Posted by PhoenixStorm
So maybe he was just thinking out loud saying that he didn’t like it, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over. Did he actually say it’s over or was he just saying he doesn’t like the distance between you?
Posted by Black-Mamba
wow you really know how to take things to the nth level.
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Deedee75
The conversation left me unsure but him not texting or calling later pretty much summed it up.
I just shipped his Valentine's present yesterday too. Now, he is going to think I'm a stalker when he gets it
you're turning into a paranoid anxious looney tuneclick to expand
Posted by Black-Mamba
or is this like your intuition gut feeling speaking?
i don't know if i believe in that stuff anymore
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Deedee75Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Deedee75
The conversation left me unsure but him not texting or calling later pretty much summed it up.
I just shipped his Valentine's present yesterday too. Now, he is going to think I'm a stalker when he gets it
you're turning into a paranoid anxious looney tune
Pot meet kettle 😘
This is why its so hard to get close to anybody, you always waiting for that shoe to drop
its a circular battle within selfclick to expand
Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by Deedee75
I asked him why he would dump me after last week and not before?
He said it's not me. It's the distance and that he had a good time, a really really good time.
If this was the flow of the conversation I can kinda understand why you concluded that he was breaking up with you. So when you asked why he would dump you after last week, this was his response? But then afterward he says he didn’t dump you?
Were you actually together??click to expand
Posted by Black-Mamba
Anyways DeeDee hugs, this is tough. I hope for your sake you can get through this.
i know you told me you gave up on love until he came into your life and i was hopeful that one day that might happen for me
So i am going to keep the light burning for you
Posted by ArilovesAqu
Granted I don’t know this situation at all but why do you assume he dumped you rather than planting a seed that you should be closer? Like move in together etc? I’m so confused. He didn’t seem like he was rejecting you at all.
Posted by Undine
"He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us."
He said he didn't like the long distance (between you). Honestly, do you...?
Posted by pisceanlovesI would love for you to be right
Well why did you assume the worst?? Maybe what he wanted to say was that long distance is really difficult for both of you and to consider taking things further? Maybe he wants marriage instead of dumping? People don't usually go from one to the opposite extreme. Just relax and see what happens
Posted by Deedee75Exactly! He was just being honest.Posted by Undine
"He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us."
He said he didn't like the long distance (between you). Honestly, do you...?
No....I hate every second of it.click to expand
Posted by UndinePosted by Deedee75Posted by Undine
"He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us."
He said he didn't like the long distance (between you). Honestly, do you...?
No....I hate every second of it.
Exactly! He was just being honest.
Isn't that the ultimate sacrifice...to carry on doing something you hate, just to be with the one you love? He said he will be carrying on meeting you, didn't he? Maybe he was just trying to pay you a backward compliment.click to expand
Posted by Deedee75But he's flying right? So he gets a pass. If a week goes by and he doesn't reach out then yeah... its over.Posted by PhoenixStorm
So maybe he was just thinking out loud saying that he didn’t like it, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over. Did he actually say it’s over or was he just saying he doesn’t like the distance between you?
He didn't say it.
But by not reaching out later said a lotclick to expand
Posted by thatlibralifePosted by Deedee75
We weren't arguing or anything.
He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us.
I asked what he was saying and he talked around it. I asked him why he would dump me after last week and not before?
He said it's not me. It's the distance and that he had a good time, a really really good time.
Then he had to go and would talk to me later. I said, "really? You drop a bomb and dump me by text and will talk to me later?"
Him: I really didn't drop a bomb. I didn't dump you.
Me: yeah, ya kind of did
No communication since. He is flying today
This makes my heart ache.
Nobody likes long distance romances. I mean who would? You Scorps always so fatalistic. Going straight to dump mode. I feel like you put those thoughts in his head. He probaly didn't even mean it that way. I dunno but I would call him as soon as you can to straighten this out. Great love connections can be hard to come by. Fight for this!
I have determined that I'm giving my all in my relationship and not letting misunderstandings get in the way.. Screw that...wishing you well...click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Deedee75Posted by PhoenixStorm
So maybe he was just thinking out loud saying that he didn’t like it, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over. Did he actually say it’s over or was he just saying he doesn’t like the distance between you?
He didn't say it.
But by not reaching out later said a lot
But he's flying right? So he gets a pass. If a week goes by and he doesn't reach out then yeah... its over.click to expand
Posted by Deedee75He didnt say anything because he didnt want to get stabbed
We weren't arguing or anything.
He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us.
I asked what he was saying and he talked around it. I asked him why he would dump me after last week and not before?
He said it's not me. It's the distance and that he had a good time, a really really good time.
Then he had to go and would talk to me later. I said, "really? You drop a bomb and dump me by text and will talk to me later?"
Him: I really didn't drop a bomb. I didn't dump you.
Me: yeah, ya kind of did
No communication since. He is flying today
Posted by Deedee75You're actually on the same page.Posted by Undine
"He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us."
He said he didn't like the long distance (between you). Honestly, do you...?
No....I hate every second of it.click to expand
Posted by Deedee75Try not to get too much in your head. Keep it calm cool and collected.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Deedee75Posted by PhoenixStorm
So maybe he was just thinking out loud saying that he didn’t like it, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over. Did he actually say it’s over or was he just saying he doesn’t like the distance between you?
He didn't say it.
But by not reaching out later said a lot
But he's flying right? So he gets a pass. If a week goes by and he doesn't reach out then yeah... its over.
A long flight too and a busy work weekend.
We are a lot alike. He called me the female version of him. We get in a work zone.
He will fly back home on Monday.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
Do you have vday plans with him?
Who knows maybe him saying 'I hate long distance' was the precursor to opening the convo to a 'let's move in together/get married' vibes. But you killed the mood by saying your dumping me.
I have a feeling he'll be back.
Posted by Deedee75Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by Deedee75
I asked him why he would dump me after last week and not before?
He said it's not me. It's the distance and that he had a good time, a really really good time.
If this was the flow of the conversation I can kinda understand why you concluded that he was breaking up with you. So when you asked why he would dump you after last week, this was his response? But then afterward he says he didn’t dump you?
Were you actually together??
Yes. We both travel for work and met on the road about 6 months ago. Spent a week together and pretty much clicked. It is long distance for now but we do visit as much as possible and had plans of moving in together in 18 months. We knew the timeline from the beginning.
We were together last week for 5 days and had a great time.click to expand
Posted by DMVPosted by Deedee75Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by Deedee75
I asked him why he would dump me after last week and not before?
He said it's not me. It's the distance and that he had a good time, a really really good time.
If this was the flow of the conversation I can kinda understand why you concluded that he was breaking up with you. So when you asked why he would dump you after last week, this was his response? But then afterward he says he didn’t dump you?
Were you actually together??
Yes. We both travel for work and met on the road about 6 months ago. Spent a week together and pretty much clicked. It is long distance for now but we do visit as much as possible and had plans of moving in together in 18 months. We knew the timeline from the beginning.
We were together last week for 5 days and had a great time.
Interesting im a sag and when I dated a sag I always missed him like crazy AFTER he would leave. He was the same way.
But we always talked about it. It wasnt a prelude to a breakup. It was just acknowledging our current feelings.
Then we would both go and focus on a hobby or a job and then reconnect.click to expand
Posted by Deedee75Yes, calm yourself down. He may not be an expert in giving reassurance, but nobody's perfect.Posted by UndinePosted by Deedee75Posted by Undine
"He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us."
He said he didn't like the long distance (between you). Honestly, do you...?
No....I hate every second of it.
Exactly! He was just being honest.
Isn't that the ultimate sacrifice...to carry on doing something you hate, just to be with the one you love? He said he will be carrying on meeting you, didn't he? Maybe he was just trying to pay you a backward compliment.
I hope so.
I'm just going to lay low and see what happens.click to expand
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
Gurl, you're far too hot inside & out to dump just like that ESPECIALLY after all those plans. Personally I have no experience with Sags, but from what I know: if he made it this far in the marathon to MAKE plans like that, he's hooked for the longhaul.
TL;DR: you're crazy.
But fear not! Your fairy godson is here to dispel all the crazy away with my magic wand.![]()
Now go take a cold shower and dip your head in ice water for 30 seconds to get rid of any lingering crazy. You sizzling bishbish you.
Posted by Deedee75That's no surprise to me. I'm a Sag risingPosted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
Gurl, you're far too hot inside & out to dump just like that ESPECIALLY after all those plans. Personally I have no experience with Sags, but from what I know: if he made it this far in the marathon to MAKE plans like that, he's hooked for the longhaul.
TL;DR: you're crazy.
But fear not! Your fairy godson is here to dispel all the crazy away with my magic wand.![]()
Now go take a cold shower and dip your head in ice water for 30 seconds to get rid of any lingering crazy. You sizzling bishbish you.
💋I love youclick to expand
Posted by NemDeux
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeux
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Good question!
Anyone?
My best friend who is a scorp had quite unpleasant and heated discussions with 3 individual sags just these past few days.
At work a sag is not interacting with a scorp 🥶
No idea whats in the atmosphere.click to expand
Posted by Deedee75Does he have Scorpio in his chart? If so, I can see why it works. And do you have Sag in yours?Posted by NemDeuxPosted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeux
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Good question!
Anyone?
My best friend who is a scorp had quite unpleasant and heated discussions with 3 individual sags just these past few days.
At work a sag is not interacting with a scorp 🥶
No idea whats in the atmosphere.
Hmmmmm.....I would love to blame this in the stars and get back to normal soon.
Stereotypically, a sag and scorp shouldn't be compatible but when I input are exact birth info, our synastry is off the charts! Best partner reading that I have ever received regardless of what site I use. We have something special, I just hope we didn't fuck it upclick to expand
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeuxPosted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeux
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Good question!
Anyone?
My best friend who is a scorp had quite unpleasant and heated discussions with 3 individual sags just these past few days.
At work a sag is not interacting with a scorp 🥶
No idea whats in the atmosphere.
Hmmmmm.....I would love to blame this in the stars and get back to normal soon.
Stereotypically, a sag and scorp shouldn't be compatible but when I input are exact birth info, our synastry is off the charts! Best partner reading that I have ever received regardless of what site I use. We have something special, I just hope we didn't fuck it up
Yes it would be convenient to scapegoat some constellation ....but more likely it has to do with dynamics and learned/triggered behaviour. Instead of trying to understand his thinking process, use this as an oppurtunity to reflect on your previous relationships, how was your communication style , your comfort level, your emotional security ....how did things end? Suddenly? Patterns?
If your love is strong enough, it will sail over this incident.
But pressure in this difficult situation will not have the wished outcome.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeuxPosted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeux
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Good question!
Anyone?
My best friend who is a scorp had quite unpleasant and heated discussions with 3 individual sags just these past few days.
At work a sag is not interacting with a scorp 🥶
No idea whats in the atmosphere.
Hmmmmm.....I would love to blame this in the stars and get back to normal soon.
Stereotypically, a sag and scorp shouldn't be compatible but when I input are exact birth info, our synastry is off the charts! Best partner reading that I have ever received regardless of what site I use. We have something special, I just hope we didn't fuck it up
Does he have Scorpio in his chart? If so, I can see why it works. And do you have Sag in yours?
You seem to worry a lot. But I don't think that's much of an issue, it would probably be cute to him. It just shows that you care.click to expand
Posted by Deedee75That's probably the reason you guys mesh so well. He's a watery Sag and you're a Fiery Scorpio. It keeps things interestingPosted by saggurl88Posted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeuxPosted by Deedee75Posted by NemDeux
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Good question!
Anyone?
My best friend who is a scorp had quite unpleasant and heated discussions with 3 individual sags just these past few days.
At work a sag is not interacting with a scorp 🥶
No idea whats in the atmosphere.
Hmmmmm.....I would love to blame this in the stars and get back to normal soon.
Stereotypically, a sag and scorp shouldn't be compatible but when I input are exact birth info, our synastry is off the charts! Best partner reading that I have ever received regardless of what site I use. We have something special, I just hope we didn't fuck it up
Does he have Scorpio in his chart? If so, I can see why it works. And do you have Sag in yours?
You seem to worry a lot. But I don't think that's much of an issue, it would probably be cute to him. It just shows that you care.
He has scorpio Mars, Mercury and Rising and a Gemini moon, Sag Venus. He also has a first house stellium so very Aries like.
My only Sag placement is Neptune but I have a Gemini rising and heavy Aries placements.click to expand
Posted by UndineThis!Posted by Deedee75Posted by UndinePosted by Deedee75Posted by Undine
"He said that he didn't like long distance. It's hard for both of us."
He said he didn't like the long distance (between you). Honestly, do you...?
No....I hate every second of it.
Exactly! He was just being honest.
Isn't that the ultimate sacrifice...to carry on doing something you hate, just to be with the one you love? He said he will be carrying on meeting you, didn't he? Maybe he was just trying to pay you a backward compliment.
I hope so.
I'm just going to lay low and see what happens.
Yes, calm yourself down. He may not be an expert in giving reassurance, but nobody's perfect.
It's the man who loves LDR you should be worried aboutclick to expand
Posted by NemDeuxHadn't noticed any tension.
Also on another note .....lot of tension between scorp and sags ....wonder whats up?
Posted by CuddleBug1288
I'm Scorpio dominant btw, in Pullen at least...n Mars. Sag and Aries are tied 2nd not more than a degree or two less...anywho. I feel like you jumped a few Bridges and decided on YOUR OWN how HE feels instead of asking and HEARING what he is saying to you...
Posted by Deedee75Posted by CuddleBug1288
I'm Scorpio dominant btw, in Pullen at least...n Mars. Sag and Aries are tied 2nd not more than a degree or two less...anywho. I feel like you jumped a few Bridges and decided on YOUR OWN how HE feels instead of asking and HEARING what he is saying to you...
Story of my lifeclick to expand
Posted by tiziani
This is the heartbeat ring