When Guys

Posted by PVAF
When guys give you their number it's an indication that...he's too fucking lazy to pursue...and a precursor to how the relationship will go. His number is going in the trash.

Posted by TheProphetProdigy
lol ya really think like that when a guy gives you his number? what if he didn't have his phone on him.

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Posted by TheProphetProdigy
lol ya really think like that when a guy gives you his number? what if he didn't have his phone on him.

LOL I've seen guys scratch a girl's # on their ashy legs, so not having a phone with you is so excuse. Scratch it on that ashy leg if you're really serious. Giving out your # to a girl is so tacky & screams CHEAP.

lol what if we both exchange numbers?

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Posted by TheProphetProdigy
lol ya really think like that when a guy gives you his number? what if he didn't have his phone on him.

LOL I've seen guys scratch a girl's # on their ashy legs, so not having a phone with you is so excuse. Scratch it on that ashy leg if you're really serious. Giving out your # to a girl is so tacky & screams CHEAP.

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lol ya really think like that when a guy gives you his number? what if he didn't have his phone on him.

LOL I've seen guys scratch a girl's # on their ashy legs, so not having a phone with you is so excuse. Scratch it on that ashy leg if you're really serious. Giving out your # to a girl is so tacky & screams CHEAP.

lol what if we both exchange numbers?

Then YOU call 1st, because I wont be wasting my money on someone I dont know/dont have feelings for yet.

Money? Feelings? I had females pursue me for my number and I never thought they were desperate or out for my money. It's just an exchange of numbers it doesn't matter who pursued who to get it.

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Posted by Sag89


I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

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I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

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some men and women do this for sport. they actually have partners but collect numbers and stories to share at the end of the night with each other.
pretty fuckin lame

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Posted by Sag89


I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

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some men and women do this for sport. they actually have partners but collect numbers and stories to share at the end of the night with each other.
pretty fuckin lame

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Posted by DMV
funny, the virgo men have flocked to this thread.....

Wonder why?...

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Posted by Sag89


I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

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some men and women do this for sport. they actually have partners but collect numbers and stories to share at the end of the night with each other.
pretty fuckin lame

+1 on lame. My leo friend gives out her # all the time, even to guys she doesn't even like. I don't get it. She'll be giving her phone to people to take the calls & instruct them to tell the caller that she is not around. Or she'll roll her eyes, sigh & then take the call. I ask her all the time, why give them your # in the 1st place if you're not interested. I think she likes the idea of having "stalkers". At least that's what she calls them when they dont stop calling due to how indirect she handles their calls.

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Posted by Sag89


I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

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some men and women do this for sport. they actually have partners but collect numbers and stories to share at the end of the night with each other.
pretty fuckin lame

+1 on lame. My leo friend gives out her # all the time, even to guys she doesn't even like. I don't get it. She'll be giving her phone to people to take the calls & instruct them to tell the caller that she is not around. Or she'll roll her eyes, sigh & then take the call. I ask her all the time, why give them your # in the 1st place if you're not interested. I think she likes the idea of having "stalkers". At least that's what she calls them when they dont stop calling due to how indirect she handles their calls.

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funny, the virgo men have flocked to this thread.....

Wonder why?...

initially i thought, virgos have a fear of rejection, so taking a number is far better than facing a big ol no.
my virg gal friend seems to do much better when people jump first with their intent. then she follows suit.

True, but to me its first come first serve, If I'm uncertain about the woman then I will stop my pursuit but if I'm comfortable I'll continue. Maybe I am nervous but does that make me lazy or money hungry I don't think so. A female should be in aww if a man is intimidated by her beauty.

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Posted by miamivirgo
Or he likes you but he is unsure if you feel the same. So he is saying 'I like you but I am not sure if you feel the same. So instead of you giving me a fake number, as so many women have done in the past, I will ask you to call me if you think you'd like to go further than this chance encounter.'
Ladies that double edged sword you swing cuts both sides of the first time meeting. Guys get so many fake numbers that they just say "here you call me."
But since you think he is lazy and not worth your time then which is better he giving you a number you will never call or you giving him a fake number he calls and its a wrong number?

The fake number for 1000 Alex. Either way you were never gonna hear from her again. At least now you aren't wishing and hoping for no reason. At least you took the initiative.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

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Posted by Sag89


I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

.

some men and women do this for sport. they actually have partners but collect numbers and stories to share at the end of the night with each other.
pretty fuckin lame

+1 on lame. My leo friend gives out her # all the time, even to guys she doesn't even like. I don't get it. She'll be giving her phone to people to take the calls & instruct them to tell the caller that she is not around. Or she'll roll her eyes, sigh & then take the call. I ask her all the time, why give them your # in the 1st place if you're not interested. I think she likes the idea of having "stalkers". At least that's what she calls them when they dont stop calling due to how indirect she handles their calls.

I think people like that are attention whores.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

nobody wants a beta. lol

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Posted by Sag89


I have had guys ask for my number and never call either though.

.

some men and women do this for sport. they actually have partners but collect numbers and stories to share at the end of the night with each other.
pretty fuckin lame

+1 on lame. My leo friend gives out her # all the time, even to guys she doesn't even like. I don't get it. She'll be giving her phone to people to take the calls & instruct them to tell the caller that she is not around. Or she'll roll her eyes, sigh & then take the call. I ask her all the time, why give them your # in the 1st place if you're not interested. I think she likes the idea of having "stalkers". At least that's what she calls them when they dont stop calling due to how indirect she handles their calls.

I think people like that are attention whores.

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Posted by Scenic
I prefer to have the ball in my court and have a guy give me his number. Chances are I'm not interested so it's a great way to avoid numerous texts or calls from people I don't want to hear from.
I also like having the option of being the initiator in contact. It's easier for me to gauge how the conversation is going if I'm not playing by someone else's rules.
A guy contacts me first. He could be playing me for sex or actually is interested. I don't know which. I contact a guy first. He responds. Is he interested in sex or something else? If I let my intentions be known first then there's less of a chance of sex being the case since he's following up with what I'm saying and not the other way around. This wouldn't be a big issue for me either way since I would trust my judgment of people but it's an example used since a lot of women seem to worry about getting played.
Just my personal preference.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

nobody wants a beta. lol

I like betas. : ) not everyone wants an alpha

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Posted by Scenic
I prefer to have the ball in my court and have a guy give me his number. Chances are I'm not interested so it's a great way to avoid numerous texts or calls from people I don't want to hear from.
I also like having the option of being the initiator in contact. It's easier for me to gauge how the conversation is going if I'm not playing by someone else's rules.
A guy contacts me first. He could be playing me for sex or actually is interested. I don't know which. I contact a guy first. He responds. Is he interested in sex or something else? If I let my intentions be known first then there's less of a chance of sex being the case since he's following up with what I'm saying and not the other way around. This wouldn't be a big issue for me either way since I would trust my judgment of people but it's an example used since a lot of women seem to worry about getting played.
Just my personal preference.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

i have asked out men, enough to count on 2 hands. Been told no, been told yes, been ignored.
However, in the long run, the ones who i did ask and they said yes, its always like he doesnt have to work as hard to prove himself to me. I mean, he already knows im into him. he doesnt have to work any harder to wisp me off my feet. Im a GO. he just becomes lazy and he expects to be the one whose won over.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

i have asked out men, enough to count on 2 hands. Been told no, been told yes, been ignored.
However, in the long run, the ones who i did ask and they said yes, its always like he doesnt have to work as hard to prove himself to me. I mean, he already knows im into him. he doesnt have to work any harder to wisp me off my feet. Im a GO. he just becomes lazy and he expects to be the one whose won over.

Now see this is a true answer. I don't know who these guys are but they have to work just as hard as before. There are no passes in the dating department. They are apparantly young and dumb. Because once again time is the great equalizer.
This is truest answer as to why women don't ask guys out and this is a very plausible answer. Again time is not your friend. The more games you play the more you get played.
True love is hard. And even harder to find. So I will accept this as a reason women don't ask men out.
But I will tell you at some point maturity kicks in and all this goes away. Just don't wait for that day cause if you do you might have missed out on some really great people.

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

nobody wants a beta. lol

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Posted by miamivirgo
Hey you all know your probably not gonna meet the love of your life in a bar right?
Cause if you don't know this by now then what is the point of this discussion?
Because bars are really bad places to meet your boyfriends or girlfriends. Giving anyone your number at a bar is really a bad idea.
You should ask them if they are doing anything at another place and meet them there and then start to see if you two have chemistry.
Sober and in full light of day children. That is ofcourse if you think night, tipsy and in low lighting is better.

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Hey you all know your probably not gonna meet the love of your life in a bar right?
Cause if you don't know this by now then what is the point of this discussion?
Because bars are really bad places to meet your boyfriends or girlfriends. Giving anyone your number at a bar is really a bad idea.
You should ask them if they are doing anything at another place and meet them there and then start to see if you two have chemistry.
Sober and in full light of day children. That is ofcourse if you think night, tipsy and in low lighting is better.

there are exceptions to every rule
In my years in the jungle, I dont think one place trumps another. church, gas stations, home depot, work, bar, club, amusement park, plane, dentist.
shits all da same.

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So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

i have asked out men, enough to count on 2 hands. Been told no, been told yes, been ignored.
However, in the long run, the ones who i did ask and they said yes, its always like he doesnt have to work as hard to prove himself to me. I mean, he already knows im into him. he doesnt have to work any harder to wisp me off my feet. Im a GO. he just becomes lazy and he expects to be the one whose won over.

So how do you think he feels?

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Damn, Pvaf just deleted, lololol.
D.I.P.

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So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

nobody wants a beta. lol

Exactly.
One of my aunts beats up her long-time boyfriend. I often wonder how she even sleeps with him at night. I mean, I wouldn't be able to do it. Once I lose respect for a man, I lose everything including my sex drive. I wouldn't let a weak man like that even touch me. You yell, he winces. How do you even get turned on by someone like that?
She is a sadge btw lol.

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So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

Bullshit.
Secondly, I personally have no problem asking a woman for her number because as a youngin I slept with rejection, so as a man, It doesn't bother me. Plus, all that ass, face,and personality, has got to be mine because obviously closed mouth's don't get fed since most women don't initiate contact. On the flipside, men and women can only see physical appearance and personality when they first see someone that jumps their bone, but not if this person is relationship quality for your preference.
Thirdly, you're basically saying that if a man waits on a woman to ask him for his number, he's a man bitch? So if he didn't, and he asks you first, he can't be bitch? How many men have asked you for your number and in the end, he ended up being a bitch/fake? Be honest. This goes back to my second statement because you can only see what is shown..

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Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
So lemme ask yall womens a question. Are yall scared of rejection??? I've always thought thats why most women never ask a man for his number.

men can be cruel sometimes. When things go wrong in a relationship, most like to remind you that you were the one that chased them. Women don't do that. And besides, traditionally, it is a man's job to lead...take initiative. Nobody wants some feminine dude that waits on you to make all the moves. That's so unattractive to me. Speak up or forever hold your piece, Mich

nobody wants a beta. lol

Exactly.
One of my aunts beats up her long-time boyfriend. I often wonder how she even sleeps with him at night. I mean, I wouldn't be able to do it. Once I lose respect for a man, I lose everything including my sex drive. I wouldn't let a weak man like that even touch me. You yell, he winces. How do you even get turned on by someone like that?
She is a sadge btw lol.

What's his sign?

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
No offense but I get a chuckle out of the premise that a guy is being lazy. Hell, what do you define as "pursuit?" Isn't it obvious that he's pursuing you when he offers his number? I mean, isn't it lazy to then say he had to ask for yours. Him giving you his number says nothing and boils down to simple over analysis. It doesn't say anaything really. There are plenty of players, assholes, etc that ask for your number. Simply put, it says nothing...expectations say everything. The same stsndard can be applied. If he's lazy etc then it can be said that you are. Sadly, it stuff like this that keeps men and women from having a good relationship or even starting one.
What if the two people involved had a really great conversation beforehand? So you discount him because he gave you his number? Honestly, who gives their or asks for a number shouldn't matter or even be a big deal. Its a freakin number exchange not marriage! Smh

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
No offense but I get a chuckle out of the premise that a guy is being lazy. Hell, what do you define as "pursuit?" Isn't it obvious that he's pursuing you when he offers his number? I mean, isn't it lazy to then say he had to ask for yours. Him giving you his number says nothing and boils down to simple over analysis. It doesn't say anaything really. There are plenty of players, assholes, etc that ask for your number. Simply put, it says nothing...expectations say everything. The same stsndard can be applied. If he's lazy etc then it can be said that you are. Sadly, it stuff like this that keeps men and women from having a good relationship or even starting one.
What if the two people involved had a really great conversation beforehand? So you discount him because he gave you his number? Honestly, who gives their or asks for a number shouldn't matter or even be a big deal. Its a freakin number exchange not marriage! Smh

Yea, it was different but I didn't want to automatically assume anything. Shit, he may of just wanted to chill and nothing more. We played pool the whole night and hung out w our buddies.
You never really know peoples intentions till you make the text or call I think.
Sort of stuck-up to assume people are automatically into you. I will either ask or make a move to see whats up.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
No offense but I get a chuckle out of the premise that a guy is being lazy. Hell, what do you define as "pursuit?" Isn't it obvious that he's pursuing you when he offers his number? I mean, isn't it lazy to then say he had to ask for yours. Him giving you his number says nothing and boils down to simple over analysis. It doesn't say anaything really. There are plenty of players, assholes, etc that ask for your number. Simply put, it says nothing...expectations say everything. The same stsndard can be applied. If he's lazy etc then it can be said that you are. Sadly, it stuff like this that keeps men and women from having a good relationship or even starting one.
What if the two people involved had a really great conversation beforehand? So you discount him because he gave you his number? Honestly, who gives their or asks for a number shouldn't matter or even be a big deal. Its a freakin number exchange not marriage! Smh

Yea, it was different but I didn't want to automatically assume anything. Shit, he may of just wanted to chill and nothing more. We played pool the whole night and hung out w our buddies.
You never really know peoples intentions till you make the text or call I think.
Sort of stuck-up to assume people are automatically into you. I will either ask or make a move to see whats up.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
No offense but I get a chuckle out of the premise that a guy is being lazy. Hell, what do you define as "pursuit?" Isn't it obvious that he's pursuing you when he offers his number? I mean, isn't it lazy to then say he had to ask for yours. Him giving you his number says nothing and boils down to simple over analysis. It doesn't say anaything really. There are plenty of players, assholes, etc that ask for your number. Simply put, it says nothing...expectations say everything. The same stsndard can be applied. If he's lazy etc then it can be said that you are. Sadly, it stuff like this that keeps men and women from having a good relationship or even starting one.
What if the two people involved had a really great conversation beforehand? So you discount him because he gave you his number? Honestly, who gives their or asks for a number shouldn't matter or even be a big deal. Its a freakin number exchange not marriage! Smh

Yea, it was different but I didn't want to automatically assume anything. Shit, he may of just wanted to chill and nothing more. We played pool the whole night and hung out w our buddies.
You never really know peoples intentions till you make the text or call I think.
Sort of stuck-up to assume people are automatically into you. I will either ask or make a move to see whats up.

IMO, it's not being stuckup, it's paying attention. You mean you can't tell when a guy is interested? See, that's why I like aggressive guys because there's no wondering why they asked for your #. You know exactly why from day 1.
From where I'm from, guys are pretty upfront so it always boggles my mind when women wonder why a guy asked for their #. Why else would he ask? It's ALWAYS about a relationship whether it's apparent in the beginning or not. At least that has been MY experience so far. If he is not working for the govt, the bank or any place that may require that he gets your contact details, then there could be only one reason why.

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