leading to single motherhood or barren land.
2. finding the right man who will treasure her above all else because she saved herself. and start having children in her early 20's as nature intended. body bounces right back. healthy children. life is beautifulclick to expand
You know who you're talking to right ?
Although I did meet my mate when I was her age I focused on getting my shit together and starting my career before getting married and starting a family
Not that everyone has to do things my way but it worked for me
Posted by Cancerian87Have you tried asking HIM out? Sounds to me that he put in a lot of footwork. Maybe he thinks it's your turn. Which is fair.
I am a cancer sun myself so I understand what it's like but can't figure out he's just being crabby or not interested.. he is Cancer sun/Aqua moon. I am cancer sun/sag moon..
So I met him on a online dating website. We exchanged number and texted each other for a week or so.. His bday weekend was coming up and the same weekend I had my friends bday party to go to.. He asked if we can meet up and celebrate the bdays together. I said yes.. Later that night we met, and had an amazing time and we kissed. We parted ways and texted me asking if I got home safe and even spoke on phone for few minutes. Next morning he texted me and asked me for brunch. I said yes. Met him for brunch, we ate a lot of food and really enjoyed ourselves. He asked me to spend the day with him and again, I said yes. We went to his place, picked up his dog and spent the day at the park. Then went back to his place watched some TV. He made pizza and had some wine. We slept together that night and next morning I went to work. He texted me an hour later confirming if I got to work okay and thanked me for "not making his bday suck". I told him I really enjoyed time with him and glad he did too..
Not after that, he never texted me. I waited a week and texted him. He texted back hours later telling me how he just got home, he was out of town for a wedding for four days.. Since then he has been texting me but barely and sometimes he texts back the next day. He said work has kept him really busy but who is too busy to text back that late. I texted back sorry he had a rough day and wish tomorrow is better. He responded later in the evening saying no it was still really busy. I felt like he wasn't interested and maybe it was just a one night thing for him. So I decided not to text him back. Figured he will text if he's still interested. So the next day he texted me asking how my week is going. He texted me a few times then and now again, no response. In the last week we've texted he has not tried to ask me out again either.
I just don't know what's on his mind. I like him and want to date him but now it's been 2 weeks since I saw him. Am I just wasting my time or do I need to wait this out? I'm a cancer myself so I know how it is. But I don't know how to put myself out there without any confirmation that he wants the same. Please help and thank you
Posted by -cIoudy-Observe well......learn to read people
It boils down to luck.
Posted by LadyNeptuneSEA horse, yeah... I can see that.Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyHere is my horse face sans props lol
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Yer adorable.
Posted by -cIoudy-Give yourself some credit
It boils down to luck.
You are a smart girl
Posted by brianafayWise womanPosted by DonJohnPosted by brianafay
Focus on being a kid you're only 17
You don't need to settle down anytime soon
she is at the pivotal age now actually.
this is the make or break herself stage of her life.
she can go down 2 paths.
1. start slooting away her pair bonding ability like 90% of other girls. leading to single motherhood or barren land.
2. finding the right man who will treasure her above all else because she saved herself. and start having children in her early 20's as nature intended. body bounces right back. healthy children. life is beautiful
You know who you're talking to right ?
Although I did meet my mate when I was her age I focused on getting my shit together and starting my career before getting married and starting a family
Not that everyone has to do things my way but it worked for meclick to expand
It's a huge committment.