What do u guys think?
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by delishhh on Saturday, August 27, 2011 and has 30 replies.
i think she's effin` crazy & so does my man lol (yes i made him watch it 
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i do agree with the nagging part, but the cheating, not so much.
Posted by delishhh
i think she's effin` crazy & so does my man lol (yes i made him watch it
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EXACTLY!
Here's the part I have a HUGE problem with: "If he's flirting with other chicks & F'ing them & out doing whatever he wants, don't be mad at him. It means YOU'RE doing something wrong."
That's the biggest crock of shxt I've ever heard
Yes, nagging is a no-no. BUT settling, being a doormat & having no backbone is an even BIGGER no-no!
That's the biggest crock of shxt I've ever heard
Yes, nagging is a no-no. BUT settling, being a doormat & having no backbone is an even BIGGER no-no!
OMG!!! Thank you! I saw this too. ( Posted on a guys fb page of course)
There was only one part I agred with was BE YOURSELF AND DON"T CHANGE FOR SOMEONE. Oddly enough the rest of it she sound like a cosmo mag saying do whatever a man wants.
There was only one part I agred with was BE YOURSELF AND DON"T CHANGE FOR SOMEONE. Oddly enough the rest of it she sound like a cosmo mag saying do whatever a man wants.
Posted by krysrenee7
Here's the part I have a HUGE problem with: "If he's flirting with other chicks & F'ing them & out doing whatever he wants, don't be mad at him. It means YOU'RE doing something wrong."
That's the biggest crock of shxt I've ever heard
Yes, nagging is a no-no. BUT settling, being a doormat & having no backbone is an even BIGGER no-no!
Totally.
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Posted by Sagittarius89
OMG!!! Thank you! I saw this too. ( Posted on a guys fb page of course)
There was only one part I agred with was BE YOURSELF AND DON"T CHANGE FOR SOMEONE. Oddly enough the rest of it she sound like a cosmo mag saying do whatever a man wants.
I bet she doesn't even have a man
And yes she did sound totally rehearsed
Her tone was almost 1 of anger lol
We should do a PART 2 to her video that says "How to /GETKEEP a man."
And #1 on that list would be: STOP cussing like a sailor! And quit referring to other women as B's if you don't want to be referred as one as well. It's so unladylike =P
It's 1 thing to be concerned for all the ladies who are sabotaging their own happiness when it comes to men BUT
It's another thing to actually act as if other women messing up in their own relationships somehow affects you
If I could talk to her I'd say, "Hey, look on the bright side. The more other women mess up & lose out on men, the more options/men are available, leaving you with more of a selection to pick from!" Tehe
It's another thing to actually act as if other women messing up in their own relationships somehow affects you
If I could talk to her I'd say, "Hey, look on the bright side. The more other women mess up & lose out on men, the more options/men are available, leaving you with more of a selection to pick from!" Tehe
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by Sagittarius89
OMG!!! Thank you! I saw this too. ( Posted on a guys fb page of course)
There was only one part I agred with was BE YOURSELF AND DON"T CHANGE FOR SOMEONE. Oddly enough the rest of it she sound like a cosmo mag saying do whatever a man wants.
I bet she doesn't even have a man
And yes she did sound totally rehearsed
Her tone was almost 1 of anger lol
We should do a PART 2 to her video that says "How to /GETKEEP a man."
And #1 on that list would be: STOP cussing like a sailor! And quit referring to other women as B's if you don't want to be referred as one as well. It's so unladylike =Pclick to expand
Ahahahahahahahhaahha!!!
Posted by krysrenee7
It's 1 thing to be concerned for all the ladies who are sabotaging their own happiness when it comes to men BUT
It's another thing to actually act as if other women messing up in their own relationships somehow affects you
If I could talk to her I'd say, "Hey, look on the bright side. The more other women mess up & lose out on men, the more options/men are available, leaving you with more of a selection to pick from!" Tehe
Right? I like what some guys responses were. They were interesting
be who he met? i like that part.
Posted by delishhh
i think she's effin` crazy & so does my man lol (yes i made him watch it
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Agreed ... if every woman would grow up like this woman, and realize what she already knows at her tender age .. then there would be next to NO relationship problems.
Women need to stfu and listen to this girl ...
thank you for posting this ..... it's necessary, especially in here
omg I tell my friends that all the time!!
My friends act like psychos with their bfs sometimes I swear.
I always tell them...stop trying to control him. Stop worrying about what he's doing. Stop checking his email and phone.
If he's gonna play you out, he's gonna do it regardless if you're checking up on him or not. Let him do what he's gonna do.
Why would you even want to control your man? Think about the psychology behind it...love isn't love if it's forced. Love is only due to choice.
He has two choices...be faithful or not. If he chooses to be faithful that means more than if you forced him to be cause you acted like a straight psycho and kept him so locked down he didn't have the opportunity to.
She's right
My friends act like psychos with their bfs sometimes I swear.
I always tell them...stop trying to control him. Stop worrying about what he's doing. Stop checking his email and phone.
If he's gonna play you out, he's gonna do it regardless if you're checking up on him or not. Let him do what he's gonna do.
Why would you even want to control your man? Think about the psychology behind it...love isn't love if it's forced. Love is only due to choice.
He has two choices...be faithful or not. If he chooses to be faithful that means more than if you forced him to be cause you acted like a straight psycho and kept him so locked down he didn't have the opportunity to.
She's right
Posted by exoskeleton
and of course it's not always the woman's fault for the man being unfaithful.
Yeah, it is, actually.
A man cannot be unfaithful to you (you, meaning a woman) .... to be unfaithful to you indicates that you are still with him. To say he is unfaithful is a description of his fidelity in a current relationship.
A man who has slept with another woman has ended the relationship on the spot, and so therefore is not in a relationship with you any longer, so therefore cannot be unfaithful to you.
If you continue to relate within the same terms of partnership with a man who fucked someone else .. then that is your fault that you are with a man who is unfaithful.
You guys can back up the stupid girl in the video all u want, but at the end of the day, I know my man ain't bringing no damn disease home HAHA!
Posted by Sagittarius89
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I can dig it...he's 100% right.
A man CAN be unfaithful to u when your with him, IF he has kept it a secret and is still with you!
Have u never been in a relationship to grasp that concept? I think not.
And you said a man that has slept with a woman has ended the relationship on the spot? Says who? There are men and women who have continued a relationship with their significant other, without being honest, which also means being unfaithful.
Have u never been in a relationship to grasp that concept? I think not.
And you said a man that has slept with a woman has ended the relationship on the spot? Says who? There are men and women who have continued a relationship with their significant other, without being honest, which also means being unfaithful.
^ was directed towards P-Angel
She has made a lot of valid points to consider....
Sooo all this time I'd tell my boyfriend to leave me alone and go hang out with his friends I was being a good girlfriend
I do agree. My boyfriend isn't my son, I can't be bothered to hold his hand and tell him when he does something wrong. That's his problem to solve. I'm too busy living my life and following my dreams. Should it ever get to a point where I'm always angry at him it's time to send him home.
Plus as someone easily upset by unnecessary criticism, I wouldn't dream of doing that to somebody. Especially someone I genuinely care for, that can really break someone's spirit you know? I don't want to be the cause of his pain. Anyway I prefer to notice what he does right, and shrug off what's annoying.
I do agree. My boyfriend isn't my son, I can't be bothered to hold his hand and tell him when he does something wrong. That's his problem to solve. I'm too busy living my life and following my dreams. Should it ever get to a point where I'm always angry at him it's time to send him home.
Plus as someone easily upset by unnecessary criticism, I wouldn't dream of doing that to somebody. Especially someone I genuinely care for, that can really break someone's spirit you know? I don't want to be the cause of his pain. Anyway I prefer to notice what he does right, and shrug off what's annoying.
She was right on some points & wrong on others.
She was RIGHT in that you can't control others therefore you should never strive to. If he's gonna cheat, he's gonna do it whether you've got him on 24hr. lockdown or not. And yes, a man should be allowed to have a life outside of his girlfriend/wife
She was WRONG in hinting that women are somehow at fault for why men cheat. Some women & their habbits/attitudes "inspire" men to cheat. But actually making him put his slinger in another woman? Nope. It's impossible. If a man is THAT unhappy, he oughta leave the relationship, not cheat & make a woman suffer all b/c he didn't have the balls to leave a relationship that is supposedly oh so bad
She was RIGHT in that you can't control others therefore you should never strive to. If he's gonna cheat, he's gonna do it whether you've got him on 24hr. lockdown or not. And yes, a man should be allowed to have a life outside of his girlfriend/wife
She was WRONG in hinting that women are somehow at fault for why men cheat. Some women & their habbits/attitudes "inspire" men to cheat. But actually making him put his slinger in another woman? Nope. It's impossible. If a man is THAT unhappy, he oughta leave the relationship, not cheat & make a woman suffer all b/c he didn't have the balls to leave a relationship that is supposedly oh so bad
She was right on some points & wrong on others.
She was RIGHT in that you can't control others therefore you should never strive to. If he's gonna cheat, he's gonna do it whether you've got him on 24hr. lockdown or not. And yes, a man should be allowed to have a life outside of his girlfriend/wife
She was WRONG in hinting that women are somehow at fault for why men cheat. Some women & their habbits/attitudes "inspire" men to cheat. But actually making him put his slinger in another woman? Nope. It's impossible. If a man is THAT unhappy, he oughta leave the relationship, not cheat & make a woman suffer all b/c he didn't have the balls to leave a relationship that is supposedly oh so bad
She was RIGHT in that you can't control others therefore you should never strive to. If he's gonna cheat, he's gonna do it whether you've got him on 24hr. lockdown or not. And yes, a man should be allowed to have a life outside of his girlfriend/wife
She was WRONG in hinting that women are somehow at fault for why men cheat. Some women & their habbits/attitudes "inspire" men to cheat. But actually making him put his slinger in another woman? Nope. It's impossible. If a man is THAT unhappy, he oughta leave the relationship, not cheat & make a woman suffer all b/c he didn't have the balls to leave a relationship that is supposedly oh so bad
Nagging does nothing but bring negativity so all it does is make the man think if I am doing everything wrong why the hell are you with me ??...also it brings resentment and he will be less inclined to do anything for you...why should he because you will just nag it wasn't done to your specification anyway
Men get more curious when you don't give a crap about the little things that are suppose to annoy you...but you aren't noticing it *because* you don't have time to mummy him...let him correct it himself...he's not dumb...
Also when you are more aloof and not sweating the small stuff thats when they start missing you...when you have a life and you're out enjoying it and not always in his face if ever...he then wants to spend that much more time with you because he sees you're out having fun and maybe too much fun he starts wanting to join in on his own...the more aloof and independent you are the more attached they become....
This is based on my observations when I was in a long term relationship...
Men get more curious when you don't give a crap about the little things that are suppose to annoy you...but you aren't noticing it *because* you don't have time to mummy him...let him correct it himself...he's not dumb...
Also when you are more aloof and not sweating the small stuff thats when they start missing you...when you have a life and you're out enjoying it and not always in his face if ever...he then wants to spend that much more time with you because he sees you're out having fun and maybe too much fun he starts wanting to join in on his own...the more aloof and independent you are the more attached they become....
This is based on my observations when I was in a long term relationship...
Men won't cheat if they are emotionally attached to you...more then you are...
Some men just aren't that emotionally invested in you so they have no problems seeing other women sexually
Others feel a lack of emotional connection with their woman so look elsewhere to feel that need/desire...
It's not always about sex when they cheat...often it's the lack of feeling wanted/loved/appreciated...they're trying to
fill that emotional void...
Somewhere along the line for cheating to happen something is not connected right...and it is not just the one party...it takes two to connect...
Not saying it's the females fault 100% but something is not connected enough to keep him attached and wanting you...
Some men just aren't that emotionally invested in you so they have no problems seeing other women sexually
Others feel a lack of emotional connection with their woman so look elsewhere to feel that need/desire...
It's not always about sex when they cheat...often it's the lack of feeling wanted/loved/appreciated...they're trying to
fill that emotional void...
Somewhere along the line for cheating to happen something is not connected right...and it is not just the one party...it takes two to connect...
Not saying it's the females fault 100% but something is not connected enough to keep him attached and wanting you...
Posted by piranhaparadiise
Also when you are more aloof and not sweating the small stuff thats when they start missing you...when you have a life and you're out enjoying it and not always in his face if ever...he then wants to spend that much more time with you because he sees you're out having fun and maybe too much fun he starts wanting to join in on his own...the more aloof and independent you are the more attached they become....
That really depends on who you are dating. When I was like this with some people they constantly complained to me that I put them second. Than when I finally put him first they started to treated me like shit. Perhaps I haven't dated enough people with a "gray" area.
Guys that hate accountability will swear that just about anything that comes out of his girl's mouth is "nagging."
There's nothing wrong with a woman seeing something she doesn't like & speaking on it. This is actually something more women should do more often
The problem comes in when a woman either doesn't speak her mind the 1st time she notices something OR when she doesn't do anything about the fact that her man hasn't "fixed" whatever problem she's having
It's kind of like with children, I'm only gonna ask you but so many times before I get the hint that you're not gonna do it. And depending on what's bothering me, if a man won't do it, I refuse to suffer in silence & instead of continually repeating myself will just leave or make myself clear in nonverbal ways =X
There's nothing wrong with a woman seeing something she doesn't like & speaking on it. This is actually something more women should do more often
The problem comes in when a woman either doesn't speak her mind the 1st time she notices something OR when she doesn't do anything about the fact that her man hasn't "fixed" whatever problem she's having
It's kind of like with children, I'm only gonna ask you but so many times before I get the hint that you're not gonna do it. And depending on what's bothering me, if a man won't do it, I refuse to suffer in silence & instead of continually repeating myself will just leave or make myself clear in nonverbal ways =X
Posted by P-Angel
A man cannot be unfaithful to you (you, meaning a woman) .... to be unfaithful to you indicates that you are still with him. To say he is unfaithful is a description of his fidelity in a current relationship.
A man who has slept with another woman has ended the relationship on the spot, and so therefore is not in a relationship with you any longer, so therefore cannot be unfaithful to you.
If you continue to relate within the same terms of partnership with a man who fucked someone else .. then that is your fault that you are with a man who is unfaithful.
Posted by delishhh
And you said a man that has slept with a woman has ended the relationship on the spot? Says who? There are men and women who have continued a relationship with their significant other, without being honest, which also means being unfaithful.
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I won't even respond to your level of stupidity .. if you cannot even grasp a concept, rather than a testimony of actuality.
Posted by exoskeleton
???If you continue to relate within the same terms of partnership with a man who fucked someone else .. then that is your fault that you are with a man who is unfaithful.??
^i get this, but
???A man who has slept with another woman has ended the relationship on the spot, and so therefore is not in a relationship with you any longer, so therefore cannot be unfaithful to you.??
what if he stays with his s/o and she never learns about the other woman, or at least not for a long time? or do you mean he has already ended the relationship in a more bond/spiritual sense without "technicalities"?
but what i meant, which you probably know, is that it's not always the woman's actions that bring on the man's decision to cheat. maybe a woman neglects her man's needs and wants and doesn't put an effort into the relationship so he goes looking for it in someone else. or maybe he just can't help himself around other women even though he's satisfied with his own.
There is no excuse, there is no fault .... the moment she finds out that he slept with another woman, is the moment she has been handed her exit cue. Everything dicussed here by people is referencing that the woman stays with him, so that she can express her misery over being scorned.
fuck that
Posted by delishhh
i think she's effin` crazy & so does my man lol (yes i made him watch it
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i knew she was a slut within the first 5 seconds.
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