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Has anyone ever dated a cancer female?
Hello I’m not sure if anyone can help me with this one but here goes nothing. I’m an Aquarius woman who was dating a cancer woman. When we first met everything was perfect but about after a month & a half things went down hill.. she became very distant and blamed it on her personal life which I thought I could understanding of.. well things ended badly between us, I couldn’t seem to let go but she had already moved on & got into a new relationship with a man. That only lasted about 2 months & the she came back to me at the end of November. But on New Year’s Eve she left me again & was very cold & mean to me as if I was the one who hurt, now she doesn’t reply to me at all, even after pouring my heart out several times. The first time she said she couldn’t talk to me after we split ways was because she was ashamed that she hurt me. Is she ashamed now too? Or does she just not care ? I have a feeling she’s talking to someone new already & it’s only been a week
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Natal Chiron in the 3rd house of a natal chart indicates some emotional wounds connected with communication, or with the native’s siblings. The third house rules our interactions with the immediate environment, and thus its presence there shows unresolved traumas related to the houses’ matters and mostly has an influence on the native’s early years.
Generally, asteroid Chiron is responsible for traumas and their healing; thus the house where it is placed is a rather sensitive area of the native’s life. In case that the asteroid is negatively aspected, especially by “malefics” such as Mars, Saturn or Pluto, the native may have experienced quite a lot of suffering. On the other hand, a well-aspected Chiron indicates abilities to heal other people in such matters, as the native has learned quite a lot from his own experiences.
A person with his Chiron in the 3rd house might have difficult childhood experiences concerning the ways he expresses himself. As the 3rd house is ruling one’s basic education, the native as a child has faced misunderstandings in schools and an overall hostile atmosphere that he connects with communication. Chiron may make him afraid to speak his opinion, as it might get ridiculed by the teachers or other pupils. In the best situation, his words are being ignored; in more severe cases he might even get continuously insulted and verbally harassed.
In case that Chiron adversely aspects natal Mercury, the native might have difficulties in speech such as dyslexia or other mild handicaps. Generally, all the traumas at school might be even connected to the native’s funny voice, strange (or foreign) accent, or anything else verbal that can alienate him from the mass of pupils.
Such incidents may hurt the native’s self-esteem, making him feel less mentally adequate than other people in his class. As a result, he will often tend to keep silent in order to not experience humiliation. If Chiron is not adversely aspected, it mostly shows alienation from the rest of the class, as the native does not feel comfortable with speaking to other people. There might not be an apparent reason, or the roots of this behavior might rely on some incident hidden in the early childhood and connected to the idea “No speaking, no problem”. In any case, the marks of Chiron will definitely reappear during transits and eventually manifest in the native’s adult life. Of course, during his conscious observation of these patterns the native can not only heal his own wounds but also become helpful to people that have common problems but of a worse nature.
A 3rd house Chiron person might also experience quite a lot of issues with his siblings. As the 3rd house rules brothers and sisters, the native may be bullied by them and quarrel a lot. Usually, Chiron shows that the chart owner is the one that loses the fights, gets intimidated and is left with feelings of having suffered injustice. People with such a placement frequently have older siblings, who out of jealousy mistreat them. Of course, in such young years, the native is quite defenseless towards an older, stronger and more powerful person. The trauma usually involves unresolved questions such as how can a family member who is supposed to express love, act in malicious ways towards the individual.
If no siblings exist, this fact might be exactly the cause of trauma. The native might be yearning to have a brother or a sister to communicate with, but life did not offer this blessing so the native was feeling quite lonely concerning that matter.
More rarely, the problems that Chiron in the 3rd house creates are linked to ill-tempered neighbors that cause fear to the child, or painful situations that happen during nearby short traveling. In extreme situations when the asteroid is very badly aspected, a pattern of avoiding having neighbors or going to nearby trips can be created. Of course, after reaching a conscious age to understand this problematic behavior (or a highly beneficial transit that will heal it), the native will be able to see his third house matters function better.
As a result of Chiron’s placement, the child strongly connects self-confidence with expressing himself in a harmonious way; this pattern will follow him during his adult life and he will seek pleasant surroundings in order to feel secure. For such an individual, communicative people that do not judge or mock will be an elixir of self-healing. Eventually, through choosing correct discussants he will be able to establish a better flow of speech and information.
In addition, Chiron in the 3rd house will definitely bring efforts of reconciliation with the siblings. This may be even done without conscious effort; the native will always be thirsty for softening any childhood disputes. A positive transit will definitely trigger attempts of dissolving issues between the native and his brother or sister.
Of course, the severity of the emotional trauma largely depends on the aspects of natal planets. Squares, oppositions, and conjunctions with Mars, Saturn and Pluto indicate more difficult situations, while harmonious aspects with planets will actually teach the native how to develop his view on the matter of possessions and belongings.
Chiron in the 3rd house can bring disappointment to the native during his early education. It will rather feel as a burden, and his memories of it afterward will frequently be a depressive flavor.
A good exercise to empower a 3rd house Chiron is to dig deep in your childhood years and see what or who was causing you fear and restraint. In case it is a physical person of importance, even talking to him about it would help. In case it is a situation, someone unreachable or not important, the best way is to resolve the matter symbolically. The best way to energize Chiron is through symbolical demolition of the archetypes that cause pain. In the end, you will understand that these traumas are just leftovers of the past; they do not offer you anything precious but fear and stress.
If you have this placement, your path of transcending your traumas passes through communicating, while also getting engaged in other activities that involve your immediate surroundings. Start making some short trips, friendships in your neighborhood and pass more time with your siblings and cousins. Alternatively, another great 3rd house activity that can help you heal yourself is using your hands for creative reasons. No matter if it is writing, painting, creating sculptures or anything else with your hands, your natal Chiron will be empowered.
In the end, this transformative healing experience can make you aid others who have similar problems. It will make you rather compassionate towards people experiencing trouble with their expression, and even make you sensitive towards everyone who is unable to speak their mind, no matter for what reason.
A curious pattern is that a person with Chiron in the 3rd house is better in teaching other people about how to manage their communication than they can their own. Be wise enough to apply your great pieces of advice on your own self too, and you will figure out the best way to deal with what holds you back!
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