I just don't know anymore...
Posted by csdude55LOL you know it's funny you mention that, because I actually kind of thought this before... she's an extremely clingy friend. She'll ask where I'm at, what I'm doing. She get so jealous when I hang out with my other friends, and she seems to hate or have nothing but bad things to say about my friends. She always wants to cuddle up with me (I'm NOT affectionate, and I don't like being touched unless it's by my bf). She's like a clingy girlfriend ?I've always kind of thought she has a thing for me bf. She hates him way too much, and puts too much energy into OUR relationship.
She admitted she hates seeing us together especially now because her boyfriend died.
The reason why I stopped talking to her was because she lied to me and said his ex was at his house, in his room. I went off on him because of it. Turns out, she was talking about me being in his room. She didn't know I was there, so she just assumed that it was his ex and was so confident when she said she was there. I had to just shut her out after that. Then she gets mad at me for confronting my bf lol
Yeah, this girl is definitely trying to break you up. It has nothing to do with his brother passing, she has a history of it.
Are you 100% sure she's not in love with you, though? All signs point that way: she's getting close to you, hates him, is trying to make you hate him while she's there for you...
Regardless, the obvious advice here is to ignore anything she says, this is a toxic friendship.
As for your boyfriend, a lot of guys feel undue social pressure to keep their emotions inside. We're never allowed to cry, especially not in front of our girlfriend! You're never supposed to see us weak. So keep that in mind... in addition to the depression and stress, he really might just not know how to grieve so he's bottling it all up inside. And he might not feel comfortable grieving with you because of that ridiculous social pressure.
You've already asked him upfront, and he said he still wants to be with you. So I don't think he's checked out of the relationship. If you still love him, then my advice would be to just hold on and be there for him when he's ready for you.click to expand
Anyway, I tried to be her friend for my boyfriends bro, but I definitely can't be around someone who's so negative all the time.
Ahh I see. That does make a lot of sense. Especially because he grew up in a house full of men. The only woman in the household was his mom. 6 men and one woman. He does have a hard time showing emotion. And when he would cry in front of me when we first found out about his bro, I would hug him, but he kind of would imply that I stop. Maybe he was embarrassed?
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So I have had this longtime crush on my pisces coworker for about a year. One day he asked me if I could cover a shift for him, and it was the day before my vacation so I told him I would let him know. He asked if he should contact me by email, and I said well you could just have my number...
He has always been shy and aloof at work. I never imagined that he would be interested in me. He started texting me everyday, and finally asked me out. Our first date was a concert and meal in the city. Everything was great. He was so sweet, a gentleman. He seemed a bit off at the concert, so I asked him if he enjoyed it. He said yes and no. That the whole time he wanted to give me a big bear hug. I asked him why he didn't, and he told me it was because I was the first girl he has been out with in a year, since his ex of two years. On a different date, he told me that they broke up after a year of him isolating himself. That he could have slept around, but that it just wasn't in his personality.
We went on a few dates after that, and he was so enthusiastic in the beginning. He would constantly text me, check in to see how was work, how I was doing, if i needed anything. During my breaks he would come into the break room just to share his food with me. So nurturing and caring. I am involved in dance, and so he would ask if he could join me (even though he can't dance) and started looking up future concerts to go to together.
Then things progressively got worse. He got flakey and more distant. After date 3, which was kayaking and a meal, he invited me over to this place to watch a movie. We were both shy and held back, but eventually he cuddled with me. I could feel his heart beating fast, and he seemed a bit tense overall. After that day, we continued to text. He made a suggestive "joke" about sending each other nude pictures. I found that to be off-putting, because it was so early on in the relationship, when we weren't even intimate in person yet. I confronted him about it and he said sorry, that he didn't mean it to be offensive, but finds that to be an exciting element of an intimate relationship. He also told me, "I think life is all about spending your time with one partner" I told him its fine, I just wanted to make sure his intentions were good and he wasn't just looking for one thing.
Then he texted me less and less. He would still pop back up every few days, but it was definitely a different vibe. It's the end of summer, and I know he has a lot more going on in his life now. He is about to start his last year of college, and he is taking care of a lot of things on the side, while working nearly every day of the week. He would make plans with me, but then cancel at the last minute. Or I wouldn't hear from him the night before, and always have to ask, "so what are we doing tomorrow?" It got very frustrating. I am very flexible and understand you may have a busy schedule, but at least be considerate of my time. If you have to cancel, just give me a heads up. Don't leave things up in the air.
I confronted (always calmly) him on his flakiness, and he apologized. Told me he was overworked, overly tired, and has so much stuff to take care of every week, and only has one day off. I told him I could help him out, and he thanked me for being understanding. He told me he wasn't trying to "squeeze me in" and actually was looking forward to spending the whole day with me. After this incident, it did seem like he made efforts to change, but they were only temporary. I had to ask him again about the plans, and he made excuses like "I am not sure, I have a procedure tomorrow after work.." So I told him to forget it.
Problem is, I do believe his reasons/excuses. On our first date, he did show me what was to be operated on. I work with him, so I can see how tired he is and how many hours he puts in.
The very last time we hung out, I made the plan. He was running on three hours of sleep after work, so we ended up cuddling for three hours and then going out to eat. At dinner, he seemed really spacey and I asked him if he was okay. He also brought up his ex again. How he never raised his voice or called her names, and she basically "ran away screaming and left". How he always tried to fix things. I asked him if he was over her, because he has brought her up almost every time we hang out. He said he was, but he could be in denial. Its been over a year, and I have seen her have a few boyfriends after him including a seemingly happy relationship right now. I know her too, because she was also a coworker. She has since left the job and moved to a different state. As we walked back to his car, he apologized for bringing her up so much. He didn't realize it, that he stopped bringing her up to his friends.
After that date, I wished him a happy trip. He went on vacation to his hometown for an entire week, and I didn't hear from him. I left him alone to enjoy his trip and relax. When he came back, he made no efforts to reach out to me. Overall, its been two weeks since he initiated anything. I have had to initiate everything. So I decided that maybe he is just not into me anymore, and indirectly telling me. Weird, because the last time we hung out, he said things like, "next time we will do more things". And also, "I only date one girl at a time. I don't date multiple girls at once, that's just stupid." "I don't leave a girl just because she doesn't have sex right away". His words are reassuring, but his behavior is strange and unpromising!
Everything seemed wonderful at first. We were both equally excited, caring, considerate, and kept in good contact. I wasn't clingy, I gave him space when he needed it, and still put in efforts by initiating once in a while. Whatever happened, I don't think its on me. He wanted to get intimate pretty early on, and I told him that it was too fast for me, and that I wanted to take things slowly. He supposedly was fine with it and understood that everybody moves at their own pace. I don't think he was only looking for sex; it doesn't seem like his personality. The other day he smiled very sweetly to my mom, and asked if she was okay with us hanging out. He never pressured me into anything either when we cuddled. We haven't even KISSED actually (after hanging out about 6 times). Well anyways, I am not sure what happened, but I have decided its best to move on. It hurts, but I have no other choice. I have been giving much more than I have been receiving in return lately.
Maybe he isn't over his ex even though he thought he was. Maybe in the process of taking things slowly, he got distracted by his busy life and a little bored. Maybe he isn't ready to commit yet. Maybe he just lost interest in me (which is odd, because he always looked happy hanging out and wanted to take things further). It is just so strange for things to suddenly burn out like this, with no explanation. Do you think he will come back? I am not going to sit around waiting for him, I will move on and focus on myself. But if in the future he is ready and I am still single, I am willing to try again..
So I have had this longtime crush on my pisces coworker for about a year. One day he asked me if I could cover a shift for him, and it was the day before my vacation so I told him I would let him know. He asked if he should contact me by email, and I said well you could just have my number...
He has always been shy and aloof at work. I never imagined that he would be interested in me. He started texting me everyday, and finally asked me out. Our first date was a concert and meal in the city. Everything was great. He was so sweet, a gentleman. He seemed a bit off at the concert, so I asked him if he enjoyed it. He said yes and no. That the whole time he wanted to give me a big bear hug. I asked him why he didn't, and he told me it was because I was the first girl he has been out with in a year, since his ex of two years. On a different date, he told me that they broke up after a year of him isolating himself. That he could have slept around, but that it just wasn't in his personality.
We went on a few dates after that, and he was so enthusiastic in the beginning. He would constantly text me, check in to see how was work, how I was doing, if i needed anything. During my breaks he would come into the break room just to share his food with me. So nurturing and caring. I am involved in dance, and so he would ask if he could join me (even though he can't dance) and started looking up future concerts to go to together.
Then things progressively got worse. He got flakey and more distant. After date 3, which was kayaking and a meal, he invited me over to this place to watch a movie. We were both shy and held back, but eventually he cuddled with me. I could feel his heart beating fast, and he seemed a bit tense overall. After that day, we continued to text. He made a suggestive "joke" about sending each other nude pictures. I found that to be off-putting, because it was so early on in the relationship, when we weren't even intimate in person yet. I confronted him about it and he said sorry, that he didn't mean it to be offensive, but finds that to be an exciting element of an intimate relationship. He also told me, "I think life is all about spending your time with one partner" I told him its fine, I just wanted to make sure his intentions were good and he wasn't just looking for one thing.
Then he texted me less and less. He would still pop back up every few days, but it was definitely a different vibe. It's the end of summer, and I know he has a lot more going on in his life now. He is about to start his last year of college, and he is taking care of a lot of things on the side, while working nearly every day of the week. He would make plans with me, but then cancel at the last minute. Or I wouldn't hear from him the night before, and always have to ask, "so what are we doing tomorrow?" It got very frustrating. I am very flexible and understand you may have a busy schedule, but at least be considerate of my time. If you have to cancel, just give me a heads up. Don't leave things up in the air.
I confronted (always calmly) him on his flakiness, and he apologized. Told me he was overworked, overly tired, and has so much stuff to take care of every week, and only has one day off. I told him I could help him out, and he thanked me for being understanding. He told me he wasn't trying to "squeeze me in" and actually was looking forward to spending the whole day with me. After this incident, it did seem like he made efforts to change, but they were only temporary. I had to ask him again about the plans, and he made excuses like "I am not sure, I have a procedure tomorrow after work.." So I told him to forget it.
Problem is, I do believe his reasons/excuses. On our first date, he did show me what was to be operated on. I work with him, so I can see how tired he is and how many hours he puts in.
The very last time we hung out, I made the plan. He was running on three hours of sleep after work, so we ended up cuddling for three hours and then going out to eat. At dinner, he seemed really spacey and I asked him if he was okay. He also brought up his ex again. How he never raised his voice or called her names, and she basically "ran away screaming and left". How he always tried to fix things. I asked him if he was over her, because he has brought her up almost every time we hang out. He said he was, but he could be in denial. Its been over a year, and I have seen her have a few boyfriends after him including a seemingly happy relationship right now. I know her too, because she was also a coworker. She has since left the job and moved to a different state. As we walked back to his car, he apologized for bringing her up so much. He didn't realize it, that he stopped bringing her up to his friends.
After that date, I wished him a happy trip. He went on vacation to his hometown for an entire week, and I didn't hear from him. I left him alone to enjoy his trip and relax. When he came back, he made no efforts to reach out to me. Overall, its been two weeks since he initiated anything. I have had to initiate everything. So I decided that maybe he is just not into me anymore, and indirectly telling me. Weird, because the last time we hung out, he said things like, "next time we will do more things". And also, "I only date one girl at a time. I don't date multiple girls at once, that's just stupid." "I don't leave a girl just because she doesn't have sex right away". His words are reassuring, but his behavior is strange and unpromising!
Everything seemed wonderful at first. We were both equally excited, caring, considerate, and kept in good contact. I wasn't clingy, I gave him space when he needed it, and still put in efforts by initiating once in a while. Whatever happened, I don't think its on me. He wanted to get intimate pretty early on, and I told him that it was too fast for me, and that I wanted to take things slowly. He supposedly was fine with it and understood that everybody moves at their own pace. I don't think he was only looking for sex; it doesn't seem like his personality. The other day he smiled very sweetly to my mom, and asked if she was okay with us hanging out. He never pressured me into anything either when we cuddled. We haven't even KISSED actually (after hanging out about 6 times). Well anyways, I am not sure what happened, but I have decided its best to move on. It hurts, but I have no other choice. I have been giving much more than I have been receiving in return lately.
Maybe he isn't over his ex even though he thought he was. Maybe in the process of taking things slowly, he got distracted by his busy life and a little bored. Maybe he isn't ready to commit yet. Maybe he just lost interest in me (which is odd, because he always looked happy hanging out and wanted to take things further). It is just so strange for things to suddenly burn out like this, with no explanation. Do you think he will come back? I am not going to sit around waiting for him, I will move on and focus on myself. But if in the future he is ready and I am still single, I am willing to try again..
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Everyone is capable of using their intuition some are better at tapping into it and don't second guess themselves.
It starts by trusting your instincts and intuition, this helps to be able to read people better. Most of the time when you meet people for the first time you have already made certain judgements, instincts kick in whether you trust them, like or hate them.
Eventually this leads to being an empath where you can absorb the surroundings and the people, this isn't always great and others moods can have a negative effect on you and be draining experience.
A lot of the times I can have visions but it's due to logic, intuition clear thinking nothing to do with prophecy.
As for future predictions I don't believe in psychics, every time a person makes a decision cos of free will your destiny changes, therefore no one can predict that.
We can't even 100% predict the weather with all our tech and knowledge so how do you think someone can predict you path.
It starts by trusting your instincts and intuition, this helps to be able to read people better. Most of the time when you meet people for the first time you have already made certain judgements, instincts kick in whether you trust them, like or hate them.
Eventually this leads to being an empath where you can absorb the surroundings and the people, this isn't always great and others moods can have a negative effect on you and be draining experience.
A lot of the times I can have visions but it's due to logic, intuition clear thinking nothing to do with prophecy.
As for future predictions I don't believe in psychics, every time a person makes a decision cos of free will your destiny changes, therefore no one can predict that.
We can't even 100% predict the weather with all our tech and knowledge so how do you think someone can predict you path.
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As a kid...
Anthony Kiedis was my first love I think - Scorpio
JTT!!! - Virgo
Devon Sawa, especially in Casper the Friendly Ghost and Now and Then - also Virgo
Lol so true !! We will never forget that moment Devon Sawa as living Casper came down those stairs
Ew it's so bad! What the hell is up with his nose ?click to expand
Too much white stuff
What do you expect with child actors
oh and the cutest teen's crush on
Melanie Thierry
Melanie Thierry
My chiron quintile His Nessus. What does that mean?
I am the chiron person. Am I able to heal His abusive tendenties ?
Quant find anything about iT on internet...
I am the chiron person. Am I able to heal His abusive tendenties ?
Quant find anything about iT on internet...
Im Virgo wife Aqua
Been together 14years and still going strong.
Other signs were just 2 people who love each other.
But to add we both have moon in capricorn.
-Good emotional connection and connect well on same beliefs.
She has Venus and Mars in Pisces makes her love unconditional but too nice dreamy and sensitive.
My venus is in Libra Mars in Leo.
So i can be judgmental and care free but my Leo has to always want to have control in life.
Been together 14years and still going strong.
Other signs were just 2 people who love each other.
But to add we both have moon in capricorn.
-Good emotional connection and connect well on same beliefs.
She has Venus and Mars in Pisces makes her love unconditional but too nice dreamy and sensitive.
My venus is in Libra Mars in Leo.
So i can be judgmental and care free but my Leo has to always want to have control in life.
Posted by Wannabedoc97Cannot say; only you. As Piscean I can only "guess" you had an injury and that you seem to think that was the "pin" that busted your bubble. As Piscean (Descendant), you are also an optimistic person (turn that negative into a positive). You're either too "comfy" at having people help you, you ask for help and you get it, etc., as Pisceans always find a means to make/get/receive monies.Posted by EvatheDivaYou're very right with a lot of that. Be that as it may, idk why I procrastinate. I wasn't always like this. I was active and loved doing sports and what not until I was 16. Then everything I loved and did declined significantly. I'm 19 now.
You're a procrastinator (typical Piscean trend); when you get tired of this, you will move your arse and do something about it!
So since you also have that even though your sun is in Scorpio, you are an emotional sensitive person. You will have the majority of each Pisces traits {dreamy, sensitive, over-emotional, talented,artistic,shy}.
Scorpio's ruler is Pluto, the planet that initiates us through ordeals, where we're stripped of all we've known. Scorpio is a sign that's intimate with the sense of something greater taking over -- a primal force -- and with that, comes the wisdom to be wise and cautious.
Your sun sign takes up only a small quantity of your traits. Your ascendant is just how you act when people have first impressions on you. Your sun is just you in the midst and your true colors.
Your moon in Aries: Aries Moon guys and gals have the emotional equivalent of flame wars. They get fired up, but then quickly have a change of mood.cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Like I said, as Piscean when you get sick and tired your motivation (willpower) will kick in! Also, remember that Pisces are two fish swimming in two different directions (north and south) with a cord attached to its mouth; one is lazy (stays below waters near a rock) while the other one is the mover (salmon; swims upstream and fights the currents). Which one are you? Pisces is also a "mutant" sign; meaning anything you want to do you can "transform" into that, say your career, going to school, acting, "getting what you want"
etc. Just keep this in mind while I wait for you to Google Pisces characteristics -- "When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired your willpower will kick in." And when it does look out!!
cyber hugs! Love,
Eva
I met a cancer man 7 months ago, we were dating around 1 month, we were going good, but he feel I started to be serious with him, and yes I am, cuz he started to draw our future, I know it was too fast and we were just broken up with our ex around 6 months ago in that time, then we stopped to see and message each other, maybe we will message once a month or every second months, but just say hi, how are you something like nothing, I even saw him dated with another girl, now he started to message to me again from 3 weeks ago, he said want me go to travel with him, want to be with me again, only be sweet to me,want to go anywhere with me, I feel so weird and confused, what's he want?
Posted by TauruswithspunkGood luck and I imagine she's proud. Wish I had tips on handling crowds but I don't lol.Posted by Catullus??? I toooootally feel you. And yes I get anxiety in crowds. I put on my face but it's one of my hardest challenges, but my mom last wish. For her, I'll do anything ❤️Posted by TauruswithspunkGood for you! I don't think I could handle being in the spotlight lol. The closest I got was taking drama in school, performing art creds were required for graduation lol.Posted by CatullusTook a long time to get my music off the ground... should've started long time ago ? Now I perform and dip ? Still learning lolPosted by TauruswithspunkLol, I never would have thought you were an introvert. Glad you love it though!Posted by Catullus??
Online lol.
Anyway, is this related to your son? I recall you asking about his behaviour at one point.
No... but it made me realize I need to be ok with it... because I am an introvert too and didn't realize this is exactly how I am... I don't go outside unless absolutely necessary and it's only because my parents never allowed me to go outside so I became and introvert and you know what? I freaking love it lolclick to expand