Control
Posted by pisceanlovesDo what?!
Controlling behavior is Co sidereal as domestic violence
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Messages
Moon and Mars in Virgo
Venus in Scorpio
Sun conjunct Chiron (wound around body image/identity)
Very challenging
Find out her birth time .... House placements are important
Venus in Scorpio
Sun conjunct Chiron (wound around body image/identity)
Very challenging
Find out her birth time .... House placements are important
Posted by TauruswithspunkGirl.
I've been through a lot!
Been on my own since I was 15 which is why I'm so independent now.. people always ask how I handle these kids on my own... you learn to get tough in these streets Is all. Used to be a stripper in Miami (one of the toughest neighborhoods) before I had kids, met the father of my kids there (we were together 7 years and married despite the stereotype and had three beautiful kids)... I know how men work.... I act dumb on here like I don't know because I'm looking for love so I overlook a whole bunch of shit.
Don't give me their signs just tell me the issue and I'm gonna give you some real advice and tips.... you think I won't? Try me... no signs just the issue.
I love you ❤
We desperately needed a post like this.
This forum is full of people asking relationship advice.
Now my turn ?
And yes, I'm naming placements ??
My bf wants to go slow. My scorpio Venus is all iffy about that, and my scorpio rising agrees.
He's a scorpio sun, rising, Mars (all in the 1st, all conjunct) and has a Virgo Venus.
We both been hurt. We both have guards up.
But I give my all, and bare my soul.
He holds back a lot, isn't really emotional (Libra moon) and yes, he respects me, hes loyal, he lets people know I'm his.
But the going slow and holding back confuses me.
My Venus is like "fuck it, you can have all of me" (it's in the 12th, I have a Pisces moon, along with an 8th house Mars)
His Venus is like "wait wait, hold up, slow down"
How can we remedy this?
We both aiming to put time in.
Both committed and ain't straying.
He is the absolute sweetest man ever, he just moving really slow ?
That makes lots of sense, terrible but true...
I see he is punishing me but I feel that he loves me. That puppy eyes sometimes...
The worst thing is that every time he pushes me away I behave like I don't care and I shatter his ego again. - Trying no to brag here - But he knows that I could choose anyone. And I show him that he can be replaced in a minute ( no that I would have sex with any other). I can't stand rejection so we are in a fight of egos right now. Uff... this is not good.
At the same time he knows I want him so he is all puffed up.
What a terrible situation... so sad. Because I know that he loves me.
We see each other in a friends group and he always put music telling me things. Sometimes are about wanting me but lots of time are about a love that he can not have or not reciprocated.
Now I am in deep... so my survival mode is walking away... but at the same time I don't want to give up. I haven't felt this way for anyone in 15 years. I know is special. We are so similar in so many ways, and the love is always there, it is the desire that is killing us. We are good friends.
So when I see him next time in the day time he should see that I have moved on?
I don't know when I will have the chance to go for it next time we are alone or if I will be able to do it. Now I am in a defense mode myself.
Ahhhhhh.... so hard.
What do you recommend? Is plan A to wait and plan B to attack if the opportunity arises?
I sound desperate! Hehehe. This is not me at all... This Aries man is really messing me up. But I think I am enjoying the drama a bit...I like the challenge.
What if he confesses how he really feels? Then I should tell him and not be scared anymore? Or you don't see that happening any time soon? Lol
Some things are not easy to hear but I think you are spot on. I really appreciate your time. You have been amazing with all the help.
I see he is punishing me but I feel that he loves me. That puppy eyes sometimes...
The worst thing is that every time he pushes me away I behave like I don't care and I shatter his ego again. - Trying no to brag here - But he knows that I could choose anyone. And I show him that he can be replaced in a minute ( no that I would have sex with any other). I can't stand rejection so we are in a fight of egos right now. Uff... this is not good.
At the same time he knows I want him so he is all puffed up.
What a terrible situation... so sad. Because I know that he loves me.
We see each other in a friends group and he always put music telling me things. Sometimes are about wanting me but lots of time are about a love that he can not have or not reciprocated.
Now I am in deep... so my survival mode is walking away... but at the same time I don't want to give up. I haven't felt this way for anyone in 15 years. I know is special. We are so similar in so many ways, and the love is always there, it is the desire that is killing us. We are good friends.
So when I see him next time in the day time he should see that I have moved on?
I don't know when I will have the chance to go for it next time we are alone or if I will be able to do it. Now I am in a defense mode myself.
Ahhhhhh.... so hard.
What do you recommend? Is plan A to wait and plan B to attack if the opportunity arises?
I sound desperate! Hehehe. This is not me at all... This Aries man is really messing me up. But I think I am enjoying the drama a bit...I like the challenge.
What if he confesses how he really feels? Then I should tell him and not be scared anymore? Or you don't see that happening any time soon? Lol
Some things are not easy to hear but I think you are spot on. I really appreciate your time. You have been amazing with all the help.
I can tell you it's not the safest, you must prepare for the worst. Good luck.
Posted by Capmercury87I wish it wasn't this way.Posted by saweetz1988Posted by Capmercury87
I used to casually sleep with my aqua ex.
He was super cuddly, gets anxious around me, held my hand, kissed my forehead but went and found a gf, then after that failed asked for me back as a fuck buddy. I told him no and now he is super depressed and has distanced himself.
Can't tell if he slept with me because he wanted me back and didn't know how to go about it or just liked the connection.
Either way I moved on cause I can't keep being intimate like that with someone and not wanna be with them. This aqua don't work like that.
I feel it's ann amazing connection they have built with someone they don't let go easily. They will ditch u to try and find other connection but if that fails that will come back to you. If you have the patience then yes but the sad part is ESP Aqua men thry don't seem to be happy with what they have currrnt they always wanting to find other options. Thinking the grass is always greener on the other side.... that might chance when they r older more evolve like 40 plus age . This is my experience ... how long weee u with ur Aqua ex for? Chances that when he came back to u wanting a fuck buddy is all bullcrap they just didn't want seeem like they r the weak one missing u lol..,, glad u let him go in proscd
He was crazy. We were together three months then years later almost 5 months, he vanished, got into bad things, ended up doing drugs etc.
He would always message me saying he missed me after all the girls he chased cheated on him.
I emphasized with him and am still here for him except no sex etc.
He has really low self esteem and always goes for girls who aren't chasing him even some times not interested in him.
He has alot of growing up to do.
I regret none of my choices.click to expand
We have a child together.
I always wanted us to just be a family but he left me when I fell pregnant, started sleeping around etc. while I was pregnant. He was scared of commitment, angry that I was taking his freedom away I guess and just couldn't deal with it. Yet two weeks earlier.... it seemed our ties could not of been broken. Everyone around us could feel our energy.
Things have always been a fight since then, he even ran away with our child.
He has done so many things to me that most would not be able to forgive and no one has seen this side of him except for me.
But people don't get it. It's not just a matter of what's right and wrong... it's i KNOW with every fibre of my being that I could never NOT love this man.
Of course I'm going to hope that he realises sooner or later that im it! but maybe im just delusional! maybe that will never happen! I've never had to deal with the feeling before so I have no idea how to overcome it.
He is an absolutely wonderful father, a hard working man (i know he doesn't sleep around now), he has no trouble in social settings.
But love is not enough, no matter how strong!
I want what should go with it.... companionship, affection, helping each other climb that ladder of life! commitment... trust. And I cant give myself to a person I know I will never be able to love.
And now he is on good terms with me... and helping me figure out family troubles and legal stuff and wanting to be at the anniversary of my deceased loved ones...
things he hasn't done for a longggg time.
its so easy for me to be fooled by him... im vulnerable to him..
but you're right, and I probably should just move on!
He'll never be ready for me.
And after such a long time i should not still be trying.... and waiting... and making excuses for him. its enough. ugghh that feels better and worse to release!
More complicated than calculus.
Signed Up: Jan 27, 2012
Comments: 4343 · Posts: 13269 · Topics: 69
Comments: 4343 · Posts: 13269 · Topics: 69
Posted by DistilledSynastry is energy between two people.
How does it work?
I'm sorry this is happening to you. I hope and pray it gets better for you. I know you have accepted this for what it is, but I'm still going to pray for you. Miracles do happen, and I really hope it does in your case. I can't imagine how you feel, but I do hope you feel better now that you have this off your chest. ❤
Well someone has to do the cooking and cleaning. Usually, that ain't me ???
Posted by hydorahLol, I agree with you.
you don't "remember" what you sent?
can't you just look it up on your phone? or are you still drunk?