Is this possible or just rubbish?

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by Anihp

Seems possible, but I wonder what's the difference between that and a relationship.

No commitment or responsibility.

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Posted by LethalFantasia

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Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by Anihp

Seems possible, but I wonder what's the difference between that and a relationship.

No commitment or responsibility.

Commitment means exclusivity?

And what responsibity?

I feel like the responsibility of maintaining a relationship lolz

A relationship is something that takes effort and actual care and commitment to maintain.... On both ends

Some people don't want that and that's OK but yah it definitely can't be forced imo x

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Posted by Alameda

Yes. I had a situationship like this with a Virgo male for 1 year in my younger days, and it worked out great. Lol.

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Yeah it means you are waiting for someone better to come along eh.

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Posted by Anihp

Seems possible, but I wonder what's the difference between that and a relationship.

No commitment or responsibility.

Commitment means exclusivity?

And what responsibity?

Exclusivity is part of what I demand in a commitment, but what it means generally is that you've agreed to be together on terms you've set. Responsibility is living up to the terms of that agreement, as Lethal said, as well as having the other person's back in a number of capacities, being there to support the other when shit isn't fun. A person who doesn't want any of that responsibility might still like you enough to hang and have sex with you when the mood strikes.

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Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Yeah it means you are waiting for someone better to come along eh.

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Posted by Anihp

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Posted by Anihp

Seems possible, but I wonder what's the difference between that and a relationship.

No commitment or responsibility.

Commitment means exclusivity?

And what responsibity?

Exclusivity is part of what I demand in a commitment, but what it means generally is that you've agreed to be together on terms you've set. Responsibility is living up to the terms of that agreement, as Lethal said, as well as having the other person's back in a number of capacities, being there to support the other when shit isn't fun. A person who doesn't want any of that responsibility might still like you enough to hang and have sex with you when the mood strikes.

I agree that exclusivity is a must in relationship, though ppl can change their mind afterwards, another thing.

What confuses me is when a person cares for you, tries to help, etc. but does not want to be attached

What do you not understand about it?

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Posted by Anihp

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by Anihp

Seems possible, but I wonder what's the difference between that and a relationship.

No commitment or responsibility.

Commitment means exclusivity?

And what responsibity?

Exclusivity is part of what I demand in a commitment, but what it means generally is that you've agreed to be together on terms you've set. Responsibility is living up to the terms of that agreement, as Lethal said, as well as having the other person's back in a number of capacities, being there to support the other when shit isn't fun. A person who doesn't want any of that responsibility might still like you enough to hang and have sex with you when the mood strikes.

I agree that exclusivity is a must in relationship, though ppl can change their mind afterwards, another thing.

What confuses me is when a person cares for you, tries to help, etc. but does not want to be attached

What do you not understand about it?

Let's say exclusivity and responsibility are 2 main factors in a relationship, if one does the latter, it's not necessary that s/he doesn't want to be exclusive but perhaps s/he doesn't like the other enough, no?

Maybe they blow smoke up the person's ass to keep them compliant, but really don't care. Maybe they like the person a lot, but not enough to commit. Maybe they care but already have someone they're cheating on. Maybe they care but are a real-life loner, not interested in a traditional relationship.

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Posted by 2LoV3

Is it possible to be attracted to someone, enjoy having sex with them, get along with them, admit you compliment each other and care a lot about the person and still not want to be with them in a relationship? Anyone felt like that before?

Posted by AriesJo

Yes of course. I agree, I think it’s when one of you or both of you are waiting for something better. But also sometimes people aren’t ready to settle down, or they know it’s just fun until they get that job in Hawaii or whatever, and they don’t want to get too attached. Or they want an open relationship. Lots of people have open relationships? Not sure I understand your question anymore.