Posted by Pandora101I guess I didn't feel it was manipulative when someone tells you "I am here for you if you need to talk anytime" and I took him up on it...as far as the text telling him I was stepping away, yes, to be honest, I hoped for some sort of response-given we have been seeing each other for pretty much this entire year. I have told him before if he ever wasn't feeling it or felt as if I was bothering him to let me know (I appreciate the directness being a Sag) but he always assured me that wasn't the case and his job just keeps him busy. Again, I never texted/called him incessantly, never asked him for anything-gave him all the space in the world-I was just wanting some common courtesy when it came to plans/standing me up, etc. In the past I have been super manipulative when it came to men but this time I was 100% honest, upfront, and really fell for him. I agree with everything else you said, but harassing is a bit much to describe texting someone twice because he didn't have the balls to reply to tell me to F off if nothing else.
You can love him dearly - its okay, its in your power to love him
You cannot force him to communicate with you - its not okay, its not in your power to make him talk to you
so, if you love him, own it, if you want to quit with him own it - just dont announce everything to him, solve it yourself..... he doesnt want to communicate, for reasons known only to him, so dont text him anymore, dont bother him
if he is well, as your friend confirmed, he has chosen to not answer...
and your text was a bit manipulative "told him I was stepping away because his actions are telling me that is what he wants. Nothing. " - nothing? so you expected a response? you wrote him this to get a reaction? see, maybe that is the reason he doesnt want to communicate with you..... before this text, you wrote him "Two days later I texted him (can't call because of his job) and told him I really needed someone to talk to and was not in a good place"
I am really sorry you are hurting, but this harassing him has to stop, for your own good
love him, if you like, but dont text him anymore
my 2 cents