Virgos & Aquas (Page 2)

hello friends...so sorry to not post sooner. i know you've all been waiting to hear how it went. i'll try to keep it short. there was no birthday gift. no card. no flowers. nothing. i tried to hide my disappointment. although it was brief, the evening went pretty well...or so i thought. after dinner, at my place he eased into a conversation about the current issues. reminded me of his job and how demanding it is. and how he gives up one of his "free" nights to stay with me (when he doesn't have to get up at four in the morning). he said he's trying to do better. said he would go to a wedding with me next month (although not in so many words). he said next month will be easier because his schedule shouldn't be too bad. gave me a passionate kiss at the door.

and that's it. i haven't heard from him in two days. tomorrow is his only day off. one would think that he would have spent tonight with me. he told me he'd call today. that friday he was going to bed early and probably wouldn't call. so i waited all day...and of course i caved in. i called and got his voice mail and he never returned my call. he'll probably (once again) call tomorrow like nothing ever happened. i'm beginning to realize that this has less to do with astrology and more to do with the fact that this guy just isn't into me. i've given him so many chances already and he just keeps letting me down. i'm sick of feeling like a doormat and i've think i've taken all i can take.

monday i'm going away for a few days, so i won't see him. if he calls and wants to come over tomorrow, i will probably let him. but i don't know if i can keep from telling him off at this point. he is being direspectful, and there's nothing that i hate more.

so that's it. i don't really need any advice. i know this guy is just stringing me along and i've been a total sucker. it's plain and simple.

i hope i'll find that special person to make my life complete. i'm sure he's out there somewhere. it just sucks being lonely...but i'm sure i'll get over it.

I finally broke up with him....via voice mail. He called me earlier..at about 7:00pm. He said he was at a barbeque all day. And that he was going home to make his fantasy football picks. He said it would take about two hours and that he would call me back. Of course he never called. So I called and got his voicemail. I left a brief message, had another drink and another smoke and called back. I said "It's me. I just wanted to let you that I'm not stupid. I realize that you're not interested in seeing me or in taking our relationship to the next level. And so I thought I'd let you off easy. (I'm so nice). I don't want you to feel obligated to call me or to spend time with me. I really wanted to talk to you about it tonight, but I guess you're apparently already asleep. I'm sorry...but that's it. So...take it easy."

Do you want to know the worst part? Deep down inside I'm, praying that he calls me and says he's sorry. That he really does care about me and that he still wants to see me. How pathetic am I? I keep praying that this guy is as in love with me as I am him and that he'll eventually "come around". Call it wishfull thinking. But who am I kidding, really? Only myself.

Well...thanks for letting me vent. I won't be able to post until wednesday night. I'm hope somebody checks back and offers me some support. This has probably been the most challenging relationship of my life, to date. Thanks to everyone for being there for me...even though my case is hopeless. Oh well...you live and you learn I guess.

I'm so so sorry ginzette 😢...I have to say I know how you feel...I won't be like most people and say forget him, move on, cause I know that's soooo much easier for someone not in your shoes to say, and those are the "sensible/norm" things women are taught to do in our society, not chase after a man...but it's hard to do that when it's someone who stole and still has your heart...You're not stupid for wishing he would call and apologize and make everything perfect, in some way you're hoping that you were wrong for breaking it off with him, that maybe he really does want you, but his circumstances surrounding his life is making him act the way he is...That's not stupid to feel that way... He probably does still want you, could it be he's scared of an extra committment to his life? I think sometimes some guys feel like they would lose their sense of self if they got into a serious relationship, so they like to settle for the let's hook up/talk every once in a while (but don't pressure me) type of thing before they decide "hey this is a really good girl right here".

I think you are very brave for breaking it off with him, even though it was probably done out of anger and hurt, and letting him know you don't stand for that. SOme women will wait until they are slapped in the face,[and I mean a BIG SLAP(not literally!)] before they would take a step like that.

My advice...is if he's a really good guy like you say he is, and it sounds like you still think he is, don't be mad at him, don't hate him, b/c even though you're upset about him not pursuing a relationship with you full force like you want..he does have a right to his own personal space, privacy, and the freedom to like whomever he wants to, you know? Choose to be a friend to him, maybe you'll get to know him a lot better that way, than you would've as bf/gf. Heal first if you need to, then maybe later if your still single and he is, call him and ask him to go hang out with you "as friends", no pressure! see where it could go!

hi everyone....VLL, ginzette ....so sorry to hear about what happened, i will read the posts more in depth later on and comment, sorry haven't checked them yet its been a hectic few days....gotta go back to work now!

sasha! good to see you here. write when you can. i hope things are going well for you =)

ginzette,

i'm sorry about the confusing stage you are going through. i've been there. trying to be strong, yet still missing that person...

i think your aqua guy needs to figure out what he wants on his own.
you ended things, and i know you may be scared of loosing him rigth now...but think about how much of him you really did have...

i think aquas are hard to understand sometimes, and may not mean bad most of those times, but still...you are who you are too and you have your needs. you deserve to be happy as much as he does.

if he can't give you what you need now...then...what could be done?

now, if he really comes back and shows you the plans he has to make this work...not only talk the talk (like my ex also did) but walk the walk...then you can re-consider things...

but if he doesn't, then, although is scary...what is it that you are hoping to gain from it all?

who knows, if he's acting that way because he's plainly selfish and disrespectul...or because he's clueless about what his doing...

the point is, he's hurting you with those actions, and something needs to be done by him or you to repair that...

and so, since it's less likely that he will do anything to help things work or change his behavior (i'll be surprised if he does) then all you can control and be in charged of is *you*

my aqua still wants to be friends, and who knows what's going on in her mind, but i feel like i let her made a choice for us many times...

maybe you'll be stuborn like i was, and will try to make it work again and again, despite of how you are feeling inside...but now that i'm out of my relationships for weeks, let me tell you...there are others out there who will care for you in the way you need to be cared for...

i know is scary, and i know you don't want to give up, but if you give time the time to show you...you will see things more clearly and things will make more sense.

he takes all the time to dissapear and come back...take the time you need to decide what you need too and IF you want to come back into the same thoughts and patterns as well.

either way, i'll be here reading ya buddy.

VLL

Hi guys.

Just thought I'd let you know he still hasn't called. It's been over a week now. I was away with friends for the weekend and I had no cell service. So I thought...this is great...if he calls he'll get my voicemail and be curious. But no call. I can't believe a person would leave things hanging and just never call again. I guess he's just trying to take the easy way out. I know sasha said he will call eventually, but I doubt it.

Anyhow, I have gone out with this other guy a couple of times now, and,lucky me, he's an aqua, too! Can you believe? So we'll see if I learned from my mistakes. He seems similar...free spirited and all, likes his space...but a little different, too. Easier to get along with. I'm just going to keep things casual for now. I have no expectations.

If I hear from my main guy, I'll let you know. Good luck to everyone else.

Wow! Had I known that a relationship between an aquarian and a virgo was odd I may have appreciated all of mine even more ! 🙂 Just kidding... I couldn't possibly appreciate them more than I do. All of my life my dearest friends have been Virgos... and My mother, and my sister, my first boyfriend, my first lover, etc., etc., etc.
My most memorable friendship thus far was with the most darling virgo... we had many scorpio planets in common... and I think of him daily though we haven't talked for years... his voice shares the narrative of my conscience with George Carlin...
Virgos help to fill in the details of my large life. It has only been virgos who have honestly been able to provide me comfort and show me the way to feel raw emotion (safely). Perhaps because emotions are difficult for them? Perhaps they understand the need to be free in this way even more than aquarians? These most beautiful people give honestly and with integrity and are just BAD and quick enough to be exciting at all times and through all times (and they are tough as nails when they need to be). Although it is most likely my own chart make-up that makes this astrological affinity such a neccesity to me... I would recommend that all Aquas give their time and efforts to the Virgo(s) in their lives. If nothing else they are more than willing to organize the mess in your home! 🙂

aquarichick,

thank you for being so sweet in your comments about us virgos!
you are leavin a great aqua impression here...very empathetic and fair.
aquas help us to see the big picture of things and like us, like to use logic and reasoning for many things in life.
also, we are both equally independent in many ways but need affection.

even though my relationship w my ex aqua has been the more complicated and unpredictable, it's been the most life-changing too. i've learning to see my mistakes more clearly than with anyone before and i have made every effort, as a result of that, to make myself a better person to date and to love.

i have many things to work on too, and yes aquas can be a pain in the butt sometimes, but also very lovable often...that's why even throuhg the obstacles we face...we remember all the wonderful things...

my ex-aqua did hurt me towards the end...so i moved on with my life for over a month now, but it is true what they said here...she's trying to come back to my life...and although i'm going to be very careful with every reponse i give, i know deep inside one day i'll be able to let her be part of my life again...i don't know how and in what form...but it is a desire of my heart to at least see her smile one more time eventually.

for now, all i want is her happiness and mine.

have a great week aquarichick and anyone else who reads this.

vll