GL male seeks sweetheart

Posted by einpisces

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Maybe you're not bored maybe just have strange taste


My advice is that you need to seek an nearby ranch and find some chicken or cow in there you know, just for an exercise to remove your boredoom


Dont be embarassed if you get caught actually you should be happy


I mean you got a good face, great job, the only thing that missing is that you're not famous with that you dont have to be worry about getting famous anymore as you do that and media expose you, you gonna be super famous in no time even be placed in history book and guinness record ! arent that awesome ?

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Posted by Koniuchaa
Let me guess, Virgo Venus??

Posted by Happy_Aqua

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Why do girls run away form you after 2 months?

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Posted by einpisces

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Maybe you're not bored maybe just have strange taste


My advice is that you need to seek an nearby ranch and find some chicken or cow in there you know, just for an exercise to remove your boredoom


Dont be embarassed if you get caught actually you should be happy


I mean you got a good face, great job, the only thing that missing is that you're not famous with that you dont have to be worry about getting famous anymore as you do that and media expose you, you gonna be super famous in no time even be placed in history book and guinness record ! arent that awesome ?

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Posted by wagtail
Where your mars and Venus at ...?

Posted by Happy_Aqua

Posted by Azlann

Posted by Happy_Aqua

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Why do girls run away form you after 2 months?

Well that's the big conundrum isn't it?


Only the ones I actually have an interest in though


The obvious answer is coming on too strong, which I've considered


Throwing it open to masses for some fresh looks or perspective

Well I couldn't really distract it from your message, that's why I ask. Your Sun, Venus and Moon are in fire signs, so you are probably intense, very "fiery". Do you find yourself attracted to Leo women?


Add your Scorpio rising which can be intense in relationships, wanting the other almost completely, mind, body and soul... I guess they make for a pretty intense combination in relationships


What's your Mars sign?

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy

Posted by Ssuperman
My guess is that when you're interested, you're probably a stage 5 clinger. That's probably why they run. There's no mystery involved.


When you're not interested, they're seeing you as a catch and chase you down.


Quit going so hard after those chicks. You'll probably have better luck

You're correct but it's so difficult to do when you really like someone.

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Posted by Koniuchaa
Do you have a Venus-Saturn aspect? Or Saturn in the 7th?

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league

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Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Azlann

Posted by Koniuchaa
Do you have a Venus-Saturn aspect? Or Saturn in the 7th?

Aries in 7th

You should just post your chart

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Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Azlann

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Azlann

Posted by Koniuchaa
Do you have a Venus-Saturn aspect? Or Saturn in the 7th?

Aries in 7th

You should just post your chart

Sun Leo

Moon sag

Merc Virgo

Venus. Leo

Mars. Scorp

Jupiter. cap

Saturn. scorp

Uranus. sag

Neptune sag

Pluto Libra

Lilith Pisces

Asc node Gemini


Just realised I might have been off about my birth time so have to check my houses


That's a lot of fire right?

I guess so. Anyways, I don't see anything really wrong here, so not sure what you are looking for.


It's possible you have Venus square Saturn, which could mean you really only seek serious, long term relationships. Nothing wrong with that, just may take longer.

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Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.

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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league

I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences


I'm not looking for validation there either


Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective

And I wasn't trying to validate you

I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp


Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'

Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested

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Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.

You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.

I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.

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Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.

You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.

I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.

It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".

I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.

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Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.

You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.

I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.

It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".

I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy

Posted by Ssuperman

So many people wanna click the "buy it now" button.

Good way of phrasing it. If only it was that easy. I still do it sometimes even though it was the wrong way to go.


I've had it once or twice the other way where the girl threw herself at me but it was a turn off even though there was nothing wrong with the girl.

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Posted by Ssuperman
My guess is that when you're interested, you're probably a stage 5 clinger. That's probably why they run. There's no mystery involved.


When you're not interested, they're seeing you as a catch and chase you down.


Quit going so hard after those chicks. You'll probably have better luck

Posted by SweetLily_89

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.

You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.

I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.

It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".

I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.

I'm with you koniuchaa. Virgo Venus problems

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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league

I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences


I'm not looking for validation there either


Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective

And I wasn't trying to validate you

I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp


Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'

Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested

Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers

You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly


And if I don't text first, they won't

A lot of women are taught to NOT initiate contact because guys might lose interest or ignore them


So if you're always initiating contact--don't worry too much about that


But since it takes them too long to respond--then you're right, they've lost interest.

And it's something that happens. Either the convo lost emotional momentum or she met someone else


So all I can say is: always be in your masculine energy (active energy) don't be overly accommodating or trying to please the other person. Be the leader. You push it all forward.


So if you're always initiating contact but she responds in a reasonable amount of time then you're good.


Be direct and straightforward. If she challenges you or something then call her out on it in a respectful adult way.


As long as you are respectable and not bitchy, you're good.


And you should eventually find someone because if she's not responding you need to move on and continue dating.



Question for you :


I've already had sex with this guy. We've never gone on an actual date. Can I go back from this at all or ever? Idk if he'll ever contact me again.

Why do guys lose interest after sex?

Why doesn't he see how perfect we are together?

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Posted by bittercupcake
You're intense... old fashioned... probably a little too impatient with all that fire ? ... and a bit too fixed


That probably scares off a lot of women. What is it exactly that turns you off from women other than the throwing themselves off you?

Posted by bittercupcake

Posted by LadyNeptune
After two months you should've made it official if your so interested in her. I'd walk too if things aren't progressing after 60 days.

Think it depends... I take on average 6 months to a year to make things official... anything sooner and it makes me go into retreat panic mode

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Posted by peo
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.

Posted by bittercupcake

Posted by Azlann

Posted by bittercupcake
You're intense... old fashioned... probably a little too impatient with all that fire ? ... and a bit too fixed


That probably scares off a lot of women. What is it exactly that turns you off from women other than the throwing themselves off you?

I don't really get turned off, I just wasn't really interested in the first place

If they come on too strong, then yeah that's a turn off

Hmmm so it's only you the one that feels like you should come off strong? ?..... interesting.... that must be all the fire placements.


Do you think that women do not provide a challenge for you ...?

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Posted by bittercupcake

Posted by Azlann

Posted by peo
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.

In no particular order


Intelligence, pure heart (does this exist? Ha), good sense of humour etc


Basically just someone interesting or creative


A little anti-establishment, not looking for the cookie cutter life style


In a nutshell

Sounds like an Aqua

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Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

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Posted by Orchidee

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

This is spot on!! Sag moon says they want a relationship but their actions are all about wanting to be single. They are self-sabotaging unbeknownst to them. In fact I've seen them enjoy themselves solo so well that sometimes I wonder why they want a partner. I don't know if they are oblivious to their secret liking for single life or just pretend so well.

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Posted by Azlann

Posted by bittercupcake

Posted by Azlann

Posted by peo
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.

In no particular order


Intelligence, pure heart (does this exist? Ha), good sense of humour etc


Basically just someone interesting or creative


A little anti-establishment, not looking for the cookie cutter life style


In a nutshell

Sounds like an Aqua

I've never really met an aqua girl. At least that I know of


An aqua dude I know is desperate for the 2 kids and a mortgage life style ,

Which is fine, but it comes off as a pursuit just to have it because that what most people do/aspire to

And I'm not looking for someone who is aspiring to be another suburban conformist


That's only one aqua though

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Posted by SweetLily_89

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniuchaa

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.

I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.

You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.

I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.

It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".

I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.

I'm with you koniuchaa. Virgo Venus problems

Virgo venus, Aqua venus, Sag anything, sometimes Cap or Cancer; most of them look so not desperate on the outside that people will just assume they're not interested in relationships on the whole.


From my observations, those kind of people often end up with curious/courageous partners who will be fully devoted to them yet will maintain their fiercely indipendent spirit in the end.

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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?

Posted by Azlann

Posted by wagtail
Where your mars and Venus at ...?

Scorpio mars

Leo Venus


No idea what that means

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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league

I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences


I'm not looking for validation there either


Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective

And I wasn't trying to validate you

I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp


Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'

Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested

Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers

You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly


And if I don't text first, they won't

A lot of women are taught to NOT initiate contact because guys might lose interest or ignore them


So if you're always initiating contact--don't worry too much about that


But since it takes them too long to respond--then you're right, they've lost interest.

And it's something that happens. Either the convo lost emotional momentum or she met someone else


So all I can say is: always be in your masculine energy (active energy) don't be overly accommodating or trying to please the other person. Be the leader. You push it all forward.


So if you're always initiating contact but she responds in a reasonable amount of time then you're good.


Be direct and straightforward. If she challenges you or something then call her out on it in a respectful adult way.


As long as you are respectable and not bitchy, you're good.


And you should eventually find someone because if she's not responding you need to move on and continue dating.



Question for you :


I've already had sex with this guy. We've never gone on an actual date. Can I go back from this at all or ever? Idk if he'll ever contact me again.

Why do guys lose interest after sex?

Why doesn't he see how perfect we are together?

Some good points in there. Thanks


how do you know the guy? Need more details

You can probably hint that you want him to take you out

He probably already knows if he's going to contact you again

Why don't girls text first more? Hhaha

Like I said, we don't text first because the guy automatically labels us as clingy and ignores us for a week


I'll try to condense the story.


We met on tinder. Talk for a bit. Met and hungout at his house. Nothing physical. Then texted for another week but he didn't ask to do something again.

Then a week no contact and began this pattern of me contacting him and finding ways of inviting myself over etc.


Saw him 4 times. The 4th time we had sex. This was April. Then he ignored me for a week. I was upset

And I basically wrote to him how i feel about him. And he told me he was confused right now and didn't want a relationship.


So no contact for 3 months.

I texted him Thursday how he's doing and he said that we should catch up sometime soon so we hungout the next day and had sex.


He knows how i feel about him so...

And I'm not planning on contacting him soon

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Where your mars and Venus at ...?

Scorpio mars

Leo Venus


No idea what that means

It means "WOAH INTENSITY"

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What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?

Sag then recently libra

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What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?

Sag then recently libra

Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?

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What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?

Sag then recently libra

Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?

I really like Libra


Do they play hard to get?

Seems like more like of a sag thing

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Hi internet strangers


For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,


I'm a good looking guy

6'4

Great job, basically my own boss

Well travelled

Very laid back

Early 30's

Have no problem finding women to date


The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky


The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me

On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse


people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck


So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?

Am I just boring as fuck?

Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league

I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences


I'm not looking for validation there either


Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective

And I wasn't trying to validate you

I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp


Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'

Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested

Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers

You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly


And if I don't text first, they won't

A lot of women are taught to NOT initiate contact because guys might lose interest or ignore them


So if you're always initiating contact--don't worry too much about that


But since it takes them too long to respond--then you're right, they've lost interest.

And it's something that happens. Either the convo lost emotional momentum or she met someone else


So all I can say is: always be in your masculine energy (active energy) don't be overly accommodating or trying to please the other person. Be the leader. You push it all forward.


So if you're always initiating contact but she responds in a reasonable amount of time then you're good.


Be direct and straightforward. If she challenges you or something then call her out on it in a respectful adult way.


As long as you are respectable and not bitchy, you're good.


And you should eventually find someone because if she's not responding you need to move on and continue dating.



Question for you :


I've already had sex with this guy. We've never gone on an actual date. Can I go back from this at all or ever? Idk if he'll ever contact me again.

Why do guys lose interest after sex?

Why doesn't he see how perfect we are together?

Some good points in there. Thanks


how do you know the guy? Need more details

You can probably hint that you want him to take you out

He probably already knows if he's going to contact you again

Why don't girls text first more? Hhaha

Like I said, we don't text first because the guy automatically labels us as clingy and ignores us for a week


I'll try to condense the story.


We met on tinder. Talk for a bit. Met and hungout at his house. Nothing physical. Then texted for another week but he didn't ask to do something again.

Then a week no contact and began this pattern of me contacting him and finding ways of inviting myself over etc.


Saw him 4 times. The 4th time we had sex. This was April. Then he ignored me for a week. I was upset

And I basically wrote to him how i feel about him. And he told me he was confused right now and didn't want a relationship.


So no contact for 3 months.

I texted him Thursday how he's doing and he said that we should catch up sometime soon so we hungout the next day and had sex.


He knows how i feel about him so...

And I'm not planning on contacting him soon

What sticks out to me, is if someone, of any gender, says they are confused or 'not ready for a relationship'

Then it's just a big cop out. They just don't want anything committed with that person. They come off as arseholes, but I think they are just trying to let the other person down easy.

I know that.

If he says he's confused about me then it's because he knows he doesn't want to be with me.

The thing that bugs me is I wish I knew why. What did I do? I think we're pretty compatible with eachother.

How is it possible for guys to have sex with someone they're not interested in?

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What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?

Sag then recently libra

Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?

I really like Libra


Do they play hard to get?

Seems like more like of a sag thing

I wouldn't think so but I'm not an expert on Leebs

@tiziani

I'm a rent-a-Taurus for the week.


Libra women I've met are easy work, they stay in the same place you last saw them. Obviously don't apply to all Libras.

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