I'm curious.

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I appreciate everyone's input here. I'm so lost I still don't know what to do. I guess I have to decide what I need to do for me which might not be what I want....I'm just very emotionally exhausted at the moment...

Don't always get what you want...

What you do depends on how prepared you are to lose him. If it hurts more to feel lonely in your relationship, than it is to be alone and single, maybe it's worth making a hard decision. You can try giving him the option of either stepping up to be the man you deserve or letting you go to set you free. It might hurt and you might not get what you hoped for, but it's something to consider. I think I'm getting close to this point with my Aqua too. I feel like I hold back telling him how I'm feeling because i read too much about his stupid star sign and I've tried to accept the Aqua aloofness instead of treating him like a regular guy that's being inconsiderate or cold.

I came to this forum to try to get a better understanding of who he is because I've never met anyone like him. It's helped me understand that what he does day to day is what is seen in other Aquarian too but I hear what your saying in that I should treat him like a regular guy and not feel like I can't say what I need to say for fear of him walking away. The last few weeks before he left were horrible for me because I did feel like we kinda broke up without breaking up. I love him very much and I can't just switch off like he can but I can't keep feeling like this. I am expecting this to not end well in the sense that he'll just want friendship and be quite aloof about it but feeling lonely in a relationship (even an unofficial one) hurts.

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I have been patient and never given ultimatums but I think I need to make a decision sooner rather than later.

I wish you luck with your situation and hope it goes the way you want it too..

If you do decide to do it, you can try to do it in a way so that you're letting him make a decision, rather than you making a threat to leave if he doesn't act a certain way or choose a certain course. That way it's not as aggressive as an ultimatum because he has a choice and gets to decide the outcome.

Aquas are hard work and so confusing. I thought i loved mine too, but now I'm thinking i was in love with the idea of love, and the more i think about it, the more i realise there's not much to like if i am always uncertain of where i stand or if I'm not feeling important to him. It really feels like he doesn't even care except for the times we're physically with each other which isn't often because he works so much.

I'm not sure I'm ready to give up yet because i think deep down he does care and i want to try to dig it out so I'll try a little longer but in the end, you need to figure out how many of your needs are actually being met by this man and if you can live with that, or if you're better off with someone who values your happiness as much as their own.

Sorry to be a pain but..

Can you give me an example of how to do it so he is making the decision?

An ultimatum is giving one choice and a threat... if you don't make more time and effort for me, I'm going to leave you or find someone else


Options means he has 2 choices... do you want to continue to see me, and work towards a future together or would you like us to go our separate ways?

If he responds with i don't know, you will need to decide if you want to give him time to think about it and decide or if you want to tell him that if he's not sure about you, then to let you go because holding on to uncertainty and having no direction hurts too much and is unfair on you.

Thank you. Guess just wait until he gets back and talk face to face. Still a couple of weeks away for that to happen but hope can just keep it together until then. Just hate being in limbo but that's partially my fault I guess...

Uncertainty sucks. You just have to keep yourself occupied until then I guess.

Sometimes I wonder if Aquas even consider the other person... i was thinking about how many people use this site asking what to do in their relationship or why their partner is acting a certain way and how to fix things or what to say. Aquas on the other hand, don't seem to ask for relationship advice. It's like their partner is expected to adapt to them without compromise. It's mysterious and fascinating yet irritating and frustrating.

for myself i "fix" things on my own. i dont like to impose on other people. it's not my way. when i was suffering i never told anyone, i just prayed alot and cried.

and then stuff fell thrugh.

i never tell a soul.

cause i'm too ashamed to tell the world of the pain and suffering.

so i hold all the pain and suffering inside. it's how i was.

i'm good though, no pain and suffering...but if you really want to know the truth..i dont tell peeps.

I've done that all my life. Tried to deal with whatever it is on my own. No one would know what I was going thru. Think that's why I came here to divulge to people I have never met to hopefully be truthful and honest and not necessarily give answers (although sometimes I wish I had them) but to offer advice and suggestions and support I guess. I have reached my ultimate point of emotional exhaustion. I'm a mess to be honest and I needed to talk to someone or in this case many of you. :-)

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Posted by Gemgal101
I appreciate everyone's input here. I'm so lost I still don't know what to do. I guess I have to decide what I need to do for me which might not be what I want....I'm just very emotionally exhausted at the moment...

Don't always get what you want...

What you do depends on how prepared you are to lose him. If it hurts more to feel lonely in your relationship, than it is to be alone and single, maybe it's worth making a hard decision. You can try giving him the option of either stepping up to be the man you deserve or letting you go to set you free. It might hurt and you might not get what you hoped for, but it's something to consider. I think I'm getting close to this point with my Aqua too. I feel like I hold back telling him how I'm feeling because i read too much about his stupid star sign and I've tried to accept the Aqua aloofness instead of treating him like a regular guy that's being inconsiderate or cold.

I came to this forum to try to get a better understanding of who he is because I've never met anyone like him. It's helped me understand that what he does day to day is what is seen in other Aquarian too but I hear what your saying in that I should treat him like a regular guy and not feel like I can't say what I need to say for fear of him walking away. The last few weeks before he left were horrible for me because I did feel like we kinda broke up without breaking up. I love him very much and I can't just switch off like he can but I can't keep feeling like this. I am expecting this to not end well in the sense that he'll just want friendship and be quite aloof about it but feeling lonely in a relationship (even an unofficial one) hurts.

.

I have been patient and never given ultimatums but I think I need to make a decision sooner rather than later.

I wish you luck with your situation and hope it goes the way you want it too..

If you do decide to do it, you can try to do it in a way so that you're letting him make a decision, rather than you making a threat to leave if he doesn't act a certain way or choose a certain course. That way it's not as aggressive as an ultimatum because he has a choice and gets to decide the outcome.

Aquas are hard work and so confusing. I thought i loved mine too, but now I'm thinking i was in love with the idea of love, and the more i think about it, the more i realise there's not much to like if i am always uncertain of where i stand or if I'm not feeling important to him. It really feels like he doesn't even care except for the times we're physically with each other which isn't often because he works so much.

I'm not sure I'm ready to give up yet because i think deep down he does care and i want to try to dig it out so I'll try a little longer but in the end, you need to figure out how many of your needs are actually being met by this man and if you can live with that, or if you're better off with someone who values your happiness as much as their own.

Sorry to be a pain but..

Can you give me an example of how to do it so he is making the decision?

An ultimatum is giving one choice and a threat... if you don't make more time and effort for me, I'm going to leave you or find someone else


Options means he has 2 choices... do you want to continue to see me, and work towards a future together or would you like us to go our separate ways?

If he responds with i don't know, you will need to decide if you want to give him time to think about it and decide or if you want to tell him that if he's not sure about you, then to let you go because holding on to uncertainty and having no direction hurts too much and is unfair on you.

Thank you. Guess just wait until he gets back and talk face to face. Still a couple of weeks away for that to happen but hope can just keep it together until then. Just hate being in limbo but that's partially my fault I guess...

Uncertainty sucks. You just have to keep yourself occupied until then I guess.

Sometimes I wonder if Aquas even consider the other person... i was thinking about how many people use this site asking what to do in their relationship or why their partner is acting a certain way and how to fix things or what to say. Aquas on the other hand, don't seem to ask for relationship advice. It's like their partner is expected to adapt to them without compromise. It's mysterious and fascinating yet irritating and frustrating.

for myself i "fix" things on my own. i dont like to impose on other people. it's not my way. when i was suffering i never told anyone, i just prayed alot and cried.

and then stuff fell thrugh.

i never tell a soul.

cause i'm too ashamed to tell the world of the pain and suffering.

so i hold all the pain and suffering inside. it's how i was.

i'm good though, no pain and suffering...but if you really want to know the truth..i dont tell peeps.

If you're upset in your relationship, do you tell your partner what is bothering you to give him an opportunity to work on it with you, or do you just withdraw into yourself and allow them to walk away without ever really knowing that deep down you cared but couldn't show it?

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There's two genders male female.

Now my son come to me and say mom i want to dress like a woman at 25. I'll be okay

But until then it's my duty to raise a man Bexcuse biologically HE'S A MAN

As an adult that's his choice. As a child I'm helping him form his identity

Sounds a lot more like control to me.

What are your thoughts on Jaden Smith?

he wear dress but was representing the saint laurent brand, like kanye west did with givenchy.

so.. i wont care

Androgyny is hot rn 🔥🔥🔥

it all started with prince and bowie really

then there was jenny shimizu

flash forward to ruby rose and orange is the new black

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The other thing is i have noticed this ..men tend to think that emotional support should come from romantic relationships ..i dunno why ..it's not always the best solution ..you need a network beyond this of friends in your community.

You won't get a selection of people with the right emotional skills in a group of older white men who are pretty much of a similar life experience....

You need diff types of mates ....gay friends lesbian friends ...female PLATONIC friends ...and straight white guys ...and you need to understand their differences ..give diff strengths

yall need a shoulder to cry on sometimes

Honey! MAN need no support group and no shoulder to cry on!

You all youngsters haven’t SEEN real MEN! That’s your issue!

The OP seems to feel different.

Fk OP! Lmao

Real men ...are born drowning in shit....and swim out ...but take some with them to help them cope emotional crap and hurt...they need family to save them then from drowning in their own shit.

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Posted by AerialView
Women in general here are love to tell posters to give up.

Red flags, are you a doormat? and i wouldnt waste anymore time if i were you are the common advises ive seen.

Smh.

Posted by saggurl88
Seems like he was wanting to talk to you. He just didn't want to get rejected. Lol. Was he ever really a big texter? Sex wouldn't change that. I'm not a big texter at all. I do it in the beginning but then fall way off. I hate bugging people and think if they want to talk, they will contact me.

He tried reaching out and you ignored him, then deleted him from your socual media. Seems like you wanted to be done with him.

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For god sake if you spend your time on xbox ..instead of making a life ..it's your own fault.

Posted by tiziani
For men not being complimented on appearance enough - Esthar Vilar writes really good stuff on that.

Posted by saggurl88
I want to know why some Aquas tell a person to give up and don't put any effort into certain relationship issues but then when it comes to themselves, they say the person didn't wait for them and just wasn't patient enough.

Do you guys just like things as unpredictable as you are, or what?

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Posted by Gemgal101
I appreciate everyone's input here. I'm so lost I still don't know what to do. I guess I have to decide what I need to do for me which might not be what I want....I'm just very emotionally exhausted at the moment...

Don't always get what you want...

What you do depends on how prepared you are to lose him. If it hurts more to feel lonely in your relationship, than it is to be alone and single, maybe it's worth making a hard decision. You can try giving him the option of either stepping up to be the man you deserve or letting you go to set you free. It might hurt and you might not get what you hoped for, but it's something to consider. I think I'm getting close to this point with my Aqua too. I feel like I hold back telling him how I'm feeling because i read too much about his stupid star sign and I've tried to accept the Aqua aloofness instead of treating him like a regular guy that's being inconsiderate or cold.

I came to this forum to try to get a better understanding of who he is because I've never met anyone like him. It's helped me understand that what he does day to day is what is seen in other Aquarian too but I hear what your saying in that I should treat him like a regular guy and not feel like I can't say what I need to say for fear of him walking away. The last few weeks before he left were horrible for me because I did feel like we kinda broke up without breaking up. I love him very much and I can't just switch off like he can but I can't keep feeling like this. I am expecting this to not end well in the sense that he'll just want friendship and be quite aloof about it but feeling lonely in a relationship (even an unofficial one) hurts.

.

I have been patient and never given ultimatums but I think I need to make a decision sooner rather than later.

I wish you luck with your situation and hope it goes the way you want it too..

If you do decide to do it, you can try to do it in a way so that you're letting him make a decision, rather than you making a threat to leave if he doesn't act a certain way or choose a certain course. That way it's not as aggressive as an ultimatum because he has a choice and gets to decide the outcome.

Aquas are hard work and so confusing. I thought i loved mine too, but now I'm thinking i was in love with the idea of love, and the more i think about it, the more i realise there's not much to like if i am always uncertain of where i stand or if I'm not feeling important to him. It really feels like he doesn't even care except for the times we're physically with each other which isn't often because he works so much.

I'm not sure I'm ready to give up yet because i think deep down he does care and i want to try to dig it out so I'll try a little longer but in the end, you need to figure out how many of your needs are actually being met by this man and if you can live with that, or if you're better off with someone who values your happiness as much as their own.

Sorry to be a pain but..

Can you give me an example of how to do it so he is making the decision?

An ultimatum is giving one choice and a threat... if you don't make more time and effort for me, I'm going to leave you or find someone else


Options means he has 2 choices... do you want to continue to see me, and work towards a future together or would you like us to go our separate ways?

If he responds with i don't know, you will need to decide if you want to give him time to think about it and decide or if you want to tell him that if he's not sure about you, then to let you go because holding on to uncertainty and having no direction hurts too much and is unfair on you.

Thank you. Guess just wait until he gets back and talk face to face. Still a couple of weeks away for that to happen but hope can just keep it together until then. Just hate being in limbo but that's partially my fault I guess...

Uncertainty sucks. You just have to keep yourself occupied until then I guess.

Sometimes I wonder if Aquas even consider the other person... i was thinking about how many people use this site asking what to do in their relationship or why their partner is acting a certain way and how to fix things or what to say. Aquas on the other hand, don't seem to ask for relationship advice. It's like their partner is expected to adapt to them without compromise. It's mysterious and fascinating yet irritating and frustrating.

for myself i "fix" things on my own. i dont like to impose on other people. it's not my way. when i was suffering i never told anyone, i just prayed alot and cried.

and then stuff fell thrugh.

i never tell a soul.

cause i'm too ashamed to tell the world of the pain and suffering.

so i hold all the pain and suffering inside. it's how i was.

i'm good though, no pain and suffering...but if you really want to know the truth..i dont tell peeps.

If you're upset in your relationship, do you tell your partner what is bothering you to give him an opportunity to work on it with you, or do you just withdraw into yourself and allow them to walk away without ever really knowing that deep down you cared but couldn't show it?

I'm scared of the response and reaction. I spoke to him today (he called me) and after small talk he asked if I was ok and of course my response was "yes" but inside I just wanted to blurt it all out. Just don't think I should do it whilst he's away but also means me churning my stomach inside out for another 2 weeks..🙁

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