Just called-off our marriage

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My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
Posted by i-xy

Was he in a relationship while he was having his sexcapades?
nope he told me that at that time he didn't want marriage or relationships...he wanted to just f**** he doesn't seem like a type who would be cheating but im just grossed out as a woman at his past. he texted me today and I asked him again to never contact me again.
If it makes you feel that way, then that's totally fair.
"It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays."


But....you were the no 1 he wanted to marry....? Isn't that enough to dispel your insecurities?


Assuming that he got tested for any virus and bacteria, and has been almost a monk for the last decade (by his previous standards)....what's wrong with you? Did he brag, or did he repent?


If anything, dump him for being stupidly honest....
He has been faitful....he picks up his phone any minute, turn on his video any second I call....there's no doubt in me BUT to me his past is gross....oh he did tell me that it's hard for him without sex so not sure if it's an addiction or something. Although it would be hard for anyone without it, but he made it seem like he f*** so many when he was single back in the days to add up the numbers like to prove himself something cause he lost it late. That action too seems disturbing to me. Im conflicted now since he is good now BUT doesn't the past shape people? doesn't that say something about his character regardless of whether it's been 8 years or 1 that he acted that way. WOuld any man here want to marry a woman who has been f*** by 400 men? Not hard to figure what the answer would be. He said that my own past doesn't concern him....right as in if I slept with 300 men, he wouldn't care smile)) i had a man not take me serious for marriage cause I wasn't a virgin so i dont belive my boyfriend.
You seem judgy. Would you prefer his number to be low and him to be unfaithful? Cause you have a loyal man with experience. And I assume a disease free dick. That’s kinda miraculous.


I mean if your into signs
Ey not everyone wants peoples left overs.
Posted by Weeds

Ey not everyone wants peoples left overs.
Yes, it's gross


Ewwwww
My husband admitted to doing something sexually that completely disgusted me. I could t go back after that.


People may call you judgemental, but you have a right. You’re not married and you’re not obligated to follow trough if you’re not comfortable.


I think you did the right thing. You may need time to decide how you truly feel about this.
It’s a lot of women!!!

But what it comes down to if you calculate? 1 women in 10 days?



And why did he tell you? What brought up this revelation?
my virgo venus says: EWWWWW!! no thx fam!!


everyone can do what they want with their life, and thats why I PASS!!
Posted by LaMadrina

And you slept with all 400 of his partners. You know the saying. Yes. If it's too much, walk away. No one can tell you it's wrong.
The thought of letting a bloke inside me that's been inside that many women makes me nauseous


😑
Was he doing porn?


Or is he really wealthy? And really attractive?


400+ Partners is excessive for even a sex addict
I'd be very wary of a guy going from shagging that many women to being faithful to one for the rest of his life


And I bet he'd keep the book 🙄
Posted by Gobby

Posted by Weeds

Ey not everyone wants peoples left overs.


Then find a virgin...

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Done!
and you can't even say, "I gonna be the best he had" I mean, what are the odds?? Oh I know!! 1/+400Laughing
I know a woman who married a guy so he could stay in the country


He ended up making one of his other wives pregnant and going back to his homeland


I'm amazed how naive people can be
OP, if he's 41 he's due to go through his mid life crisis soon (Uranus opposition)


I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't buy another book, and a sports car


Lol
Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Posted by -sierra-

eww

what's his sun sign?

for science


Yeah please tell us when is his birthday?
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thanks guys....his bday is May 15, 1977 he's a taurus with venus conj mars exactly like me both in Aries smile) just like me...so we've got that in common. His moon is also in Aries and sun taurus...he's very aggressive when mad and can even cuss me out then he cools down and gets normal.
What bothers me most is that how he refers to his past women...he calls them hoes....as if to imply that he didn't care for them and it was just sex...he loved his ex wife who used him by the way lol that's when he was normal and was only entering relationships and marriage, so he got over his whoreness ))) i feel like he lacks respect for women overall and this # proves just that coupled his excessive ho comment about women in the past....if i know a man is a ho...i keep away..that's what my basic instinct would dictate. I dont feel comfy being with someone who has a long line of 'hoes' behind him...i've never dated these type of men...the ones i have dated also had multiple partners but at least they wouldn't stick it just about anywhere....i don't even want him to stick his d*** into my mouth anymore knowing that's it's been in 400 pussies before. I feel like the man doesn't respect himself in the first place let alone women in general...maybe it is a karma that he got financially and sexually used by his ex-wife who kept living off on his money only even though she worked herself and had a few homes, but he worked and was taking care of the household himself and giving her great sex, so he told me that he started feeling like getting used.... lol
Do you love him?


Posted by Primrose

Posted by fem_fem_fem

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Posted by -sierra-

eww

what's his sun sign?

for science


Yeah please tell us when is his birthday?
thanks guys....his bday is May 15, 1977 he's a taurus with venus conj mars exactly like me both in Aries smile) just like me...so we've got that in common. His moon is also in Aries and sun taurus...he's very aggressive when mad and can even cuss me out then he cools down and gets normal.
What's his Mars?
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mars and venus conj in aries both just like in my case...
Posted by MyStarsShine

OP, if he's 41 he's due to go through his mid life crisis soon (Uranus opposition)


I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't buy another book, and a sports car


Lol
Is this like the return of Saturn?
I don’t know.. I think that’s a little judgy.. that was like 8 1/2 years ago. Get over it??? He obviously chose YOU. If he’s a great man and you wanted to marry him, he felt comfortable enough to tell you a dirty little secret from his past, you should accept him for who he is. And if it’s such a big deal to you, move out of the way so someone else can come love him and accept him for who he is. I get that it’s gross, but girl... 8 1/2 years not doing that nasty shit is a long time lol.
What happened 8 years ago?

He ran outta gas.

Fucked away his golden years.

Now, NOW! I'm willing to settle!

My dick is all bruised up and I hardly feel shit anymore Let get married!
Don't marry someone if you don't know them. You obviously don't know this dude well enough to promise forever.
Posted by fem_fem_fem

My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
Not to make light of your current perdicament, but this is a fascinating topic. To be blunt a person's number shouldn't matter when you love them for who they are, right? Generally that's true. However everyone has their "preference" and unfortunately that particular standard isn't always rational or fair. For example some women only date men who are tall, while some men only date blondes. While these preferences may seem besuperficial, it's still within a person's right to date whomever they want based on their own standards. Therefore how you feel about your personal preferences in a relationship is very important. If this situation makes you uncomfortable you should listen to that. There's no right or wrong action here.


The question is why does it make you uncomfortable? Most of us like to think that we are the best person for our respective partners, that they hold us above all other lovers. Likewise we like to think that we have worked hard at attaining our partners' affections. As humans, we see our partners' love as a prize for our hard work, one that must be earned through mutual trust and understanding. Therefore it can be difficult to fathom the value of a partner's love when it appears to have been so casually distributed in the past. As a result if the number of lovers your partner has had seems "too high", it may cheapen your partner's worth in your mind.


However you know the reason why he hooked up with so many people. He was young and insecure. Granted his approach to handling his insecurities was a bit unorthodox compared to most, but who are we to judge someone's growing process? Everyone learns life lessons differently. At the time your fiance used sex to validate his own slef worth. Likewise he did this BEFORE he met you. Therefore the man who you love hasn't changed. In fact he is the summation of those life experiences. The real question is, do you believe him?


That may not necessarily change how you FEEL about the situation though. Let's be honest, this guy told you about his 400 past flings only two weeks before you were going to be married. That's terrible timing on his part. When you are prepared to marry a person, you want to KNOW who you're marrying (good and bad, inside and out). If a person decides to ommit a siginificant piece of their past, that's not a great sign to build a trusting relationship. So if you feel that the trust in your relationship has been breached in some way, that's understandable.


Honestly he should have told you this sooner so you could have at least had time to absorb the information. Some secrets are bigger than others and take more time to process. If you decided to continue dating him, at least then it would have been your choice to do so. We both know however that he was afraid to tell you this information for fear ofbeing misjudged by you. So the question is, would you have preferred him to hide this information from you, knowing that you fell in love with the person he was deep down?


400 partners is a lot of partners, that's pretty clear. More than likely you would've found out about your partner's past at some point. While I do think some secrets are best left buried, telling you shows how much he cares about you. If nothing else it shows that he truly respects you enough to not keep you in the dark. So while you may not love the fact that he has had waaaay more sexual partners than you would've liked to know, consider the fact that you have someone who is willing to be completely honest with you.
Posted by MyStarsShine

I'd be very wary of a guy going from shagging that many women to being faithful to one for the rest of his life


And I bet he'd keep the book 🙄
He's had 8 years to reassess his past actions. 8 years of shagging 400 women and then another 8 years to figure his shit out.


Have to give it to him though, at least he stayed away from relationships and kept everything casual and non-committal.
Posted by Ram416

Posted by MyStarsShine

I'd be very wary of a guy going from shagging that many women to being faithful to one for the rest of his life


And I bet he'd keep the book 🙄
He's had 8 years to reassess his past actions. 8 years of shagging 400 women and then another 8 years to figure his shit out.


Have to give it to him though, at least he stayed away from relationships and kept everything casual and non-committal.
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...but is he marriage material?


Lol
Posted by exsqueezeme

Why do people have to go over and above to prove that they’re some exemplar archetype of the open minded millennial? Yes it’s fucking disgusting and we all know it. Three four women a day and having thrusted your peen in to 450 different bodies as if you have zero self respect for yourself and your body as though it’s some empty vessel to just be deployed to satisfy carnal urges is really primitive and sickening to me.

I don’t think he will ever change if that was the intensity of his addiction and I doubt he will stay faithful for long. You could do so much better op.
I totally agree
Posted by exsqueezeme

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by exsqueezeme

Why do people have to go over and above to prove that they’re some exemplar archetype of the open minded millennial? Yes it’s fucking disgusting and we all know it. Three four women a day and having thrusted your peen in to 450 different bodies as if you have zero self respect for yourself and your body as though it’s some empty vessel to just be deployed to satisfy carnal urges is really primitive and sickening to me.

I don’t think he will ever change if that was the intensity of his addiction and I doubt he will stay faithful for long. You could do so much better op.
I totally agree
Lub you ❤️
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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by exsqueezeme

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by exsqueezeme

Why do people have to go over and above to prove that they’re some exemplar archetype of the open minded millennial? Yes it’s fucking disgusting and we all know it. Three four women a day and having thrusted your peen in to 450 different bodies as if you have zero self respect for yourself and your body as though it’s some empty vessel to just be deployed to satisfy carnal urges is really primitive and sickening to me.

I don’t think he will ever change if that was the intensity of his addiction and I doubt he will stay faithful for long. You could do so much better op.
I totally agree
Lub you ❤️
You too ❤️
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You can’t be serious! 🤣🤣🤣
Posted by Jade_Alexander

Posted by MyStarsShine

OP, if he's 41 he's due to go through his mid life crisis soon (Uranus opposition)


I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't buy another book, and a sports car


Lol
Is this like the return of Saturn?
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Yes but worse....men trying to relive their youth lol
Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Ram416

Posted by MyStarsShine

I'd be very wary of a guy going from shagging that many women to being faithful to one for the rest of his life


And I bet he'd keep the book 🙄
He's had 8 years to reassess his past actions. 8 years of shagging 400 women and then another 8 years to figure his shit out.


Have to give it to him though, at least he stayed away from relationships and kept everything casual and non-committal.
...but is he marriage material?


Lol
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That's not up to us to decide. Only OP is in a position to ask that question and answer it.
Posted by Ram416

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Ram416

Posted by MyStarsShine

I'd be very wary of a guy going from shagging that many women to being faithful to one for the rest of his life


And I bet he'd keep the book 🙄
He's had 8 years to reassess his past actions. 8 years of shagging 400 women and then another 8 years to figure his shit out.


Have to give it to him though, at least he stayed away from relationships and kept everything casual and non-committal.
...but is he marriage material?


Lol
That's not up to us to decide. Only OP is in a position to ask that question and answer it.
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True....I hope she makes the right decision for herself
400 women, I feel so disgusted!


and they were using him just for sex


yuck Angry
Posted by -sierra-

Posted by nanobot

I know a scorpio woman who's slept with over 300 men and told me she's been infected with multiple std's and still can't stop having sex. Give him her number. Scorpio/taurus connection
eww that axis
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Fixed hell Tongue
Posted by fem_fem_fem

My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
you should love someone how they are now not hate on how he was before it's his past not your business if he admits it's because he wants to be honest with you get over it !

And all the water signs that reply please sht up stop living in the past it's about now and how he is now !!!

their are worse things in the world
I have two statements about this.


1) How the hell did you guys not discuss past sexual partners up until 2 weeks prior to getting married?


and


2) HELL THE FUCK NO. I don't even give a shit about being called judgmental. That is fucking nasty, and there is no way in hell I would even contemplate dating someone with even 100. 400+ NOPE. HARD PASS. NOPE.
Posted by nikkistar

I have two statements about this.


1) How the hell did you guys not discuss past sexual partners up until 2 weeks prior to getting married?


and


2) HELL THE FUCK NO. I don't even give a shit about being called judgmental. That is fucking nasty, and there is no way in hell I would even contemplate dating someone with even 100. 400+ NOPE. HARD PASS. NOPE.
HUGE BIG NO


Posted by dewiklaessen26

Posted by fem_fem_fem

My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
you should love someone how they are now not hate on how he was before it's his past not your business if he admits it's because he wants to be honest with you get over it !

And all the water signs that reply please sht up stop living in the past it's about now and how he is now !!!

their are worse things in the world
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Love a bloke who treats women like shite and calls them hos?


God, no.....
How did he find the time?
Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by dewiklaessen26

Posted by fem_fem_fem

My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
you should love someone how they are now not hate on how he was before it's his past not your business if he admits it's because he wants to be honest with you get over it !

And all the water signs that reply please sht up stop living in the past it's about now and how he is now !!!

their are worse things in the world
Love a bloke who treats women like shite and calls them hos?


God, no.....
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but that's his past i don't understand some men take more time to settle why does it have to immediately be bad for her. Like my sagg still loves me yes i had my hoe phase because of my past i had a troubled childhood maybe she needs to ask him why he was like that instead of judging him.

I had over 50 guys all safe though except 3 my sagg only had 5 partners including me 6 he lied at the beginning about the amount because he felt like i thought he would not have enough experience for example.

I mean if he's 41 now he should know better by now
Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by dewiklaessen26

Posted by fem_fem_fem

My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
you should love someone how they are now not hate on how he was before it's his past not your business if he admits it's because he wants to be honest with you get over it !

And all the water signs that reply please sht up stop living in the past it's about now and how he is now !!!

their are worse things in the world
Love a bloke who treats women like shite and calls them hos?


God, no.....
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Maybe he needs the right woman to be the right man
Posted by dewiklaessen26

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by dewiklaessen26

Posted by fem_fem_fem

My boyfriend whom I was going to marry in 2 weeks told me that up until 2010 he had around 400 sexual partners or even more than that. He said that he had a list that he kept writing their names down & their birthdays. He is 41 now & told me that he was like that until 2010 and that back in the days he even had up to 3 different women a day & he even told me that him & his friend would grab 2 women into their room into one bedroom & they would f** them at the same time (those chicks not themselves lol). Im not a virgin & far from it having 15 sexual partners myself at the age of 35, BUT I felt disturbed at his own # & felt grossed out & I cant get myself go to bed with him now. It's like something in me got turned off & we were planning to vacay in Europe & marry there by ourselves & I just called things off today and he is very upset. Was I right to feel disturbed with his fun days with that amount? I would think that women & men should have some self-respect when getting laid...some people just do it as a sport or to prove themselves something. Like he told me that once he woke up near such an ugly chick after a club that he ran into the kitchen & asked his bro to get rid of her saying that he left the house. He told me that he lost his virginity when he was 24 & his friends who had lost it at 16, would brag about their own sexual escapades and would laugh at him over his virginity, so he developed insecurity over the years & then when he was active at the age of 24, he decided he would get laid as many times as he can and he did until 2010. Am I right to feel this way? Looks like I will be vacay-ing in Europe alone now. I prefer men who do not run after each skirt and have some self-respect when dealing with women as it's the same as a woman sleeping around with every man she sees...no difference to me...both are gross. It looked like his sexual past was just a sport to him. I don't doubt him now, but something in me broke and I don't see myself going into bed with him now and I'm the type of woman who finds it hard to forget when shit happens smile It's hard for me to get over things sometimes. The idea of me being a #450 (for example) makes me seem like another chick for him despite his words of love etc. I'm starting to doubt men nowadays.
you should love someone how they are now not hate on how he was before it's his past not your business if he admits it's because he wants to be honest with you get over it !

And all the water signs that reply please sht up stop living in the past it's about now and how he is now !!!

their are worse things in the world
Love a bloke who treats women like shite and calls them hos?


God, no.....
Maybe he needs the right woman to be the right man
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I wouldn't risk it tbh ....
I really hope you guys both got tested for every STI in existence...
Posted by Harukka


I may be wrong, but I think that you don’t love this man enough, and he knew (maybe because he been with many)

You know? Like he talk about this to make sure that you can accept him... Idk



I don’t know about other women, but if I love someone, I really don’t care about the past, as long as it’s not pattern.

I feel the same way.


I think theres another reason she has cold feet.


But this is what she chooses to fight about.
Posted by MissKrabs

Posted by justagirl

Soooo is this the cap man from 5 months ago or the green card husband prospect from 3 months ago?


https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/capricorn-man-disappeared-any-advice--10494225/?checkpg=1



https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/how-to-know-if-a-man-only-wants-you-for-a-green-card--10959908/?checkpg=1


Just lol


maybe it's for school.

why would anyone troll like this? it's not even funny Sad
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There have been many fake trolls on this site.. why is beyond me. but I don't buy this shit for a minute.
With some people, the past can also define the present, not all of course


Unless the guy has gone through intense psycotherapy, an epiphany or a complete personality transformation, there could be a chance he will behave this way again ....
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