Opinion dating someone with an almost identical personality to your own (Page 2)

Posted by meowbellee
its hard when both partners are afraid of commitment and attachment- but its double the work and effort is required from both sides. someone who is normal is ideal (not anxious or avoidant attached) can help the other person develop a healthy attachment

Yes, so we went on a mid-week vacation last week and let me just say- 24 hours into this trip, both of our self-sabotage spells kicked in. It was rough. Not sure if we will see each other again 😅

One of my ex-sugar-daddies-turned-best-friend advised me to just reach out because the fwb needs emotional support/coddling at this time (for other problems we had on the trip). But I honestly don’t know if it’s a good idea since this gem is avoidant and I’m sure he may be annoyed if I reach out too soon (as I would be).

Idk, this is too much, yet I still feel a future with this man and I can’t figure out why. It’s not limerence, I can confirm that.

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Can't make a hoe a housewife.

Everyone I’ve asked IRL about this (in my case) has insisted I just haven’t met the right person. That when I meet the right person, it will be easy to commit without any fear.

Posted by meowbellee

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by meowbellee
its hard when both partners are afraid of commitment and attachment- but its double the work and effort is required from both sides. someone who is normal is ideal (not anxious or avoidant attached) can help the other person develop a healthy attachment

Yes, so we went on a mid-week vacation last week and let me just say- 24 hours into this trip, both of our self-sabotage spells kicked in. It was rough. Not sure if we will see each other again 😅
One of my ex-sugar-daddies-turned-best-friend advised me to just reach out because the fwb needs emotional support/coddling at this time (for other problems we had on the trip). But I honestly don’t know if it’s a good idea since this gem is avoidant and I’m sure he may be annoyed if I reach out too soon (as I would be).
Idk, this is too much, yet I still feel a future with this man and I can’t figure out why. It’s not limerence, I can confirm that.

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lmaoo aw, do you know where is his venus? if enough time has passed, like if a week has passed already, then its probably a good idea esp if u see a future with this guy. i find with most relationships if one doesnt reach out, it can fizzle out or turn into talking less and less and its hard to rebuild trust and same level of communication😅

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Aries Venus! We usually don’t talk between dates, except to schedule time together.

There have been times where he’s reached out to chat, so I’m sure there are times where he is lonely and desires interaction.

But I internally cannot push myself to initiate those interactions, so I fear it may seem out of character if I start doing that now.

Posted by serenidad

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@whorpio r u ok .. u dont have to do anything ur soul shines .. u r wole .. & matter bc u exist

why don’t you ask if the wives and children of those cheating ass dudes are ok? 😅

corny ass degenerate lol 🗑️

of course op is ok lol

narcs don’t feel anything lol

if they did, they wouldn’t be a narc.

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She has loose morals. I can see that.

But what makes you think she's a narc?

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Posted by serenidad
so you think people say and do things for no reason? that she brought up her mental illness for no reason?
there’s usually a reason/a motive behind what people say and do. she brought it up when she was being called out (when she was being told that she was immoral). but you still think she just did it for no reason?
really? lol 😅
ok lol 😅
also, i don’t care about op enough to be upset as i’ve already clarified up there that her future is of no interest to me.
the only thing i didn’t like is her gaslighting a member who remembered her character accurately.
i’m already well aware that op doesn’t possess any basic human emotions or decency. i don’t expect normal human empathy from her. i’m not delusional about that. people like this do not feel anything other than self-importance. 🙂

Your stance is bullshit, but I understand this is an emotional topic for some so it is difficult to be objective.

I mentioned ADHD, PTSD and Asperger’s because I do not think ANY human behavior is a black or white issue. Humans are complex, our behavior can’t be simplified to “you do this, you are a bad person”. Do you also consider drug addicts bad people when their actions clearly impact their loved ones? Do you consider suicidal individuals to be “bad” when they pull the trigger despite all the people who’ve begged them not to?

Your reaction/opinion to my behavior is driven by waves flowing under your surface, waves you may or may not be conscious of.

Likewise, my behavior is driven by waves flowing under my surface, some of which I’m conscious of, some I’m sure I’m not conscious of.

As someone who does have a tendency to cheat, I wholeheartedly don’t believe there is responsibility on the third party for MY actions. Yes, I do feel guilty for cheating on my own partners. No, I do not feel guilty when married/taken men SEEK me out for an affair.

In the thread you linked, I stopped pursuing that man when he told me he wasn’t interested. I am not the person who will actively poke/prod someone who tells me “no”. If they circle back around with a “yes”, that is fair for me to engage, in my own opinion. I don’t feel bad about that, as that is their choice and I guarantee if I say “no” they will just try with someone else regardless.

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here’s a video of cute little hamsters.

go watch that and stay out of my way.

it’s not like a toddler like you has anything of value to contribute to a conversation about self-reflection and accountability anyway.

i was only responding to people addressing me.

Posted by serenidad
here’s a video of cute little hamsters.

Tell me you realized you were wrong, without telling me you were wrong.

Posted by serenidad
go watch that and stay out of my way.

Stay out of YOUR way on MY thread…. Riiiiiiight.

Posted by serenidad
it’s not like a toddler like you has anything of value to contribute to a conversation about self-reflection and accountability anyway.

Daddy always said pay attention to the words people use to insult you- it’s a direct reflection of how they view themselves 👀

Posted by serenidad
i was only responding to people addressing me.

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So I have no business standing up for myself then, right?

You can eliminate yourself now, you know where the door is 😌

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Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Can't make a hoe a housewife.

Everyone I’ve asked IRL about this (in my case) has insisted I just haven’t met the right person. That when I meet the right person, it will be easy to commit without any fear.

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Go the polygamous route. Some people aren't meant for a single person.

You are one of those people.

realized i was wrong about what? you? lol no, you keep proving how right i am about you the more you talk. so keep talking.lol

Posted by poppyflower
If you are the third party, one usually leads to the other, when it comes to married men…

It would be ignorant of me to say I’ve never been involved in an affair that dissolved a marriage/relationship, as I don’t actually know if I have been involved in a catalyzing affair.

But I can say, to my own knowledge, I have not been involved in one of those types of affairs.

I like to think I keep it professional, strictly about sex and other needs that need to be met in order for the man to show up in his marriage how he needs to show up. I tend to disappear if it looks like the man doesn’t seem interested in maintaining his marriage/relationship and is shopping for a new one.

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Go the polygamous route. Some people aren't meant for a single person.

You are one of those people.

😬Come on man, don’t say that. I’d rather be alone than poly

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Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Go the polygamous route. Some people aren't meant for a single person.

You are one of those people.

😬Come on man, don’t say that. I’d rather be alone than poly

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And what happens when you get bored of that person? The one who was meant to be your soulmate. How do you think you'll handle it when the routine gets stale?

You'll still feel intensely turned on by strangers and get excited by interactions. Will that be enough for you? To look but never touch.

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Go the polygamous route. Some people aren't meant for a single person.
You are one of those people.

😬Come on man, don’t say that. I’d rather be alone than poly
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And what happens when you get bored of that person? The one who was meant to be your soulmate. How do you think you'll handle it when the routine gets stale?

You'll still feel intensely turned on by strangers and get excited by interactions. Will that be enough for you? To look but never touch.

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😬 Ya I know, but I think if I find someone who is hot, rich and can continually make me cum I could do it.

This new Gemini sun / Taurus moon checks 1.5 of those boxes.

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Go the polygamous route. Some people aren't meant for a single person.
You are one of those people.

😬Come on man, don’t say that. I’d rather be alone than poly
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And what happens when you get bored of that person? The one who was meant to be your soulmate. How do you think you'll handle it when the routine gets stale?
You'll still feel intensely turned on by strangers and get excited by interactions. Will that be enough for you? To look but never touch.
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😬 Ya I know, but I think if I find someone who is hot, rich and can continually make me cum I could do it.

This new Gemini sun / Taurus moon checks 1.5 of those boxes.

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Lol... you're still going to sneak off.

F no,

I cant stand Leo moons = Period

Its always a fight/potential getting it cracking on-sight, for whatever.

Aries moons &/or Sag moons work the best.

I can Sense these women.

Aries moon female will look @ me from across the bar like im the Only man in the world.

Sag is very similar, but very chatty & happy & playful. etc.

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Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by Black-Ops-Berserker
Go the polygamous route. Some people aren't meant for a single person.
You are one of those people.

😬Come on man, don’t say that. I’d rather be alone than poly
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And what happens when you get bored of that person? The one who was meant to be your soulmate. How do you think you'll handle it when the routine gets stale?
You'll still feel intensely turned on by strangers and get excited by interactions. Will that be enough for you? To look but never touch.
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😬 Ya I know, but I think if I find someone who is hot, rich and can continually make me cum I could do it.

This new Gemini sun / Taurus moon checks 1.5 of those boxes.

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I'm willing to bet that I'm 2/3. I know I'm not rich lmao. But I likely will be later..

AND I'm a taurus moon. Hyuck.

Any updates?