Ex's not giving closure.
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@Aquascorpio9 - My sun sign is Leo and I have a Libra moon.
Its quite a complicated story but the bottom line is that we have an age difference and her parents disapproved hence why we broke up. They thought I was too old for her. Our relationship was great and she admits that too. She says I am amazing etc and she was saying it a lot recently.
After we split she went back to her ex, and his parents refused her. It turns out that when she went home to speak about him, her parents said no again. She admitted realising she is too reliant on her parents opinion.
Now she is with someone else and they seem to be having difficulties and she reached out to me. What annoyed me was the fact that she hardly made and effort as it is and when she needed a shoulder to cry on I was the one. I felt emotionally used and sent her an email asking her why she finds it hard to speak to me about how we broke up, how I felt she disrespected and me and if she has any emotional issues that are unresolved and we can talk about it and clear the air. We work together so it would make things easier.
She ignored it as well as all the attempts I have made to communicate in the past. I had moved on too but when she brought up her issues, it brought back emotions for me and I did ask her to reconcile. She said I gave her lots to think about and she wanted to talk again but she didn't. She just sent me an email saying "lets be friends."
I have an expectation in friendships too, they are a 2 way street where respect is given. I feel she cant give me that, that's what annoyed me and that's why I said we cant be friends.
I have since broken up with my cancer girl because I don't feel its right to be with someone when I still have unresolved feelings for someone else. I think she is also in the same situation but is trying to move on to forget me. I fail to understand why after a year it is so hard for her to open up to me, considering she is now seeing someone else. If the feelings have gone, it should be easy to speak about unless I am wrong.
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Posted by 8434EI think we're all mirroring your projection.
Why do i feel like i live on another planet, i don't even get what i'm supposed to be embarrassed about?
Or is it just about image to you guys??
The fact that you still have to ask, after multiple suggestions and advice by people, makes me wonder how self-aware you really are.
And...I'm done here.
@MissM
Thank you for your advices and encouragement.
I will try not to let it CONTINUE get to me because it already did.
I didn't think I am usually a sensitive/ paranoid/ insecure person and I really hate this side of me. And this usually only surface in love, when I am dating someone new. ( maybe my cancer ascendant is affecting me)
I am usually independent, optimistic and rarely get moody when I am on my own. And all this leads me to think why do I put/allow myself into such situation.
Oh well.
Thank you for your advices and encouragement.
I will try not to let it CONTINUE get to me because it already did.
I didn't think I am usually a sensitive/ paranoid/ insecure person and I really hate this side of me. And this usually only surface in love, when I am dating someone new. ( maybe my cancer ascendant is affecting me)
I am usually independent, optimistic and rarely get moody when I am on my own. And all this leads me to think why do I put/allow myself into such situation.
Oh well.
Posted by Senorita_LLAll my exes are alive...probably. HahahPosted by NixxStay away from me, you cereal killer.Posted by blvckphaseIt's funny because I'm scorpio and mercury dominant. I love Gemini's and Scorpio's but they don't love me back!Cancer mars is a murder mars! Hahaha. It was a crime of passion, I swear!Posted by NixxOur Sun & Moon are both opposite. But we both have that murder MarsPosted by blvckphaseFor comparison sake:Posted by NixxSurePosted by blvckphaseThat's interesting, can I ask what the rest of your placements are?Posted by NixxYes, I am a Scorp dominant Gemini. And you are right.. any aspect with Neptune / Venus tends to cause a bit of a delusion in love I think.Posted by blvckphaseThat's what I was thinking but I think because of the nature of neptune, it's a more difficult conjunction. I also have the venus conjunction with uranus. Are you a scorpio dominant gemini?Posted by NixxConjuncts are normally positive. The squares and oppositions are where things get messy.Posted by blvckphaseWhat houses do they fall into? I have a venus/neptune conjunction, and I avoid reading about it. Hahaha. Nah but I do have a hard time seeing my relationships clearly.
Venus Opposition Neptune & Venus Opposition Saturn
Hardest aspects within my chart I find. Have not at all learned how to manage them and they do not get any easier to deal with. Finding out about them was like impending doom.
Also have Neptune Opposition Chiron, Uranus Opposition Chiron & Saturn Opposition Chiron
But I don't know a whole lot about them or how they effect me.
As far as Houses.. you mean what House my Venus & Neptune are in?
Venus - Cancer 8th
Neptune & Saturn - Capricorn 2nd
Sun - Gemini - 8th House
Moon - Scorpio - 12th House
Ascendant - Scorpio
Mercury - Gemini - 7th House
Venus - Cancer - 8th House
Mars - Cancer - 9th House
Jupiter - Gemini - 8th House
Saturn - Capricorn - 2nd House
Uranus - Capricorn - 2nd House
Neptune - Capricorn - 2nd House
Pluto - Scorpio - 1st House
North Node - Aquarius - 4th House
Chiron - Cancer - 8th House
Sun - Sagittarius in 7th
Moon - Taurus in 12th
Mercury - Scorpio in 6th
Venus - Capricorn in 9th
Mars - Cancer in 3rd
Jupiter - Libra in 5th
Saturn - Aquarius in 9th (conjunct MC)
Uranus - Capricorn in 8th
Neptune - Capricorn in 8th
Pluto - Scorpio in 6th
North node - Sagittarius in 7th
Chiron - Leo in 4th
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Posted by FireChildThanks for the advice, I will step back, i'm not very good with patience i am gonna work on myself and focus on other things. I haven't "talked" to him since Sept 8/9 so im going to do what you suggest to text him once/twice a week i will do that and see what happens. Again thank you for the advice
Me being an Aries also dating a Cap/Aquarius man all I can say is back off a little. I think you might be smothering him and just expecting too much too soon.
In dealing with my Cap, I'm just letting him lead right now. You should not be the one saying "good morning" every day. My Cap tells me good morning every day and when he doesn't I don't freak out I don't even text him. I give him space and the next day he's back to normal. I might initiate once or twice during the week and it's always something random, or funny nothing serious asking "why this or that".
Just be patient. And when you guys get together face to face just talk about what you want out of life and see if he is on the same accord.
Caps work hard but they also rest a lot. You can't blame everything on work.
Posted by VenusianCartel???Posted by Brosmosis2 minute rounds to avoid either from gassingPosted by VenusianCartelI'd pay to see this.Posted by tizianiStill hoping on the million dollar matchup
You take things too personally to beef on DXP. I would have never booked this matchup.
Hydorah vs. Canceronthecusp
3 2 minute rounds of action
Hydorah's sardonic humor vs Conceronthecusp's vague conspiracy theory references along with his winkie emoji
Something tells me I'd be bored by the 1st page tho.
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Posted by ChuckcemSorry for the confusion. My Fiance had Leo ex that he broke up 10 years ago (she was physically abusive) But this Leo woman still tries to initiate contact with my Fiance after they broke up. She also tried to invite me through our common friends to join them on a trip even more odd that they invited me without inviting my fiance.Posted by hhhmermaidWait, so your Leo ex is trying to reconnect with you, but you have a fiance? If that's the case, what does it matter what the Leo wants? If you plan on remaining faithful to your fiance, just let the Leo know you're engaged and friendship is all that you can offer.Posted by Chuckcem
As everyone has already said, it depends on how the breakup happened. Who initiated it and why? If the breakup was bad and the Leo burned the bridge, then no. Even if you reconnect, he may not trust you romantically again.
If the breakup was pleasant, neutral, or unclear, then there is a chance the Leo still soft spot for you. You'll know this if the Leo has made it easy to access him. If a Leo doesn't want to communicate with you, we'll make it impossible for you to reach us. We don't play nice when we go cold. So there's a chance he harbors some affection for you still.
The best indication is that he reached out to you. Leos are proud, so this can be difficult for us to do after a breakup. If he's looking to reconnect, it could be a good thing. Only you can tell us how your relationship was though.
Hmm.. my fiance's ex who is a Leo tried to add him up on social media and try to initiate a conversation it was casual. She also tried to ask her friends to invite me on a trip (fiance was uninvited) and were not even friends. I didn't go it seems weird haha
Also your fiance has a Leo ex who is trying to connect with you and invite you on a trip? That's very strange if you don't know this woman.click to expand
Hope this made sense. I usually don't have problems with Leos. I have a lot of Leo friends and mostly females. But this one is just kind of odd to invite me when we are not even friends to begin with.
Posted by SourPiePosted by Aries18
I have never had someone come into my life and show so much respect and care towards me, and opened up my eyes to love someone again, and that I could be happy. He makes me very happy and lucky to even have him as a friend in my life that cares about me. I never open up to just anyone i am very caution when it comes to online friendships and who i talk too. With him i could trust him and he wouldn't judge me, but at the same time i was very nervous and kept a wall up at times. Especially when we would talk on teamspeak with our voices and not through text.
I will keep you Updated for sure, and thank you
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I'm not really sure about placements. I'm new to all this xD
Hey there,
I have been trying to talk to and get to know a Virgo acquaintance better of late as I have been noticing her staring at me a bit. We both go to the same highschool and we are in our final year. I am trying to figure out what kind of person she is as I can usually read people well enough to not need to get to know them but she puzzles me. I can seem to tell what she intends from staring at me. I think she may have affections for me but anytime I go to text her outside of school she seems to ignore me. I'm not sure if she is playing hard to get or if she genuinely doesn't like me. When we talk at school, she seems to be OK with me and we do have laughs. She does have some pretty high standards compared to others I know.
I am just a bit confused because I am still new at this due to never being in a relationship before. I hope this was enough information and if you need more please ask. I am just looking for some idea's from some Virgo's.
-Ownard
I have been trying to talk to and get to know a Virgo acquaintance better of late as I have been noticing her staring at me a bit. We both go to the same highschool and we are in our final year. I am trying to figure out what kind of person she is as I can usually read people well enough to not need to get to know them but she puzzles me. I can seem to tell what she intends from staring at me. I think she may have affections for me but anytime I go to text her outside of school she seems to ignore me. I'm not sure if she is playing hard to get or if she genuinely doesn't like me. When we talk at school, she seems to be OK with me and we do have laughs. She does have some pretty high standards compared to others I know.
I am just a bit confused because I am still new at this due to never being in a relationship before. I hope this was enough information and if you need more please ask. I am just looking for some idea's from some Virgo's.
-Ownard
Posted by 8434EJFCPosted by nikkistarOh did i not fucking explain that clear enough to you with my astro placements?Posted by 8434EYou do realize, that the image that you portray on DXP is someone whom lacks the ability to contain their emotions, is erratic, and impulsive right?
Why do i feel like i live on another planet, i don't even get what i'm supposed to be embarrassed about?
Or is it just about image to you guys??
In the last few weeks, you have gone from declaring your love for another DXP user, to admitting to not really loving her, to posts about your own placements (ignoring the negative aspects and looking mostly at the positive ones), to now DXP beefing with one of the most watery guys on here, Palerio.
You literally give off the impression that you have no control over your emotional outbursts, and its a little cringey.
Oh i dunno, i'm the dumb one here.. LMFAO, grow a brain please.click to expand
That's the problem here. No one is trying to attack you, including myself. I am telling you FACTS. That from the outside world, it is seen in that way. You took that into personal attack territory. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST.
Placements don't define a person or their actions. The fact that you are justifying your erratic behavior on placements, shows how unaware of yourself you really are. Placements DO NOT define a person, and are justification for how they act. You are.
Posted by AbbyNormalWow, you do have a lot! The oppositions to your ascendant will conjunct your descendant though! Jupiter opposite ascendant may actually give you luck in relationships!
Sun opp Mars
Sun opp Saturn
Moon opp Neptune
Mercury opp Pluto
Venus opp Pluto
Mars opp Chiron
Jupiter opp Asc
Neptune opp Asc
idk what it all means but im an opposed muthafucker lol i think these are all major aspects.