Posted by MyStarsShineThank you mystars 🙂 your words always seem to give me a little strength and hope no matter what.Posted by LibraLovesHimBeen there done that....i got the flowers, wine etc etcPosted by MyStarsShineHe got all upset after we spoke about it and said "i thought things were going great" lol things are going great! theres no problem with us and we are very compatible imo. he even went into work late and dressed like a tramp-totally unusual for him. I reassured him and said everything is fine, i'm just making my expectations clear. He came home with roses and proceeded to wine and dine me with a romantic meal at home, that was sweet BUT it doesn't change how I feel...Posted by LibraLovesHimDon't let him have it all his way...the Aries sun/Taurus mars guy i was with was the most stubborn and self involved person i ever met, it was his way or else battle commence ..... and it did ....Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad about 😉Posted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on 😛
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
My mother used to say that if a man wants you he will fight to keep you whatever it takes
Tell him that 😛
If he really wants you, he will step up
Be strong and be prepared for any outcome.....and remember you are very entitled to a wedding with flowers and wine.....and a ring 🙂
Don't let him away with being so selfish, Libraclick to expand
Posted by julietteeahahahahahah! love it!
libra, my bf says
you should wait.
i say fuck him 😄. cheers.
Posted by brianafayTotally understand this. I put my case forth with much understanding.
I waited nearly 14 years for my engagement
Never really thought about marriage much until I finished college a few years ago ...then all of the sudden I felt I needed to be married RIGHT NOW and got all salty about the fact that he hadn't asked yet
Thought of dumping him many times
Bitched to anyone who would listen for a straight year
But the reality is he also had goals he wanted to complete before he took that step. It wasn't all about me lol
Posted by bittercupcakeWe live together, abroad as expats. His actions are in it with everything else. He flew me to NY with him to meet his parents and the extended fam. He flew to Scotland last Xmas to meet mine. This Xmas our fam's are meeting each other in my home country and they are staying at my home there. There is progress, I just want to remind him, that all this isn't happening for fun n games from my side...I want it to progress. Its a pretty big deal for me to introduce my fam to a guy, nvm introduce our parents to one another! I'm quite overwhelmed by it all...Posted by LibraLovesHimAries are action based, if he ain’t showing it then somethings wrong. The Aries said to me that while we were separated that he’d talk the talk with a lot of women but never showed for it because he wasn’t really into them or interested. At times he was just toying with them. I never had that issue because he wouldn’t even say it, he’d do it.Posted by bittercupcakeThankfully he does want it-we have spoken about it. I think my impatient ass is a little jaded due to past experiences. Ive heard it all before-SHOW ME!
@LibraLovesHim
You both have to agree on the end game. Where are you headed and wish to be. Relationships should always be evolving and keep going. Remaining stagnant will only hurt it if that’s not what you want. So if you’d like to be married eventually and he doesn’t, what’s the point of being together ?
Many people are content with just being together without the piece of paper. But to me it’s a commitment to trying to work things out. Living together to me, is like having one foot in and one foot out. If my partner doesn’t agree with it then there’s no point in being together.
There could be a hesitation coming from the Aries. It could be the long distance.click to expand
Posted by ScorpioTruthI discovered this also, with each of my exes, I was like bleh! No thoughtsof the future with them in that type of way. Which is why now when its happening, I KNOW. But i'm just praying I ain't wrong! lolPosted by LibraLovesHimI only said that because there had been a couple times where after only about 1-2 years, I thought I wanted to spend my life with someone only to find out later that they weren’t what I wanted at all. But that may be my fickle Sag Mars.. idk. But I respect any and everyone’s opinions/desires. I’d never knock you for trying it, I just couldn’t do it that soon.Posted by ScorpioTruthI used to think one year wasn't a long time either...different circumstances and situations I guess have changed my perspective on that one. Aswell as how I feel about him, and him about me. "time" just doesn't come into it in the human understanding of time. I wouldnt even know, say time being the deciding factor-what expiry date to stamp on this partnership?
I should add that I am not saying that women should settle and be with someone who doesn’t want the same things they do.. I thought about this after posting my last comment. I realize my last comment could easily be taken out of context.
I think it’s good to know what we want and not settle, but I do think a little patience/understanding goes a long way too.
In my experience one year into a relationship is not very long at all. I feel like you don’t even really know each other well enough at that point to determine if you could live the rest of your lives together. But I’m also super emotionally reserved and even more so reserved when it comes to making permanent decisions like getting married, buying a house, etc.
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Posted by bittercupcakeAgree 100% . I tread very carefully, but was still firm in explaining my feelings towards it.Posted by LibraLovesHimPosted by bittercupcakeWe live together, abroad as expats. His actions are in it with everything else. He flew me to NY with him to meet his parents and the extended fam. He flew to Scotland last Xmas to meet mine. This Xmas our fam's are meeting each other in my home country and they are staying at my home there. There is progress, I just want to remind him, that all this isn't happening for fun n games from my side...I want it to progress. Its a pretty big deal for me to introduce my fam to a guy, nvm introduce our parents to one another! I'm quite overwhelmed by it all...Posted by LibraLovesHimAries are action based, if he ain’t showing it then somethings wrong. The Aries said to me that while we were separated that he’d talk the talk with a lot of women but never showed for it because he wasn’t really into them or interested. At times he was just toying with them. I never had that issue because he wouldn’t even say it, he’d do it.Posted by bittercupcakeThankfully he does want it-we have spoken about it. I think my impatient ass is a little jaded due to past experiences. Ive heard it all before-SHOW ME!
@LibraLovesHim
You both have to agree on the end game. Where are you headed and wish to be. Relationships should always be evolving and keep going. Remaining stagnant will only hurt it if that’s not what you want. So if you’d like to be married eventually and he doesn’t, what’s the point of being together ?
Many people are content with just being together without the piece of paper. But to me it’s a commitment to trying to work things out. Living together to me, is like having one foot in and one foot out. If my partner doesn’t agree with it then there’s no point in being together.
There could be a hesitation coming from the Aries. It could be the long distance.
Makes sense. I think you should only bring it up if things aren’t moving forward. If you bring it up there could be feelings of being pressured by him. So you have to be careful how you address it.
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Posted by LibraLovesHimYou are always welcome Libra 💓Posted by MyStarsShineThank you mystars 🙂 your words always seem to give me a little strength and hope no matter what.Posted by LibraLovesHimBeen there done that....i got the flowers, wine etc etcPosted by MyStarsShineHe got all upset after we spoke about it and said "i thought things were going great" lol things are going great! theres no problem with us and we are very compatible imo. he even went into work late and dressed like a tramp-totally unusual for him. I reassured him and said everything is fine, i'm just making my expectations clear. He came home with roses and proceeded to wine and dine me with a romantic meal at home, that was sweet BUT it doesn't change how I feel...Posted by LibraLovesHimDon't let him have it all his way...the Aries sun/Taurus mars guy i was with was the most stubborn and self involved person i ever met, it was his way or else battle commence ..... and it did ....Posted by MyStarsShineWe do want the same thing, except as he says maybe I want it just a little bit sooner than him. He wants to see us out of the middle east and settled in Europe etc (I don't want to relocate with just a bf, i'd much rather a proposal came and then we started our lives) I feel in a way he is just being stubborn though, and wanting it to go his way, or on his "go ahead" His personality is like this. He knows what i'm expecting so we shall see, the rest is up to him-this part i'm sure he's glad about 😉Posted by LibraLovesHimMaybe you need to ask him......if you both want different things, then that isn't goodPosted by MyStarsShineNot yet. We are going to my home country for Christmas and his parents are flying from NY to join us then onto Milan. Can you believe all this? Families meeting each other etc...one would assume he plans on. I pray he's not a stringer. These are pretty real steps for me and i'd hate if he was just havin fun n games, esp now families are involved. (bad previous experiences)Posted by LibraLovesHimDid the Aries not pop the question yet?
We live in a world where there is no longer as much social pressure as before for a man to marry a woman he is dating-or intending on. So many folks are now "long term dating" Doesn't this make it a mans world?
Whats been your experience? Thoughts?
Tell him to put his skates on 😛
How long have you been together Libra ? Sorry, I just saw you wrote one year....
My mother used to say that if a man wants you he will fight to keep you whatever it takes
Tell him that 😛
If he really wants you, he will step up
Be strong and be prepared for any outcome.....and remember you are very entitled to a wedding with flowers and wine.....and a ring 🙂
Don't let him away with being so selfish, Libraclick to expand
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