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Aug 03, 2006Comments: 73 · Posts: 3385 · Topics: 36
wow. lol - what is your sign?
the 'Smiley Face Quotient' makes me feel like you are copacetic with this, yes?
I don't think that was me being delusional. it would be hard not to assume he liked me a lot after all that.
He went funny after he started that job and I tried to perk him up but he was so miserable it was all he talked about.
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Sometimes we get mentally bogged down by details at work. The fact that je still stays in contact is good. I just think he's adjusting to expectations of what the job would be and what it is. That bothers me a lot too. He will make adjustments and will come back around m you are his Beacon of light. ??????
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TaurusAngel -
"Work has been really bad so I haven't been in the mood to contact anyone recently. Not in the right frame of mind for dating "
That's the only one you need to pay attention to. The rest are sweet, and certainly point to an affinity for you, but they are fantasy compared to the reality of the one above. He spoke it loud and clear. The reasons why don't matter. Does it mean he doesn't like you? Absolutely not, but he's being clear about his capabilities right now. Liking someone, and being ready to commit are two very different things. One does not imply the other.
Would you rather he jumped head first in to the ocean, and then while he was drowning he expected you to figure out that he doesn't know how to swim, and his feet are made of concrete blocks?
Don't stress yourself over the "what could have been, if only"s - because that's also fantasy. As shortii said - once he has himself figured out, he will be better able to evaluate his dating life.
So I just leave him alone completely as I have been?
Chrissy I didn't got that far....I only said a couple of times in texts that all we did wad talk about work and go to bed. hence how can he tell what we have in common and I feel like he hasn't given it a chance. after that I said sorry about it all and then left it alone. I haven't tried to contact him.
I keep hearing that pisces men swim away when they need solitude under stress and can swim back.
I haven't been harassing him. I said my bit in one or two texts aon the day he said it and then left it.
I know. I've not been well for a few weeks and I'm just sad.
I got my heard broken horribly a few months ago and everyone said get out there and meet someone else and its just made it worse.
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You can't pin your happiness on someone else's shoulders.
Every single guy will run from that shit.
Do yourself some favours:
a) don't listen to those people who told you to "go out and meet someone else" to quell your heartache. They were giving you a "quick-fix-not-interested-in-hearing-more-woe-is-me" point of advice. They shovelled you off, whether or not they knew it, or intended it.
b) work on being happy on your own, with no relationship
You have to start feeling for yourself, and not pity or negative things. You have to take ownership of your own happiness. As an adult, it is your, and only your responsibility.
I do have a full life. I have a well paid career, I'm attractive, I'm funny and kind and gentle. I can forgive pretty much anything.
When in a relationship I have lots to offer and I am not a leech in the man. when I say I can't see them in a.few days a week I'm not lying. I have plans every Monday and Thursday for.sports and I see ffriends about 1-2 times a week.
I don't rely on anyone and guys must see that. My job also has a lot of social and networking events and so I am.always out at.drinks.parties.meeting people.
I certainly don't sit at home.waiting to be taken out, when my last two guys asked me out I literally had to.check.which days I was free.
I.am just sad that I really liked this one, he had a sense of humour like mine and I think we for on well. We made.each otgernlaugh. obviously he didst like me as much but there is nothing I can do.about that. its just a.shame.
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typical taurus, making it all about tangible things. Look a little deeper into yourself.
I didn't say be "busy". I said be happy. I'm going to join chrissy now, because you don't need any answers, quite clearly. You just want to moan about it. Notice I'm not suggesting that you go find someone else though.
Best of luck to you.
Hadn't seen that side of him before sorry......took months for things I couldn't live with to come out.
There is also a reason why people don't move in together for a long time. it takes ages to be sure.
The only thing really is that I am mad at myself for allowing this to happen again.
My last bf had job problems, health problems, & I end uo supporting him.
I didn't recognise pisces guy was probably on the rebound and was a problem case like my ex.
Furious with myself for being so stupid and allowing myself to like someone again.