I didn’t do anything. I have (or maybe had) a that friend makes me feel uncomfortable so I said it’s best to go our separate ways and they came back saying they were gonna do something bad.

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I can suck the bullet out of a glock on safety.

@Whorpio

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Posted by seraph
Posted by Whorpio

Why do people do this? And how do you diffuse the situation when they pull it on you?

Why do they do this? The reasons make no difference. Some neuroses present this way and the person at the receiving end of it engages with the person dishing it out at their own peril. Some folks do it deliberately, while others can’t help themselves. The response should probably be the same: polite and compassionate behaviour (that one would give to anyone else) without any bonding. If at all possible these people are to be avoided.
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I told the person not to do anything bad and that I don’t think our friendship is appropriate at this time. Is that a good response?

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Emotional blackmailing is manipulative.

They aren't really going to do anything to themselves. They just want to guilt you into having their way.

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Posted by tiziani

I took a gamble and stopped speaking with them.

The next day they were perfectly alive.

Why you gotta out me like that Tiz? GAWD, I TOLD YOU THAT WE WERE FWENDS 4 LYFE. YOU CAN'T GIT RID OF MEH!

Un petit pamplemousse

@SassyKiwi

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I've encountered numerous people who have tried to pull this, they're all still perfectly alive today and it's been years.

Teach yourself it's one of the biggest red flag a person can give.

taurus sun/rising cap moon aries mercury/venus pisces mars

@notreally

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You just slip out the back, Jack

Make a new plan, Stan

You don't need to be coy, Roy

Just get yourself free

Hop on the bus, Gus

You don't need to discuss much

Just drop off the key, Lee

And get yourself free

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It's NOTHING SHORT of manipulation. A cowards way of trying to avoid rejection.

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DO NOT BUY THIS BULLSHIT

its manipulation

Its not YOUR job to defuse

If they act out then call 911

Do not engage

My ex libra would pull this as a way to control me

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Posted by seraph
Posted by Whorpio
Posted by seraph
Posted by Whorpio

Why do people do this? And how do you diffuse the situation when they pull it on you?

Why do they do this? The reasons make no difference. Some neuroses present this way and the person at the receiving end of it engages with the person dishing it out at their own peril. Some folks do it deliberately, while others can’t help themselves. The response should probably be the same: polite and compassionate behaviour (that one would give to anyone else) without any bonding. If at all possible these people are to be avoided.

I told the person not to do anything bad and that I don’t think our friendship is appropriate at this time. Is that a good response?

Sounds fine to me.
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Me too. Go ahead.

People who threaten to hurt themselves if you leave them

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