Posted by LibraLovesHim
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Posted by lisabethur8So, may I just ask are you Western yeah? That must have been really difficult. I can't seperate my heart from circumstance. I'm not sure what I would do, it would genuinely break my heart.Posted by LibraLovesHim
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
i lived with an ex, my last ex, who was really ideal for me because he was good to me and spoiled me,
while the first two were violent,abusive and drug addictions, alcohol addictions, and the first was a serial cheater.
but he was the type that liked to not be married and keep it that way, separately. so we drifted cause he won't step up. he did cry though when i was gonna leave (I cried too but my feelings weren't gonna change, and i know deep in my heart i can't feel committed if he wont). but still i was already not feeling it. i did love him, but after the two horrible ex's of trauma experience, i want to be loved the way i want. i wished him well cause he is a good man. and hope he find a good woman who likes long term relationship without marriage.click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Posted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates onclick to expand
Posted by RooSagicornWe had our 1 year together at his parents in NY a month ago...on their anniversary lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimThat would make it seem serious. How long have you been together now?Posted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates onclick to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates onclick to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimyup it's better for me to be single. it's hard to explain, it's just this feeling and maybe that's part of upbringing and part of astrology too and how it's expressed.Posted by lisabethur8So, may I just ask are you Western yeah? That must have been really difficult. I can't seperate my heart from circumstance. I'm not sure what I would do, it would genuinely break my heart.Posted by LibraLovesHim
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
i lived with an ex, my last ex, who was really ideal for me because he was good to me and spoiled me,
while the first two were violent,abusive and drug addictions, alcohol addictions, and the first was a serial cheater.
but he was the type that liked to not be married and keep it that way, separately. so we drifted cause he won't step up. he did cry though when i was gonna leave (I cried too but my feelings weren't gonna change, and i know deep in my heart i can't feel committed if he wont). but still i was already not feeling it. i did love him, but after the two horrible ex's of trauma experience, i want to be loved the way i want. i wished him well cause he is a good man. and hope he find a good woman who likes long term relationship without marriage.
So for you it was better to be single/alone, that to be with a man who loved you but didnt want marriage? Are you married now? How long did you stay single after him?click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistatingclick to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimDon't let him have it all his way...the Aries sun/Taurus mars guy i was with was the most stubborn and self involved person i ever met, it was his way or else battle commence ..... and it did ....Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....click to expand
Posted by aquarius_manOuch! So what was your thoughts exactly? Was she not the one, or you werent ready? The prospect of losing her not enough? Or your ego would not bow down? What the hell is it?!? Lol!!Posted by LibraLovesHimi have been kicked out of a long relationship exactly because i didn't propose on time. when she verbalized it. 3-4 times.
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
you have no idea, but the pressure to marry is still there.click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimyeaaahhh unless they are dominant 10th/4th houser, they are not traditional...Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistating
Here goes:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpioclick to expand
Posted by lisabethur8I feel he is very preoccupied with work, and he is comfortable with us. I don't want comfortable. I want progress, I want to keep riding the wave. "try before you buy" for 1 year is reasonable surely? lol! Meh! If it doesn't happen in Dec, i'm not sure tbh. And I totally hate to feel like a demanding bitch, because I generally am not. My time is so invaluable to me now.Posted by LibraLovesHimyeaaahhh unless they are dominant 10th/4th houser, they are not traditional...Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistating
Here goes:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpio
or have cancer/capricorn axis in their chart.
my ex with cap moon wanted marriage but he was not even equipped for anyone.
capricorn/cancer axis are really traditonal peeps...
i love that. me and my hubs are that.click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimPosted by lisabethur8I feel he is very preoccupied with work, and he is comfortable with us. I don't want comfortable. I want progress, I want to keep riding the wave. "try before you buy" for 1 year is reasonable surely? lol! Meh! If it doesn't happen in Dec, i'm not sure tbh. And I totally hate to feel like a demanding bitch, because I generally am not. My time is so invaluable to me now.Posted by LibraLovesHimyeaaahhh unless they are dominant 10th/4th houser, they are not traditional...Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistating
Here goes:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpio
or have cancer/capricorn axis in their chart.
my ex with cap moon wanted marriage but he was not even equipped for anyone.
capricorn/cancer axis are really traditonal peeps...
i love that. me and my hubs are that.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineHe got all upset after we spoke about it and said "i thought things were going great" lol things are going great! theres no problem with us and we are very compatible imo. he even went into work late and dressed like a tramp-totally unusual for him. I reassured him and said everything is fine, i'm just making my expectations clear. He came home with roses and proceeded to wine and dine me with a romantic meal at home, that was sweet BUT it doesn't change how I feel...Posted by LibraLovesHimDon't let him have it all his way...the Aries sun/Taurus mars guy i was with was the most stubborn and self involved person i ever met, it was his way or else battle commence ..... and it did ....Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
My mother used to say that if a man wants you he will fight to keep you whatever it takes
Tell him thatclick to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Lol!! Tell me about it! Thank you for raging with me!! GRRRR!!!Posted by LibraLovesHimPosted by lisabethur8I feel he is very preoccupied with work, and he is comfortable with us. I don't want comfortable. I want progress, I want to keep riding the wave. "try before you buy" for 1 year is reasonable surely? lol! Meh! If it doesn't happen in Dec, i'm not sure tbh. And I totally hate to feel like a demanding bitch, because I generally am not. My time is so invaluable to me now.Posted by LibraLovesHimyeaaahhh unless they are dominant 10th/4th houser, they are not traditional...Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistating
Here goes:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpio
or have cancer/capricorn axis in their chart.
my ex with cap moon wanted marriage but he was not even equipped for anyone.
capricorn/cancer axis are really traditonal peeps...
i love that. me and my hubs are that.
why can't he work AND marry you, then go back to work??
dumb ass guys. smh just marry why dont you!!! ugh. marry the woman that says they want marriage!!
grrrr or leave them!!! grrrr...
lol just getitng angry for ya..
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Posted by MyStarsShineYes, he knows this. My other condition was after your parents meet me (I wanted them to have their opinion and obv have a say in his decision) They loved me!
Have you said this to him Libra?
*I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives*
Posted by lisabethur8tbh honest i'm hoping it will happen in Dec and he's just trying to throw me off the scent. I mean come on, we are going to Como-what man would not take advantage of those surroundings?!?
lol seriously if he is so hardheaded like this...it's not worth it.
you want what you want and years later you are gonna be sad cause he not step up.
Posted by aquarius_manSo you plan to marry your next? Ie you are ready?
word to the wise: when ur aries lady sends u a link with the ring she wants for her wedding, better buy it right there on the spot and propose if you still want to be with her.
little did i know
Posted by LibraLovesHimokkayyyyPosted by lisabethur8tbh honest i'm hoping it will happen in Dec and he's just trying to throw me off the scent. I mean come on, we are going to Como-what man would not take advantage of those surroundings?!?
lol seriously if he is so hardheaded like this...it's not worth it.
you want what you want and years later you are gonna be sad cause he not step up.click to expand
Posted by aquarius_manSo when the only thing you have to do is make a formal promise, have a few bucks for a ring or whatever the hell. Why not to do it? Women who will act out and not mess around here have problem been victim of a "Stringer" and has found herself at an age where she had already planned on being settled and "attached" Therefore the next guy/s will get left behind until it ends with the one who's willing to step up. It's a reassurance thing also. Why not provide that? Was it worth the loss? It makes no sense to me. So if you were still together you would have married her by now?Posted by LibraLovesHimi wanted to marry this one. it was just bad timing, i guess. and she had had enough. she was the one i wanted to marry and still is. im 35, i was just waiting for my career to take off properly ...despite what they say about aquas, i was in two long term relationships, totaling almost 10 years, including break ups/getting back together so i believe in commitment. but at the same time, when i wasn t with these 2 girls...i was pretty much a chaser. i think u understand what i mean - when in love, totally committed; when not, i dont give a fuck, its just sex. but i always like to think of myself as an idealist - meet a woman and be with her forever, the whore, the cook, and the mother the love of my life, the apple of my eye, my port in the storm, my everything, you knowPosted by aquarius_manSo you plan to marry your next? Ie you are ready?
word to the wise: when ur aries lady sends u a link with the ring she wants for her wedding, better buy it right there on the spot and propose if you still want to be with her.
little did i know
i move on very slowly, it will take me years to meet another woman and fall hard for her and im 35. when will i marry? when im 40?
ahh this topic gives me a headache (although irl i never experience headaches or migraines. when i have a hangover my stomach's upset but my head is fine), it stirred meclick to expand
Posted by ariesnoIn your opinion, as a woman. How much of my precious time should I be sacrificing? We are great together, even his boss and colleagues are saying to him. Maybe its too much pressure also. But back to the Q. How much time? Should I put a deadline, or not?Posted by LibraLovesHimI’m aries sun, moon and mercury! But a female. Anyhow, we need time. We have to be 100 % certain that we’ve found the right one. And even when we’re a 100 % sure, we still need some time. It’s not because we don’t want to marry you, but we’re so afraid of rushing into something that could fall apart later. I could never forgive myself if I put someone I love through that because I was acting impulsivly.Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistating
Here goes:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpioclick to expand
Posted by ariesno'I could never forgive myself if I put someone I love through that because I was acting impulsivly.'Posted by LibraLovesHimI’m aries sun, moon and mercury! But a female. Anyhow, we need time. We have to be 100 % certain that we’ve found the right one. And even when we’re a 100 % sure, we still need some time. It’s not because we don’t want to marry you, but we’re so afraid of rushing into something that could fall apart later. I could never forgive myself if I put someone I love through that because I was acting impulsivly.Posted by lisabethur8It may be more about me and impatience than him hesitating lol!Posted by LibraLovesHimwha'ts his sign and placements?Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
i just wondered why he is hesistating
Here goes:
Sun 00°52' Aries
Moon 01°19' Aries
Mercury 17°58' Aries
Venus 21°04' Aries
Mars 04°37' Taurus
Jupiter 09°06' Aquarius
Saturn 27°55' Scorpio
Uranus 17°58' Sagittarius
Neptune 03°33' Capricorn
Pluto 04°06' Scorpioclick to expand
Posted by aquarius_manHoly shit! You mean he is bitter because he was co-erced into it? Is it affecting their marriage. It really isnt a big deal or have to be worked up into this big scary thing that I think men do. It just is the "right" thing to do. And why not?! If you can afford it (anyone can) I dont want anything lavish. Its about the intent, the promise, etc to me not the cash spent etc.Posted by LibraLovesHimi know an aries male + libra female, now happily married. they have been together 8 years before he proposed to her. and he only proposed to her because he wanted to be done with, both families were pushing them to marry. he loves her, and flies monthly to see her in LA. he is based in europe. but on the day of their wedding - i was his best man - he told me that he wanted to run far far away and be done with everything and fuck ''their'' wedding
In your opinion, as a woman. How much of my precious time should I be sacrificing? We are great together, even his boss and colleagues are saying to him. Maybe its too much pressure also. But back to the Q. How much time? Should I put a deadline, or not?click to expand
Posted by julietteeTHIS I do not want. I've made that clear. I want it small, intimate. No silly money spent-that's not how I want to enter our lives together. And it's how I am now. He has saved more than ever since meeting me as he has told me
i think many men think that the wedding is a huge pain in the ass. not so much the commitment but the whole ceremony with tons of people they don't even know, waste of money and food, drama about organizing it, it is very tiresome.
Posted by blvckphaseSorry, I never thought of it that way. Well marriage matchmakers should be earning a few buck! Alot of wrong timing relationships going on. Sure saves alot of time and heartache! I meant a mans world-because ultimately now men get to try before they buy-years back they had to marry to have the woman. lol!
How does that make it a mans world? It's not just women who want marriage.. plenty of men do too and it's becoming more and more common that women don't even want it..
Posted by julietteehahahaha!Posted by aquarius_manPosted by juliettee
i know you aquas are sweet well when you want to as you say lol. i have a close aqua male friend. he just got his baby libra 3 weeks ago. with another aqua. everything happened with her really fast and i know how slow he is. he is 40. and happy happy happy.
meh, i dont like aqua girls.
but i know another aqua - the classical aqua male: intelligent good looking polite a robot with no feelings - who met an aqua this spring and wants to get married this autumn.
but im not like these fine gentlemen.
idk, i don't understand your aqua nature to be honest. i would go for this aries rich bitch right now.click to expand
Posted by ariesnoI just turned 32. And him also but in March.Posted by aquarius_manYup, I agree. I’m not in a relationship right now, so I don’t have to think about this, but I think 30 is a good age to get married — for an aries femalePosted by ariesnoi met her when she was 23...+ 3-4 yrs she s now 27...i think 27 is still too young to marry. if you re an aries female hmmmm
Hahah! I’ve always been like this. When I was a teenager, I thought «Okay, so I’ll probably date a guy for ten years before we marry». Now, at 25, I’m thinking... maybe two years at the earliest. I would have to live with him for at least a year first. And then be engaged for a year before we marry. Yeah, something around thereclick to expand
Posted by julietteeAwww... Juliette!!👐👐Posted by Teena
The only thing I want out of a relationship is to get married. If I don't see marriage, I'm not getting into a relationship.
teenaaaa. where are you and starwars. i'm reading this post in a voice that secret used in his videos. it's hilarious lolclick to expand
Posted by bittercupcake
@LibraLovesHim
You both have to agree on the end game. Where are you headed and wish to be. Relationships should always be evolving and keep going. Remaining stagnant will only hurt it if that’s not what you want. So if you’d like to be married eventually and he doesn’t, what’s the point of being together ?
Many people are content with just being together without the piece of paper. But to me it’s a commitment to trying to work things out. Living together to me, is like having one foot in and one foot out. If my partner doesn’t agree with it then there’s no point in being together.
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by lisabethur8Lol what famous guys? On DXP?Posted by bittercupcake
@LibraLovesHim
You both have to agree on the end game. Where are you headed and wish to be. Relationships should always be evolving and keep going. Remaining stagnant will only hurt it if that’s not what you want. So if you’d like to be married eventually and he doesn’t, what’s the point of being together ?
Many people are content with just being together without the piece of paper. But to me it’s a commitment to trying to work things out. Living together to me, is like having one foot in and one foot out. If my partner doesn’t agree with it then there’s no point in being together.
i think that's what happened with some of these famous guys who didnt marry right away....
we usually agree on alot of things lol
Yeah I think the mistake women make is that they settle for it. Men usually never settle, they just move on. I’ve heard convos with men and say if she’s not what I want (as in package) I drop things and move on. There’s no point in being with a woman who I see no future with. Rarely do men like to compromise like women. That’s why we suffer more.click to expand
Posted by RooSagicorni wonder why people change after marriage?
I’ve been married twice and I lived with them both before marriage. Really I don’t know why the big deal of we must be married to live with you. Maybe it’s fear. My experience is it was about the relationship & the commitment to each other. Ultimatums don’t work. Discussions about what you both want do. Because we all have choices & must be allowed to make them. You must both choose you want to be together over & over again even in marriage.
Personally, at this point in my life, I would prefer to live together. First marriage husband changed a lot after marriage, second one not at all. In fact, I didn’t get a proposal either time. Both times it was a discussion of what we wanted together. We decided to get married. I think that’s what it should be like - a team effort. But that’s me I guess. I was married 17 years, it’s work, love and compromise, not just I want what I want & when I want it. Although there are dealbreakers & everyone’s is different.
Posted by julietteelol!! have you all ever watch Turkish series, and films??Posted by aquarius_manPosted by julietteenot grime, but rap nonetheless yeaPosted by aquarius_manPosted by juliettee?Posted by aquarius_manPosted by julietteeamaze mePosted by aquarius_manPosted by juliettee
well they are certainly more chill than usa people. no? i'm from southeast eu. i excussed myself from the weddings and funerals. there is no difference. maybe weddings are worse cause of the bad music.
why so? i love music from the balkans
i'm sure you have no idea what typical wedding playlist sounds like. the only therapy after is sepultura detox .
i. will. not.
LOL russian grime?
so im guessing your weddings arent like that. but with women and children and a bit more like turkey?
yes, turkish trance techno folk and folk rock.click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimOnly if the assumption is that it is the sole goal of a woman to marry and not a man's.
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Posted by julietteelol you should totally see "clair obscur" it's kind of sexy.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by julietteelol!! have you all ever watch Turkish series, and films??Posted by aquarius_manPosted by julietteenot grime, but rap nonetheless yeaPosted by aquarius_manPosted by juliettee?Posted by aquarius_manPosted by julietteeamaze mePosted by aquarius_manPosted by juliettee
well they are certainly more chill than usa people. no? i'm from southeast eu. i excussed myself from the weddings and funerals. there is no difference. maybe weddings are worse cause of the bad music.
why so? i love music from the balkans
i'm sure you have no idea what typical wedding playlist sounds like. the only therapy after is sepultura detox .
i. will. not.
LOL russian grime?
so im guessing your weddings arent like that. but with women and children and a bit more like turkey?
yes, turkish trance techno folk and folk rock.
i recommended one a year ago...it was called, "Intersection"
and i watched this one called, clair obscure, turkish film.
and my man was like, "what is that melodramatic-antics?" lol
cause all he heard on the other end of the room while i was sitting on the couch watching was all that crying and sobbing and wailing.
lots of SEX SCENES In this film too, by the adult woman of course.. you see her with two men.
ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NOT!
though i believe they have quality movies or series where they don't cry all the time, cause someone found out he is his own aunt. and blind.click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimBeen there done that....i got the flowers, wine etc etcPosted by MyStarsShineHe got all upset after we spoke about it and said "i thought things were going great" lol things are going great! theres no problem with us and we are very compatible imo. he even went into work late and dressed like a tramp-totally unusual for him. I reassured him and said everything is fine, i'm just making my expectations clear. He came home with roses and proceeded to wine and dine me with a romantic meal at home, that was sweet BUT it doesn't change how I feel...Posted by LibraLovesHimDon't let him have it all his way...the Aries sun/Taurus mars guy i was with was the most stubborn and self involved person i ever met, it was his way or else battle commence ..... and it did ....Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad aboutPosted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
My mother used to say that if a man wants you he will fight to keep you whatever it takes
Tell him thatclick to expand
Posted by juliettee#depressingPosted by LibraLovesHimPosted by julietteeTHIS I do not want. I've made that clear. I want it small, intimate. No silly money spent-that's not how I want to enter our lives together. And it's how I am now. He has saved more than ever since meeting me as he has told me
i think many men think that the wedding is a huge pain in the ass. not so much the commitment but the whole ceremony with tons of people they don't even know, waste of money and food, drama about organizing it, it is very tiresome.
my dad is an aries. his story with my mom is fucked up. one time he was telling me that he married her just cause he felt sorry for her (knocked her up). and i know for a fact that he can't live without her. while they are fast in pursuit they are slow for the rest. petar pan syndrome. idk.click to expand
Posted by Cvurko8Remove sex: which most people do participate in when first dating. And you have the religious/eastern concept of meeting someone, being engaged-getting to know one another, spending your time together (but not in the bedroom) on a deeper level. At the end of the day this is what is left when you remove all the materialistic shit and passion. Its stripped down to basics.Posted by blvckphaseIts better for everyone to try before buying. No need entering a relationship of any kind if not sure it will be a healthy and constructive one.Posted by LibraLovesHimNo need to apologize to me. That is just something I have noticed over the years.. the sanctity of marriage is not what it was before, even for women. But you are right in the regard to trying before ya buy. Haha, that's a good way of putting it.Posted by blvckphaseSorry, I never thought of it that way. Well marriage matchmakers should be earning a few buck! Alot of wrong timing relationships going on. Sure saves alot of time and heartache! I meant a mans world-because ultimately now men get to try before they buy-years back they had to marry to have the woman. lol!
How does that make it a mans world? It's not just women who want marriage.. plenty of men do too and it's becoming more and more common that women don't even want it..
Edit: and im not a fan of the improper comparison between human romantic relationships and the relationship between people and items.click to expand
Posted by bittercupcakeThankfully he does want it-we have spoken about it. I think my impatient ass is a little jaded due to past experiences. Ive heard it all before-SHOW ME!
@LibraLovesHim
You both have to agree on the end game. Where are you headed and wish to be. Relationships should always be evolving and keep going. Remaining stagnant will only hurt it if that’s not what you want. So if you’d like to be married eventually and he doesn’t, what’s the point of being together ?
Many people are content with just being together without the piece of paper. But to me it’s a commitment to trying to work things out. Living together to me, is like having one foot in and one foot out. If my partner doesn’t agree with it then there’s no point in being together.
Posted by lisabethur8Yeah this baffles me. I guess many times it's more they changed after ___ amount of time-and by then we were married. Eg is marriage always the contributing factor, or was it time and if you hadnt married you would have seen this side eventually.Posted by RooSagicorni wonder why people change after marriage?
I’ve been married twice and I lived with them both before marriage. Really I don’t know why the big deal of we must be married to live with you. Maybe it’s fear. My experience is it was about the relationship & the commitment to each other. Ultimatums don’t work. Discussions about what you both want do. Because we all have choices & must be allowed to make them. You must both choose you want to be together over & over again even in marriage.
Personally, at this point in my life, I would prefer to live together. First marriage husband changed a lot after marriage, second one not at all. In fact, I didn’t get a proposal either time. Both times it was a discussion of what we wanted together. We decided to get married. I think that’s what it should be like - a team effort. But that’s me I guess. I was married 17 years, it’s work, love and compromise, not just I want what I want & when I want it. Although there are dealbreakers & everyone’s is different.click to expand