Why Pisces men disappear and what do they do

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by lotus on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 and has 18 replies.
We've heard a lot about Pisces men disappearing even if they are into the person they are with. The question is, what do they do when they disappear?
I have been involved with a Pisces man for a while now who is a workaholic professional. We see each other intimately about 1 to 2 times a week and at work usually another 2 times. The problem is, he tend to disappear for some days when he has to prepare for work and it is not easy to reach him. He will say, though, that he will meet me on so and so day. This is a habit of his and not something recent.
Do Pisces men tune everything else out for a few days while they focus on work? Or should I be suspicious and assume that he is catering to another lover? Could he be processing during those off days or is he really busy with work?
I think that he is low on energy from work (not the daily stamina energy)..like...In my shoes, I like to run off to my own cloud 9, and my friends are left wondering why im absent or acting like a loner. Its almost like this:
you have a solar battery (piscean..myself for instance), and you plug it in to a device, and it gets used..drained from supplying energy to the device's parts. Much like myself, I will eventually drain myself by using my energy to put myself before others by absorbing the moods, feelings, and behaviours given off by others in order to get a sense of the situation at hand when interacting with people. after a while (maybe about 2-3 days or even a week), I get exhausted from doing that, and without notice, Im nowhere to be found by my friends. I might be in the same hang out spot, but Im in my own world, "recharging", so to speak, as would the solar battery I mentioned, for another use. the solar battery would need to be in the sun (piscean being in solitude and solace, not isolation) in order to recharge before being put to use again.
Pisceans are usually easy-going people who are easy to get along with and to be received well by others. Where do we get the energy to do all of that I dont even know, but that is why (at least from personal experiences) I disappear from time to time.
Hope this helps!
P.s. if the pisces is into you, he is into you. he may or may not send the right messages, but if he really does seem interested, he will be back, just like the battery smile
One of my best friends is a Pisces guy and he has a tendency to shut off from everyone when he has other things to do, including his closest friends from childhood and family members. I wouldn't take it personally, Pisces is a very introspective sign..he will stay in touch, and will respond well to whimsical gestures on your part.
Like unexpected things that excite his imagination.
The relationship is a couple of months old now and intimacy happens about once a week. Isn't that a bit low for the early stages and for two people who claim to have a high sex drive? I know he is busy with work (and he usually says when he's busy) but are Pisces men known for taking their relationships slowly?
For me that would be pretty low yes.
I think you are reading too much into everything. If you are boggled down with work, honestly getting it on is the last thing that is on your mind. He sounds like he is stressed and a stressed pisces needs to get down to work, and decompress on their own.
...Dude ain't entitled to some privacy??
Posted by Markell
...Dude ain't entitled to some privacy??


hahah well they do appear to date AND work together... one would think that there would be some time he is allowed to be alone or silent? Good call Markell! I totally missed that fact on my first read.
Lotus - you need to settle the shit down with this stuff. You're GOING to push him away with clingyness, for damn sure.
If Pisces men disappear then that means he is having a mind blowing dirty sex with a Gemini woman.
I'm not a man, but have similar placements with your boyfriend (sun, moon, venus, mercury, mars). Interestingly, I've seen your thread several days ago, but only now I feel compelled to reply. I don't know why. Perhaps some transits are affecting us in the same way.
Try this: when he is busy with work and you contact him, do not ask him what/how he's doing. He needs to unwind, not to go through his stress with you. Do not mention him at all. Instead, tell him something funny, lighthearted or exciting from the real life and he most likely will welcome the distraction. When he stops engaging, keep it short and end it up on a flirty tone.
Another thing is that he might be taking you for granted. Do not take up all his calls, do not reply to all his messages. Have a social life without him from time to time and let him know something about it, while keeping it mysterious at the same time.
Undine, can you suggest why is takes him a while to reply to my messages? He almost always replies, but in his own time. Is it because he is busy with work, trying to not appear very keen, or is simply not that interested?
I thought that was a beauty of text messaging: to be able to reply on your own time?
Busy with work? Possibly. Coincidently, I've been on a dating site for the past few weeks. Today I was thinking to give up and concentrate on my work entirely.
Trying not to appear very keen? I personally do not find anything wrong with being keen and showing it.
Simply not that interested? Not interested to the point of obsession, maybe.
Losing interest in you? I don't think so, because he warned you about taking time off to do something else. If I'm losing interest in someone, I do not issue a warning. I'm just waiting a few days away from him, hoping to regain my interest.
Posted by 88akka
Posted by lotus
Undine, can you suggest why is takes him a while to reply to my messages? He almost always replies, but in his own time. Is it because he is busy with work, trying to not appear very keen, or is simply not that interested?

If he replies the same day weather is hours later or at the end of the day when he has a moment to relax and give you some attention,,,, than you are good.

If he takes days to reply till the day he wants sex... that is not good.
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Yep yep. Just like other water sign men, Pisces men come off as sensitive and emotional, but that doesn't mean that he's committed. Worse than Scorpio and Cancer men though, the interested, even slightly interested Pisces man will tell you what he thinks you want to hear, so that he avoids confrontation as well as tries to keep you feeling good while he's trying to figure the relationship potential out.
Pisces like diappearing, sometimes they waiting on you to just to say "hi" . Thye really like attention those ones!
my pisces guy just deactivated his FB account. I'm torn between jut askinghi on whtsapp what is rong or waiting it out.
for me

hurt mostly

or need some time
I have known my Pisces guy since May, we've never met. He lived about 3 and a half hours drive away, maybe he still does. Maybe he's now moved to less than an hours drive away. He had bought a house and was planning to move. He is a successful businessman, working 15-18 hours a day, involving a lot of travelling abroad. He is going through a huge divorce with major issues. To begin with he messaged me loads opening up as I was doing to him. He said he hoped for a relationship with me and was protective of the children and me, he said. I had come out of an abusive relationship and my ex is now in prison for 15 years. My Pisces guy knew this. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me. He said he kept checking for my messages. The talk was quite sexual at times. He kind of coaxed me into the talk by saying he couldn't be sexual without feelings. There were sometimes when he took a day or so to respond but he came back. We were talking of meeting, then he said he had issues as his son was unhappy with the situation and they were living a long way apart. Pisces guy assured me he was still interested and wanted to meet but he couldn't message as often. I was understanding. Sometimes there were two or three days between his messages. I still messaged twice a day saying I didn't expect one in return often. He still seemed very keen and kept apologising all the time in each message saying he was interested still but just so much going on. After a while when I was unsure of his interest we spoke online, he reassured me again of his interest without me even speaking about it. He was on holiday with his son then after issues with his ex (his wife he is divorcing). When he returned he said again he couldn't message much as issues with his ex. It sounded worse and there were 6 day gaps between messages at times. Then came a message saying that his ex was stopping him see his son. He said he had to fully focus on getting his son back legally. He said he was still interested but for now had to draw a line. He said he loved messaging. He was often saying that to me. He then wished me luck in my search. I replied saying if he is really interested don't push me away. How patient I am etc and understanding. He then replied he'd come back to me if I wanted. That was 8 weeks ago. I send him a message about every four days. Long messages, no questions, caring messages hoping he's looking after himself. Sometimes about what is going on, sometimes about dreams with us. I've always been very expressive romantically with my feelings. Sometimes sexual and lustful which he said he liked. He could be so loving with heart emojis, kisses and lips. His words were lovely. I was his darling etc. He seemed very loving then when there was a few days between messages he sometimes seemed distant, formal or even cross very occasionally. As he got busier his messages were shorter and shorter. I've never felt a connection like I have with him. I am so empathic, wear my heart on my sleeve and have so many dreams. Normally men run from me because of my personality as I'm so expressive with my feelings. He seemed to like me. Now he's gone. He said a couple of times he'll come back to me. He hasn't read two of my messages now in a row. I now wonder if I've come on too strong with my feelings for him, even if he previously liked it. I am so distraught, I felt we had an amazing connection. I'm grieving him. If I message him again he may block me. I feel I need him to know how painful all this is for me though 😭