Can someone help me to understand what is going on in his Aquarian mind?
Honestly...
I think is that he's got an aversion to being in a committed relationship or even trying dating exclusively to see what happens and he literally needs to alternate women, not seeing one for more than one night a week which breaks the flow of connection and stops any one woman from meaning too much to him.
I think he is in denial on multiple levels (1) because he believes the right woman will change his pattern and I personally think the "right woman" would probably tell him to go to hell like I did. (2) because he turns his own commitment issues onto the woman by focusing on her flaws as reasons not to give it a try rather than just getting to know her.
I do think his physical attraction for me is off the chart, but I also think he thinks I am kind and smart and generous and patient but I think he knew from day one that with me it was going to be the real deal and not Netflix and Chill and I think that was an uncomfortable place for him from the start.
I think he wants it, I think part of him regrets it but I think he tells himself we're "incompatible" because that makes it easier for him to lose something I think he actually wants and misses.
Obviously after dating a few weeks and seeing each other 5 or 6 times what do you really know in terms of compatibility? At that stage all he knew was he found me very hot and attractive and he liked me as a person and really that should be the starting point for investment but he never made the investment.
He made himself feel better by saying "yeah but it was purely physical" but he hasn't got the balls to admit he only allows it to be physical.
Back then, he saw one side of me: the side of me that is dating someone who wants to date other people. And that;s not my best side. I am assuming it's not the best side of most women. He doesn't know what it feels like to wake up in the morning with me because he's never tried it. He doesn't know what it feels like to call me and tell me something good happened that day because he never tried it.
He's too chicken shit to try it, and he comforts himself with his BS about compatibility. He's probably sitting there thinking he better ignore me and date someone else so I don't get any ideas about commitment or a relationship from his night as my nurse. So he communicates to me with his silence that I am not important to him.
No message is also a message, right?
I think when we were dating, he gave himself all these reasons I wasn't "the one" but he never actually took time to get to know me in order to make that judgement. It's easier for him that way to lose precious things and not feel too bad about it.
I do think over the past six months when we were talking but not seeing each other it was easier for him to open up and get closer because I was no real threat. I don't think he gets pleasure from sleeping with a variety of women. I think he's lonely and he fills the time with meaningless things because he's too scared to play a real hand at the table.
In my gut, I think he likes me. I maybe even think he might love me. I just don't think he is going to do anything about it and I think maybe the best thing I can do for him is to walk away.
I think is that he's got an aversion to being in a committed relationship or even trying dating exclusively to see what happens and he literally needs to alternate women, not seeing one for more than one night a week which breaks the flow of connection and stops any one woman from meaning too much to him.
I think he is in denial on multiple levels (1) because he believes the right woman will change his pattern and I personally think the "right woman" would probably tell him to go to hell like I did. (2) because he turns his own commitment issues onto the woman by focusing on her flaws as reasons not to give it a try rather than just getting to know her.
I do think his physical attraction for me is off the chart, but I also think he thinks I am kind and smart and generous and patient but I think he knew from day one that with me it was going to be the real deal and not Netflix and Chill and I think that was an uncomfortable place for him from the start.
I think he wants it, I think part of him regrets it but I think he tells himself we're "incompatible" because that makes it easier for him to lose something I think he actually wants and misses.
Obviously after dating a few weeks and seeing each other 5 or 6 times what do you really know in terms of compatibility? At that stage all he knew was he found me very hot and attractive and he liked me as a person and really that should be the starting point for investment but he never made the investment.
He made himself feel better by saying "yeah but it was purely physical" but he hasn't got the balls to admit he only allows it to be physical.
Back then, he saw one side of me: the side of me that is dating someone who wants to date other people. And that;s not my best side. I am assuming it's not the best side of most women. He doesn't know what it feels like to wake up in the morning with me because he's never tried it. He doesn't know what it feels like to call me and tell me something good happened that day because he never tried it.
He's too chicken shit to try it, and he comforts himself with his BS about compatibility. He's probably sitting there thinking he better ignore me and date someone else so I don't get any ideas about commitment or a relationship from his night as my nurse. So he communicates to me with his silence that I am not important to him.
No message is also a message, right?
I think when we were dating, he gave himself all these reasons I wasn't "the one" but he never actually took time to get to know me in order to make that judgement. It's easier for him that way to lose precious things and not feel too bad about it.
I do think over the past six months when we were talking but not seeing each other it was easier for him to open up and get closer because I was no real threat. I don't think he gets pleasure from sleeping with a variety of women. I think he's lonely and he fills the time with meaningless things because he's too scared to play a real hand at the table.
In my gut, I think he likes me. I maybe even think he might love me. I just don't think he is going to do anything about it and I think maybe the best thing I can do for him is to walk away.