Calling all Scorpio females, a Gemini needs some advice please!

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by noego on Friday, December 16, 2016 and has 18 replies.
I have a question for all you scorpio females. I met a Scorpio girl 6 months ago, we made a connection, but she was in a 5 year long relationship (a failing one). I played it cool, kept distance, and was respectful of that. Months latter she breaks up with the guy she was with. This weekend she was trying to find me at a race, which I wasn't at. Later that night we ended up meeting up with some mutual friends, after they left we spend a day together and shared some very intimate moments. She was incredibly nurturing and came accross loving. When I dropped her off though she kinda pulled away from a kiss, but said "don't be a stranger". I tried calling her a few days latter and left a message, she hasn't gotten back to me. I am not a needy guy. I really did enjoy her affection for that day, and she has qualities I really look for in a woman. We had incredibly deep intellectual conversations for hours, along with being intimate. She did say she is only intimate with one person at a time, that being me. I would like to see her again. Maybe things could blossom into something stable. I did try to call her a few days latter and leave a vm. No response. What would be your advice to a newbie with a Scorpio woman (No experience dating one), anything to keep the attraction and show her trust?? Through our talks that was a big thing for her. Thank you in advance for your help.
Well, try not to overwhelm her. She may be processing the night you spent together and playing it cool.

Give it a few days and don't message her again. See what she does. When she pokes up again, welcome her openly and ask her out. Take it from there. I know this may sound weird, but don't raise the issue of her silence just yet. Just enjoy your time together. If it becomes a pattern at some point you can gently raise it.

I will say you're going to need patience with a Scorp that appears to have some ties with someone else. Not necessarily still interested in being with that person, but I'm not sure why things ended. Do you? She's going to take things slow as that relationship (given the length of time) will have made an impression on how she should move forward with another person. Expect some back and forth, which is more about her checking in with her emotions.

I've dated a few Gem babies, and the only one that truly got me and captured my heart was the one that was extremely patient with me. I am very moody. I'd have moments when I would back up and put distance between us either becasue I was unsure about him or myself and he never held my moods against me.

He respected my desire to be silent and could still "be" with me, always had the ability to make me forget about whatever was troubling me with his wit and charm---but didn't try too hard. He wouldn't let me get away with anything if I crossed the line, but he was gentle. He knew when to ask about and drop a subject. Unlike most Gems he didn't feel the need to fill the room with excessive chatter (he had a Bull Merc) and we develop a great friendship. He was my best friend. I will always respect and have love for the energy he brought into my life.

Anyway, be patient. Try not to personalize her moods and silence.
Well ladies thank you so much for your sound advice. I really appreciate it. I will let go of any expectations and give her some space. If she doesn't contact me though do I chase a bit? Maybe a text after a few days just to show I do care? I want her to know I am not a flighty Gem (moon is in Taurus, virgo rising). Thanks!
Posted by noego
I have a question for all you scorpio females. I met a Scorpio girl 6 months ago, we made a connection, but she was in a 5 year long relationship (a failing one). I played it cool, kept distance, and was respectful of that. Months latter she breaks up with the guy she was with. This weekend she was trying to find me at a race, which I wasn't at. Later that night we ended up meeting up with some mutual friends, after they left we spend a day together and shared some very intimate moments. She was incredibly nurturing and came accross loving. When I dropped her off though she kinda pulled away from a kiss, but said "don't be a stranger". I tried calling her a few days latter and left a message, she hasn't gotten back to me. I am not a needy guy. I really did enjoy her affection for that day, and she has qualities I really look for in a woman. We had incredibly deep intellectual conversations for hours, along with being intimate. She did say she is only intimate with one person at a time, that being me. I would like to see her again. Maybe things could blossom into something stable. I did try to call her a few days latter and leave a vm. No response. What would be your advice to a newbie with a Scorpio woman (No experience dating one), anything to keep the attraction and show her trust?? Through our talks that was a big thing for her. Thank you in advance for your help.
I think about water and air =Equals cyclone flurry..

And you must keep the spark and even balance to work. Work on the communication.

How do I work on communication if she is not responding to me?
Go with the flow and let things flow naturally.
Usually words and actions must match, consistency, honesty, and a good friend to start out with.
Posted by noego
Well ladies thank you so much for your sound advice. I really appreciate it. I will let go of any expectations and give her some space. If she doesn't contact me though do I chase a bit? Maybe a text after a few days just to show I do care? I want her to know I am not a flighty Gem (moon is in Taurus, virgo rising). Thanks!


Never chase. Engage.

It may be a water vs air things, but texting =/= caring. It means you sent a text. Nothing more. At least to me.

If you send a follow up text, wait a few days and keep it simple. "Just checking in to see how you're doing. I hope you're okay". See what she does with that.

Thank you everyone, I will give that a try. I will wait for her to message me back, if not I will send her a text next week, saying I was thinking about her and I will leave it at that. Now I am going to get my mind off of it, and go live life! Thanks!
Posted by noego
Thank you everyone, I will give that a try. I will wait for her to message me back, if not I will send her a text next week, saying I was thinking about her and I will leave it at that. Now I am going to get my mind off of it, and go live life! Thanks!


Lol. Such a Gem thing to say.

What makes you think a Gemini is going to work with a Scorpio? air and water doesn't mix no matter how hard you try. They say Cancer and Scorpio is a good pairing and even that is hit or miss, if a Cancer has trouble handling a Scorp a Gemini has no hope in hell.

Trust me Scorpio women are tough to handle they are like owning a high maintenance car they are very tempermental things can go wrong in a blink of an eye.

Communication is big with Scorpios you have to listen as well, Scorps think people are mind readers which they are not. Cancers understand Scorpios, I've been around lots of Gemini men they just don't have the understanding skills you guys can be pretty oblivious at times.

I would walk away from this relationship its not for you, you are playing with fire and will eventually get burned.
I own a high maintenance car..lol and I love it, you just have to be understanding and on top of issues that could arrive. I am huge on communication, and have learned to become a better listener. I have spent years now going out, dating, and reading a book a week to understand relationships and women better.

Thinking back about 6 years ago I was in a relationship with a scorpio and it wasn't that bad....other than the drinking problem Sad there was definitely a dark side to her, and the drinking brought that out.

Also knowing a Zodiac sign is half the battle, its also more important to know how someone was raised. That molds their personality just as much as their sign.

Temperamental things can go wrong? What women do you know that is not! Hahaha.. Sounds like I wont be bored which is important. I am hungry for knowledge. Always trying to better myself. Maybe this would be a good test. Anyways I need to try this for myself, but at this point she is going to have to be ready and show some effort for me to invest.
Of course she is not ready for a relationship, she just got out of a 5 year one..lol. I have been taking it easy. She just contacted me today, I invited her out for a drink with me and my friends at a club I dj at. Yes, she definitely needs some time. Also I am not a priority right now, and why would I be... as she has a lot of things to get figured out in her own life. We do have a connection though, we will see where it goes. I will find out her chart next time I see her. Thanks!
No don't summon those beast
Posted by PhoenixRising
Well, try not to overwhelm her. She may be processing the night you spent together and playing it cool.

Give it a few days and don't message her again. See what she does. When she pokes up again, welcome her openly and ask her out. Take it from there. I know this may sound weird, but don't raise the issue of her silence just yet. Just enjoy your time together. If it becomes a pattern at some point you can gently raise it.

I will say you're going to need patience with a Scorp that appears to have some ties with someone else. Not necessarily still interested in being with that person, but I'm not sure why things ended. Do you? She's going to take things slow as that relationship (given the length of time) will have made an impression on how she should move forward with another person. Expect some back and forth, which is more about her checking in with her emotions.

I've dated a few Gem babies, and the only one that truly got me and captured my heart was the one that was extremely patient with me. I am very moody. I'd have moments when I would back up and put distance between us either becasue I was unsure about him or myself and he never held my moods against me.

He respected my desire to be silent and could still "be" with me, always had the ability to make me forget about whatever was troubling me with his wit and charm---but didn't try too hard. He wouldn't let me get away with anything if I crossed the line, but he was gentle. He knew when to ask about and drop a subject. Unlike most Gems he didn't feel the need to fill the room with excessive chatter (he had a Bull Merc) and we develop a great friendship. He was my best friend. I will always respect and have love for the energy he brought into my life.

Anyway, be patient. Try not to personalize her moods and silence.
What happened between you two. You and the Gemini.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Posted by noego
I have a question for all you scorpio females. I met a Scorpio girl 6 months ago, we made a connection, but she was in a 5 year long relationship (a failing one). I played it cool, kept distance, and was respectful of that. Months latter she breaks up with the guy she was with. This weekend she was trying to find me at a race, which I wasn't at. Later that night we ended up meeting up with some mutual friends, after they left we spend a day together and shared some very intimate moments. She was incredibly nurturing and came accross loving. When I dropped her off though she kinda pulled away from a kiss, but said "don't be a stranger". I tried calling her a few days latter and left a message, she hasn't gotten back to me. I am not a needy guy. I really did enjoy her affection for that day, and she has qualities I really look for in a woman. We had incredibly deep intellectual conversations for hours, along with being intimate. She did say she is only intimate with one person at a time, that being me. I would like to see her again. Maybe things could blossom into something stable. I did try to call her a few days latter and leave a vm. No response. What would be your advice to a newbie with a Scorpio woman (No experience dating one), anything to keep the attraction and show her trust?? Through our talks that was a big thing for her. Thank you in advance for your help.
I think about water and air =Equals cyclone flurry..

And you must keep the spark and even balance to work. Work on the communication.


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Earth and water = mud.

Posted by Stihl46
What makes you think a Gemini is going to work with a Scorpio? air and water doesn't mix no matter how hard you try. They say Cancer and Scorpio is a good pairing and even that is hit or miss, if a Cancer has trouble handling a Scorp a Gemini has no hope in hell.

Trust me Scorpio women are tough to handle they are like owning a high maintenance car they are very tempermental things can go wrong in a blink of an eye.

Communication is big with Scorpios you have to listen as well, Scorps think people are mind readers which they are not. Cancers understand Scorpios, I've been around lots of Gemini men they just don't have the understanding skills you guys can be pretty oblivious at times.

I would walk away from this relationship its not for you, you are playing with fire and will eventually get burned.




Actually I know a triple cancer with Venus in Gemini who is madly in love with a Leo with a Venus Libra. The Scorpio has been in love with the Cancer for years but for "love" she prefers fire and air. She and the Leo been together for 22 years. So in love Venus/Mars is twice as important as sun signs.

I have two Gemini exes, I will NOT go there again. Ugh.