Why are relationships like this??
This topic was created in the Relationships forum by Prettymess1990 on Friday, January 5, 2018 and has 12 replies.
I was with someone for 7years. I cooked I cleaned . I was very sexual. I worked had a good job . I did everything I possibly could to make him happy, but he was so messed up to me and nothing was good enough for him he left me.... Well one year later I met someone. But I just lost my job and was goin through horrible financial problems and was going through depression. This man did everything I did for my ex , he cooked cleaned. He helped me financially communicated with me on so many levels and loved me liked I never been loved before... I was just wondering why do guys mistreat women, that do everything for them, and love the ones that don’t bend over backwards for them. I know so many people that have the same situation that’s why I’m curious...
the things you described are not real "relationships", just pepole profiting of the other or trying to make the other their bitch
Posted by queenaries_Nice doesn’t mean doormat!
Because most people treat nice people poorly
I am nice bitch! Try to treat me poorly!
You can do it 2 times! First and last!
People are who they are. Being nice isn’t going to change that.
Read the writing on the wall. Have the self respect and strength to walk away if your needs aren’t being met. 7 years? Shit. You wasted the best years of your life on someone not worthy.
Read the writing on the wall. Have the self respect and strength to walk away if your needs aren’t being met. 7 years? Shit. You wasted the best years of your life on someone not worthy.
Posted by Prettymess1990You loved that first guy too, didn't you?
I was with someone for 7years. I cooked I cleaned . I was very sexual. I worked had a good job . I did everything I possibly could to make him happy, but he was so messed up to me and nothing was good enough for him he left me....
... I was just wondering why do guys mistreat women, that do everything for them, and love the ones that don’t bend over backwards for them. ...
Because this is not a true relationship
I know how you feel
I am the same as you.
I recently just broke up with my ex of 7 months.
I did everything
I cook, I clean, I gave him everything, love, sex and attention but I didn’t get much back. When we parted. It feels like I am the only one feeling like that when he’s just normal.
My friends said if a man loves you, he wouldn’t do anything to hurt you. He’d be there for you all the time. Not just cleaning and cooking and you know what I mean. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Don’t rush into anything. A better one will be there for you when you least expect it.
I know how you feel
I am the same as you.
I recently just broke up with my ex of 7 months.
I did everything
I cook, I clean, I gave him everything, love, sex and attention but I didn’t get much back. When we parted. It feels like I am the only one feeling like that when he’s just normal.
My friends said if a man loves you, he wouldn’t do anything to hurt you. He’d be there for you all the time. Not just cleaning and cooking and you know what I mean. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Don’t rush into anything. A better one will be there for you when you least expect it.
You wanted excitement and sounds like he was dangerously exciting to you, so you did everything for him I please him, you were boring to him too submissive he probably will fall for someone exciting and challenging to him... then you reversed the roles and found someone submissive which in turn bored you. He was your rescuer but that didn’t excite you.
They say opposites attract, personally I feel for just a short amount of time. Like loves like more imo.
They say opposites attract, personally I feel for just a short amount of time. Like loves like more imo.
Expectations. Once you realise that, your happiness should not depend on your partner you will be fine. You share that with your other half.
Posted by tiziani
Maybe you were just more in touch with yourself the second time around. Or maybe the second dude only loves you when you're down. Maybe you're actually onto a good thing. Only you know.
I agree with all these maybes.
also maybe the first boy had a bad role model.
or maybe you copied your own role model until life taught you that you should discriminate to whom you're nice.
Posted by hydorahYou would know wouldn’t you? Lmao
the things you described are not real "relationships", just pepole profiting of the other or trying to make the other their bitch
Posted by Prettymess1990It’s God’s way of putting you trough shit so you appreciate real deal!
I was with someone for 7years. I cooked I cleaned . I was very sexual. I worked had a good job . I did everything I possibly could to make him happy, but he was so messed up to me and nothing was good enough for him he left me.... Well one year later I met someone. But I just lost my job and was goin through horrible financial problems and was going through depression. This man did everything I did for my ex , he cooked cleaned. He helped me financially communicated with me on so many levels and loved me liked I never been loved before... I was just wondering why do guys mistreat women, that do everything for them, and love the ones that don’t bend over backwards for them. I know so many people that have the same situation that’s why I’m curious...
Hope you love that man!
Posted by tizianiIncreasible insight!
Maybe you were just more in touch with yourself the second time around. Or maybe the second dude only loves you when you're down. Maybe you're actually onto a good thing. Only you know.
So when she is all good - you suggesting he will dump her? Wow! That’s an eye opener!
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