Out of the booty call zone (Page 2)

Posted by ZombieCat

Posted by Sag89

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Posted by Sag89

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He will loosen up as soon as he feels like you have truly loosened up.

honestly, hes afraid hes going to get bitched out any day by you. Hes probably been down this road b4 with women. Most sag men have.

This is usually how things go. Man wants sex, gets said sex, woman eventually wants more, talks to man. Man tells her hes not interested in a relationhsip. Woman, aganist her better judgement, says sure not a problem. Man thinks everything is cool till the shit eventually does become a problem because said woman initially lied to herself. Man gets stabbed and or killed. Lol, maybe cursed out.

my sag has been stabbed b4.

Oh lord. I thought women were complicated.
See, I'm crazy. I would stab him. But I have self-control.
And I'm used to this.
I've only ever been a booty call, always wanted more. Like whats the point of sex? Usually it's cause you like the person. You like em? Be with em.
That's how I view things. ugh Seriously I'd just like to be with and talk to adults for once.

Than don't say you're ok with just sleeping with people if it's not what you want.

I can settle. I may not agree with it at first but I get over it.
I'm not gonna throw a fit or anything.
You don't get that feeling that when you meet a (seemingly) perfect guy, you're never going to meet another one again?

No. I don't think anyone is perfect.

I mean that there are only so many people in the world (personally) I can actually get along with AND be attracted to.
It's so hard.
I hate so many people. Finding someone attractive that I don't hate AND that likes me back (at least sexually)?? THAT'S a miracle.

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Well that's your choice.

Posted by ZombieCat
I have a strong feeling that the world is running out of good guys, so if I should find one that is stuck in this generations belief that sex is better than a relationship, then I'll stick around long enough to see if I agree..

< That is the hardest lesson you will ever learn in your whole life. You will see what the answer is.

I don't know.. ask a guy for what you want.. do it.. you've got a right to ask.. and if what you want is different from what he wants..and he can't give what you want.. then end whatever the thing there.. I don't know maybe I'm doing approaching things too mathematical way or too business like lol but being fair to others whilst onto yourself is an important thing and that's finding a good balance..
if a guy doesn't give me what I want yet he wants to take what he wants from me.. then I say no, I'm not giving you what you want for nothing..because that's not fair on myself, not a fair bargain, and I don't do such trade.. I'm not saying that use sex as a weapon or leverage lol.. if what you want is sex and so does he then no problem.. agreement is made and that's all fair.. but if you want something more than sex and voice your want then the guy still just wants to take what he wants but does not give what you need, then he's just being selfish..and you need not to tolerate that selfishness.. that is not fair on you.. and whichever kind of relationship it be..whether a friendship or a romantic one.. unbalanced, unfair relationships do not work out in the end..unless someone is a saint and is okay with just sacrificing all their wants and needs.. giving all their selves yet not getting anything they want in return.. in the end, the giver..the one who's on the unfair side of the stick gets tired of, gets hurt, becomes resentful.. I lay out my cards on the table tell guys what I want and if they say 'yea, that I understand - you want this and that.. but I don't think I'm ready for this and that..? :s' then I say 'ok, thank you for your answer and as now you have given me your answer, I have made up my decision - we want different things from each other and I think we should go separate ways' .. because there are other guys out there who can and are willing to give me what I want & still can have good sex or can be sexually attracted.. there are so many other guys who can do better than that.. do a fair trade

(again I'm not bashing on fwb..if that's what two adults want and consensual, then it's all fine and great.. but if that is not what one truly wants, but just hangs onto it, then it's not being fair to oneself and that doesn't usually end up nicely is what I'm trying to say.. be nice and fair to thyself, to others and also don't let others treat you unfair..)